LAST Monday's revelation that a number of married Christian women have admitted that they have been using sensual dance videos in an effort to improve intimacy with their husbands, even as their church deems the secular art form unholy, is receiving much applause from Christian men.
The men interviewed by All Woman revealed that a little adventure and seduction doesn't hurt.
The women, who worship at an evangelical church in Kingston, spoke with the Jamaica Observer after Florida board-certified sex therapist Wayne Powell said that he had seen Christian women who expressed a desire to step up their game in the bedroom and gain a more flexible waistline.
“This desire suggests they realise that a more flexible waistline would enhance the bedroom experience,” Powell said.
The women said that to ensure that their husbands kept eyes for them only, they sought out dance videos that demonstrated sensual moves. Powell said that he had even shared with the women a few YouTube instruction videos.
It's a practice endorsed by other professionals like Reverend Carla Dunbar, sex therapist, marriage and family counsellor and author of the book Sexcription, who said up to the last weekend in October during her annual all-inclusive Sweet Escape Weekend Getaway, she engaged the services of a sensual dance coach to teach couples the techniques needed to tease and please each other.
“This type of dance may be considered sexual in nature, but as long as both husbands and wives consent to the learning activity there is no harm done, and we do trust God in all things including our sex lives which he gave us,” she said.
And for the husbands, it would be a welcome reprieve from the mundane, routine experiences they've grown accustomed to.
I wish you would show your story to my wife. Oh, what I would give for my own Private Dancer or Darling Nikki, but every time I play these songs, my wife clutches her pearls and enters a period of fasting and praying for my soul.
It's interesting. Some men like lingerie; some men, like me, love bingo parties, while others like dancing. So I guess those husbands are trying to pass the time with as much versatility as possible.
I wish my wife would do that. A little adventure and suspense doesn't hurt.
The aim is for both of us to be pleased, and if she wants to 'wine' for me, I am not going to stop her and tell her she is being ungodly or to let us pray. If that's the case, we will pray after the act.
By all means. If she even wants to flick (cartwheel) across the bedroom, she is free.
Sex is about pleasure and it is also a sacred thing reserved for husband and wife. In all of that I don't see why optimum pleasure should not be [enjoyed by] Christians. If it takes her 'wining' for us to both achieve pleasure, then wine wife wine.
Necessity is the mother of invention. If she sees the need to spice up our love life and thinks 'wining' will do the job, then bring it on.
But there comes a warning from associate therapist at Family Life Ministries, Stacy-Ann Smith, regarding the inclusion of dancehall music.
“Apart from the dances, what are you also getting from watching the videos? You are feeding yourself with the songs too, and you have to be careful with this,” she said.
Smith further stated that the Bible says we should fix our minds on what is wholesome, pure, lovely and of good report, and as such, the songs which accompany those dances are not glorifying sex in a godly way.
“They are more about self, and nothing in Christianity is about self; even sex is something we should honour God in doing,” she explained.