Jamaica Observer http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/ JamaicaObserver.com, the most concise and in-depth website for news coverage on Jamaica and the Caribbean. Updated daily 7 days a week, 24 hours a day en-us copyright Jamaica Observer, 2011 Relationship regrets http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Relationship-regrets By Miss Kes Some people will insist that they only learnt life lessons from their past relationships and have no regrets; others will be honest and admit that there are some people in their past that they wish nothing but the worst for. Regrets are normal emotions, and admitting that not all was perfect, and that you have made mistakes in your past is one of the key steps in moving forward.<br /> <br /> What regrets do you have about past relationships?<br /> <br /> DE:<br /> <br /> I shared some stories about my ex with my current boyfriend and every time we have an argument, he takes it there. I totally regret telling my man those things. I would personally advise all women to let their past go. I&rsquo;m not saying that you should pretend like it doesn&rsquo;t exist, but it is wise to not have discussions about history with your current partner.<br /> <br /> Tina:<br /> <br /> I regret my present relationship, to be very honest. I treat this man like a king and I recently found some text messages in his phone that made me regret everything I did for this man. We recently bought a car together and we have never had sex in it and I saw in his phone that he did so with a girl. I sacrificed my savings to ensure this man felt loved. Never again!<br /> <br /> Cory:<br /> <br /> I have so many regrets with this woman I was dating. I took this girl from the garrison and made her live in my house uptown. I literally traded her wardrobe from those things she used to wear that had holes, to start dressing like Lisa Hanna, and I found out she was cheating. I know it sounds like just another cheating story, but he who feels it knows it.<br /> <br /> FG:<br /> <br /> My biggest regret is getting pregnant for the man I did. He is the worst father ever. From I said I was pregnant, he walked out. It is a huge regret but I know for sure my child and I won&rsquo;t suffer.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13648555/regrets_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, February 17, 2017 5:10 AM 8 years and no ring http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/8-years-and-no-ring By Miss Kes It should be a given that after a couple has spent some time together courting, that marriage should be the next natural step. That sounds like the natural order of things, yet countless couples are nearing or have passed the decade mark together with no talk of a ring.<br /> <br /> What would you do if you committed yourself to years in a relationship and your partner has said nothing about marrying you, starting a family, or even giving you solid evidence that they are committed?<br /> <br /> KK:<br /> <br /> I&rsquo;m leaving! Why would I sit down in a relationship that long and I don&rsquo;t have a tree growing in my face? That is total wickedness to sit and wait on a man to prove that you are worth it.<br /> <br /> RD:<br /> <br /> Recently I heard a young miss at my office crying to another female friend that her ex, with whom she had spent eight years, was getting married to a 22 year old that he had just met. She said she devoted eight years to this man and he never once mentioned marriage, and four months after they broke up, she saw him posting on Facebook and SnapChat that he was going to marry this girl. She was very hurt and felt betrayed. It affected me and I started to realize that I&rsquo;ve been in a relationship for seven years and I haven&rsquo;t heard the words ring or marriage. I am not about to waste any more time so I am planning to ask my man if he is going to marry me or not.<br /> <br /> Ricky:<br /> <br /> I think women need to give a relationship time to grow. They think life is like a microwave &ndash; everything must be instant &ndash; and that is where men get scared of women. I was talking to a close friend of mine the other day. He told me he met this beautiful young lady on a dating website and they met up and had a great time. After two weeks of dating, she wants to meet his parents and have his babies. That is a real scary thing to a man. Slow it down ladies and let us men chase you. Once you start to chase, we&rsquo;re gonna run away from you.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13648517/ring_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, February 17, 2017 5:55 AM Settling for love http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Settling-for-love By Miss Kes Many women especially are fearful of being alone as they get up in age, leaving them to lower their standards and entertain men they wouldn&rsquo;t have usually. This stems from a fear of being alone, of ever finding the right person to have children with, and the attached stigma of not being coupled up by a certain age.<br /> <br /> We asked people, would you settle if you found that love seemed to be passing you by?<br /> <br /> Jodi:<br /> <br /> Heck no! I&rsquo;m not going to attach myself to anyone because I am fearful of being old and alone. I&rsquo;d rather pleasure myself and stay alone than be in a relationship that is going nowhere.