'She told me that all our children were mine'

By CANDIECE KNIGHT

Monday, November 26, 2018

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SOMETIMES we enter relationships with some devious people, so blinded by love or lust that we don't see the things that they are capable of. And in the end, they turn around and commit evil acts, that have us calling down judgement on them.

What's the worst thing an ex has ever done to you? Some readers share below.

C T, accountant:

We were high school sweethearts, and then the summer after the first year of UWI he went on the work and travel programme in Florida while I went on vacation in New York and Alaska. I borrowed nearly US$1,000 from my relatives to help pay for his programme fees to go abroad. Long story short, he came back with a hickey on his neck and a brand new girlfriend. He texted me, “I'm sorry” everyday, until one day the new girl attacked him for keeping in contact with me. I still haven't got back my money.

JR, researcher:

My ex paid for my damaged passport and bought me a plane ticket to visit him in the States. When I arrived he bought me a new phone. We spent three or so weeks together, then all of a sudden he went MIA. Three days later he called pretending he was crying and uttered the words, “I'm sorry I can't do this because you are perfect.” Weeks passed and I found out that he had actually gone back to his ex of seven years but wasn't man enough to tell me.

RP, businessman:

She told me that all our children were mine, even though my friends and family tried to convince me otherwise. But I'm a humble man and I had been with her from she was in high school — I paid for her schooling and everything, and when she came of age we got married. We're both very dark-skinned and the first child was very light. She told me that that came from her dad's side of the family. The second child was even lighter, and looked Asian, and she told me that her family was mixed. By the third child I was the laughingstock of my family and community. That child was light-skinned too, with not a trace of my DNA. One day I asked her to tell me the truth, and she confessed that she had been intimate with one of the Spanish guys who worked for me. Though I ended things with her I still take care of the children, because I'm the father they know, and I believe that I'm a decent person.

SF, customer care representative:

My ex-girlfriend was dating me and one of my closest friends at the same time. I really loved her and I was very hurt when I found out, but apparently she didn't take either of us seriously.

PL, store supervisor:

He told me he was going abroad for six months to work so he could provide for the baby I was pregnant with at the time. And while he did find work, he also found a white girl, impregnated her, and then returned home like nothing happened. He then stayed with me for another couple months, then one night confessed everything, and said he was leaving me for her because they were more compatible. That was seven years ago, and they are now married, and he has never returned to see his son, send support, or keep in contact with him.

JJ, student:

It was a few days before my birthday, and my boyfriend at the time invited me over to his house. We were there making out passionately, when someone opened the door and quickly closed it back. I thought maybe it was one of his sisters or someone who lived there. He said we should continue, but I kept hearing the voice calling his name softly outside. I got disinterested and told him to go answer the door. When he finally did, there was a girl there. She asked me if he was my man. I stupidly said “yes” then she asked him if I was his woman. He laughed. Eventually he left me because all that time she was the wife and I was the side chick.

NB, customer care representative:

An ex of mine forced me to have sex with him, and I found it in myself to forgive him and continue the relationship. Then he cheated on me, and when I broke it off he came over to my place like 5:30 in the morning saying we would never break up. We had a physical fight that morning, and he continues to stalk me to this day. He has cost me my peace of mind and ruined my trust in men.

NC, entertainer:

He was my very first boyfriend, and we dated while in college. Then one day he announced that he was done with me because he had been corresponding with his ex-girlfriend's best friend who lived in England, and he planned to marry her, because, and this was his direct quote, she “had bigger breasts” than I did. We broke up and he migrated, got married and had a child. A few years later I was also married, and he found and messaged me on Facebook, saying he had made a mistake and commenting on how good I looked, and asking weird questions about my husband. I promptly unfriended him and blocked him from messaging me.

DJ, mason:

The wickedest thing a girl ever did to me was let me work on her house for free, knowing well that she didn't want me. My boss and I were building a fence for her neighbour and she used to always come by in the day to talk. I should have known from then that she didn't have any ambition. Eventually we ended up together and I was so in love with her that I added a bathroom and an extra room to the house where she lived with her mother and little brother. Eventually she got pregnant, and I was excited. But story came to bump when the baby was born and she said it wasn't mine. It was for a businessman in the area.

JE, counsellor:

I was with this guy who grew up in the ghetto; however, he went to a prestigious high school in Kingston where he got the opportunity to affiliate with students who had parents with money. He became best friends with one student whose parents were lawyers by occupation and lived in an upper-class St Andrew home. After spending time with them he broke up with me. He told me that I needed to speak standard English, take better care of my teeth, and get higher grades in school and he could not see himself with someone who was not going anywhere in life.

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