AS the curtain closes on 2018 and we prepare for the approaching year, many of us find ourselves reflecting on the events of the past year as we try to measure the good against our poor choices in various departments of our lives — love included.
What mistakes did you make this year? Below readers share some of the stupid mistakes they made in the name of love.
Marshall, 33, security personnel:
I revealed my true feelings too quickly. I don't know if that scared her or gave her a window to abuse my love, but in the future I need to learn to give as much as I get and take things easy.
Sherona, 23, teacher:
I settled. I put him first, always. I always took the blame for everything that would go wrong in our relationship. I was weak, but thank God for my mother — she helped me to recognise and recover from those mistakes.
Michelle, 49, health aid nurse:
My mistake was definitely stereotyping and being 'judgy' and too quick to assume. When you have been hurt more times than your heart can handle, sometimes you find that you build a wall and a big defence. That was me and I almost scared the man away who has shown me more love than I have experienced my entire life. I barely gave him a chance to prove himself because I didn't want to go down the wrong road again. I grouped him up with every other man that did me wrong and was always quick to assume the worst. We talked about it and instead of walking out on me he is helping me to heal.
Troyanne, 26, accountant:
I knowingly wasted my time in a relationship that I knew was not going anywhere, and tolerating a man that was dismissive and did not value me even though I brought more to the table.
Yanique, 38, systems administrator:
I made the conscious decision to overlook major red flags like the white lies, only for them to become bigger. Then there was his uncontrollable jealousy and very early following our commitment, that time when he squeezed by hand. I married the devil, but I'll soon be completely free.
Shane, 32, plant technician:
I 'dissed' my good woman of six years for a fly tail girl and I got caught cheating. It's like everything can't stop playing in my head and I'm sick to my stomach because of how I behaved with her.
Tricia, 42, field technician:
I call it my mistake of the century. I met a guy earlier this year and things got off to a really good start. There was a lot of chemistry or maybe so I thought because I'd been out of the dating game for a while. Things got steamy quickly and I gave up the goods a week in. While that was a mistake — the bigger mistake was being so excited I forgot all about protection. I ended up with a STD and thank God it was treatable. I learned my lesson — never again.