<br /> <br /> Marlon:<br /> <br /> I would never say never. I have a female friend who I hang out with, she has her man and I&rsquo;m single. We&rsquo;ve never been intimate but I opened up to her the other day, saying we would be the perfect couple because everything she complains that her man doesn't do, I would do for her with ease. She&rsquo;s not really my type, but if one night she&rsquo;s crying I might just give in and offer comfort.<br /> <br /> Suz:<br /> <br /> I can&rsquo;t settle, I just can&rsquo;t. My parents, especially my mother, have been on my case about getting rid of my &lsquo;list&rsquo;, but I can&rsquo;t, especially because of how men are these days. I am dating and choosing carefully and if I reach 100 years old and still don&rsquo;t have a man, that&rsquo;s just how it goes.<br /> <br /> Sandra:<br /> <br /> I dropped my standards a bit and I found the love of my life. Sometimes we need to be humble and understand that there is no such thing as the perfect man or woman. Most of the standards we have are unreal anyway &ndash; we want a handsome man with money, career, and the perfect character. He doesn&rsquo;t exist, ladies! I had a ridiculous view of the man I wanted and to be honest, my husband is nothing like the man I dreamt of marrying. But my husband turned out to be even more to me. Relax the standards and just live!<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13648489/settle_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, February 17, 2017 5:46 AM Advice from the wise http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Advice-from-the-wise By Miss Kes It might seem sometimes that your parents are too much into your personal affairs or are trying to control you, but 99 per cent of the time it is because they just don&rsquo;t want you making the same mistakes they did. <br /> <br /> What advice or shared experience from your parents has proven invaluable to you?<br /> <br /> CF:<br /> <br /> My mother got pregnant at age 15 and had to drop out of school. She started her own business and has risen to the top. I saw her success and I was a part of it. Anyway, years ago I started dating this guy and she hated the guy to the core. Every time I was going out, she would argue. I, too, got pregnant at 15. I hid this from my mother for months and when she found out she cried because she tried to warn me not to walk in her footsteps. I have lived to see that same guy deny his child and pretend like we are not a part of his life. I realise now at the age of 27 that our parents are the solutions to our problems and if we just listen, most if not everything that could possibly hurt, won&rsquo;t.<br /> <br /> Karla:<br /> <br /> My mother told me to marry a man who loves me more than I love him because he will adore me. I thought she was crazy, but I now understand. I dated this handsome guy some months ago and it was a total disaster. He knew he was handsome so I was treated as an option. I realised that I was the one with too many feelings invested and not him. <br /> <br /> RF: <br /> <br /> My mother told me never to lead a man on. If I am not interested, I should make it known from day one as men these days will kill you if you play around.<br /> <br /> Rohan:<br /> <br /> My father told me to find a woman just like my mother and that was the greatest advice. My mother is pure in heart and it is evident in how she was there for my father from day one when he had nothing but a dream. She never, ever asked him for anything material and that was exactly why he gave her the world. I desire a woman just as poised and dedicated to me.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13646843/advice_w300.jpg All Woman Thursday, February 16, 2017 5:45 AM Having a Plan B, just in case http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Having-a-Plan-B--just-in-case By Miss Kes The fear of giving your heart to someone and then being used is real, as many people have been burnt by love. As such, many have been keeping their options open by having a Plan B partner to fill in when the going gets rough. Is this a viable proposition?<br /> <br /> SD:<br /> <br /> I think that is quite dangerous because no one is going to feel nice knowing they are an option. To be honest, I wouldn&rsquo;t recommend anyone doing this especially with the high death rate of women nowadays. <br /> <br /> Miguel:<br /> <br /> I can&rsquo;t tie myself down to one woman because women are just wicked and lie. I don&rsquo;t make any one woman feel special. They know from day one that I won&rsquo;t date just one person.<br /> <br /> Slick Jay:<br /> <br /> I like to keep my options open because if you invested in someone and find out down the road that you have been wasting your time, worse if you invested money in it too, that hurts more than a bullet. So I tell my boyfriend that I desire to have an open thing between us and we have been doing great so far, and it has been over a year. He sees other women too, and to be honest I don&rsquo;t feel bad because at least he doesn&rsquo;t have to lie to me. I really don&rsquo;t believe in marriage, so I am just living.<br /> <br /> Anna K:<br /> <br /> I don&rsquo;t like the idea of having my options open. I think you should give a relationship a fair chance and if it fails, then move on. No one will feel good about being treated as an option.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13646839/plan-b_w300.jpg All Woman Thursday, February 16, 2017 5:42 AM Love: unequally yoked http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Love--unequally-yoked By Miss Kes Love should know no bounds, but in actuality, there are many factors that can affect its ability to flourish. These include social differences that make a couple unequally yoked &ndash; differences like social class.<br /> <br /> It is possible for two classes to mix in a relationship that leads to marriage and family?<br /> <br /> Nic: <br /> <br /> Hell no! I am a taxi driver and the other day I picked up a white guy who was saying that he met a Jamaican girl on a dating website and he travelled all the way to Jamaica to date her. We pulled up at this apartment complex uptown and I was like zeen, looks like the general hit the jackpot. When the woman came out, she was in short tights &ndash; basically naked. She came into the car and when she opened her mouth, she was loud, and no offense here, ghetto. I know for sure that she&rsquo;s going to use him because she even begged me to call some of her friends to cash in.<br /> <br /> Rach:<br /> <br /> That can&rsquo;t work. They will have nothing in common. I just don&rsquo;t see that being healthy.<br /> <br /> Tania:<br /> <br /> It can work if they genuinely care about each other. There is no direct formula for love. People need to stop boxing love in and leave people alone to love who they want to regardless of things like class or skin colour.<br /> <br /> Zadianne:<br /> <br /> No, I don&rsquo;t see that working out. No rich uptown man will take his money to buy a ring to put on a downtown girl&rsquo;s finger. Not happening!<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13646836/love--2-_w300.jpg All Woman Thursday, February 16, 2017 5:41 AM The effect of music on children http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/The-effect-of-music-on-children_89529 BY PENDA HONEYGHAN MUSIC is described as the universal language &mdash; one that even foetuses can understand. And with successive research data showing a correlation between children exposed to music and higher academic achievement, more parents are exposing their children to music &mdash; even in the womb. <br /> <br /> While underscoring the value of music on child development, however, clinical psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell urges parents to choose appropriate, soothing music for their offspring both in and outside of the womb.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Music is known to have an effect on the human psyche. It can influence feelings, behaviours and reactions to situations,&rdquo; she said. <br /> <br /> Providing support for this argument, Dr Bell said that studies have shown that children exposed to music, especially classical music, are calmer. <br /> <br /> But she noted that less anxious or better behaved children are not the only benefits to be derived from early exposure to music. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Other studies showed a correlation between listening to music and better academic performance. In addition, children with autism who listened to classical music showed a marked reduction in autism symptoms than those who did not,&rdquo; Dr Bell said. She was quick to point out, however, that the reaction of the child to music is heavily dependent on the type of music to which the child is exposed.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;While children exposed to classical music and other smooth, serenading genres with positive lyrics perform better behaviourally and academically, we have also observed that children exposed to high-tempo music with aggressive content are more likely to display [acting-out tendencies] and are more aggressive toward their peers,&rdquo; Dr Bell explained.<br /> <br /> When parents choose the right music, some of the benefits are outlined below:<br /> <br /> It teaches patience <br /> <br /> Whether you are a part of a band, learning a solo or just listening to it, music encourages patience. With slow music you are told a story at a gentle pace, you get time to process what you hear, there is no rush, just as it is when you are learning to play an instrument. This is a very valuable trait; it will prove very beneficial to children as they grow. <br /> <br /> It boosts memory <br /> <br /> Research has shown that participation in muResearch has shown that participation in music at an early age can help improve a child&rsquo;s learning ability. This is partly because the child&rsquo;s memory stimulates different patterns of brain development when listening to music.<br /> <br /> Children may perform better in math and reading <br /> <br /> Studies show a correlation between music that stimulates parts of the brain that are related to reading, math, and emotional development. This means that children could perform better in core subjects if an appropriate method is devised to include more of it in practice sessions. <br /> <br /> Music could improve motor skills<br /> <br /> While listening to music is great, getting involved is a bonus. Songs with motions help children to practise fine motor coordination. Learning to play instruments such as the keyboard or doing finger or leg motions of a song will help children to practise their hand and finger control &mdash; a skill necessary for writing and handling small objects. The same result can be achieved by dancing to music. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643373/258349_84969_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM Bacterial MENINGITIS and your baby http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Bacterial-MENINGITIS-and-your-baby_88699 BY PENDA HONEYGHAN BACTERIAL meningitis is the inflammation of the meninges or brain coverings by bacterial organisms. Dr Anona Griffith, paediatrician at Gateway Plaza, Old Harbour, said that the condition is serious and life-threatening and has possible long-term challenges for survivors. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;The brain is one of the most sensitive and intricate organs of the body, not only its function, but also its structure. It is so important that it is housed in a hard case called the skull and cushioned by tissues called meninges and bathed in a fluid known as cerebrospinal fluid,&rdquo; Dr Griffith said. <br /> <br /> But sometimes, Dr Griffith explained, the brain and spinal system are compromised by bacterial organisms which enter the bloodstream and travel to the brain and spinal cord, causing acute bacterial meningitis. The meninges can also be invaded by these organisms directly, usually by way of an ear or sinus infection, a skull fracture, or, rarely, after certain surgeries.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;All ages can be affected by meningitis and the causative agents will vary based on age. But babies and young children are at a greater risk since their bodies&rsquo; defence systems are not yet fully developed. This makes it difficult for their bodies to resist the bacterial organisms should they invade.&ldquo;<br /> <br /> The symptoms of the condition may be non-specific to the nervous system, especially in newborns and babies. In fact, sometimes in the early stages, they may mimic flu-like symptoms. <br /> <br /> Symptoms may include:<br /> <br /> &bull;Fever<br /> <br /> &bull;Vomiting or decreased feeding<br /> <br /> &bull;Excessive sleepiness or <br /> <br /> fussiness and irritability<br /> <br /> &bull;Seizures or fits<br /> <br /> &bull;Bulging fontanelle or mole<br /> <br /> &bull;Abnormal crying<br /> <br /> In older children: <br /> <br /> &bull;Fever <br /> <br /> &bull;Headaches<br /> <br /> &bull;Neck pain and stiffness <br /> <br /> &bull;Vomiting may also be present.<br /> <br /> But how do children get in contact with these harmful bacteria, and can they be avoided? Technically, it is almost impossible to escape exposure to all forms of bacteria since many of them are in our environment and in our bodies. Others are passed on by way of physical contact through body fluids and some through foods prepared by persons with the bacteria on their hands. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;For newborn babies, they are sometimes exposed to at least two types of bacteria &ndash; group B Streptococcus and Escherichia coli &ndash; by way the vaginal tract during labour. This can cause the baby to develop meningitis or other serious infections soon after birth. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;In older children, bacterial organisms are passed on by contact with droplets from an infected person, for example through sneezing, from kisses and coughs,&rdquo; Dr Griffith said.<br /> <br /> Important to note, Dr Griffith said that pregnant women are at increased risk of listeriosis &mdash; a condition which is caused by bacteria listeria monocytogenes. This increases the possibility of miscarriage, stillbirth, premature delivery, low birth weight or life-threatening infection of the newborn, including meningitis. <br /> <br /> Children and adults alike with pre-existing conditions such as ear infections, low birth weight, those in need of respiratory support, cases of head trauma, and patients with compromised or weak immune systems are all at an increased risk of bacterial meningitis. <br /> <br /> Confirmation of the germ in the fluid is definitive by way of a lumbar puncture in which a small sample of the spinal fluid is taken from the lower back and is sent for culture and testing for antibiotics that will work against any germ found. These results are collated over a period of time beginning shortly after the sample is taken, up to seven days.<br /> <br /> In addition, testing is done for abnormal protein levels, and a blood culture is usually done, especially since most patients are very ill. This is accompanied by CT and MRI scans.<br /> <br /> The condition is so catastrophic that it could cause death within hours of infection and as such, antibiotics are usually administered immediately while tests are being conducted. The duration of antibiotics will depend on the germ found and can vary from seven days up to 21 days.<br /> <br /> While you may not be able to avoid contact with some of these sometimes deadly bacteria, Dr Griffith said that complications of bacterial meningitis may vary from none to deafness, seizures or fits, delay in development, damage to the brain and spinal cord resulting in difficulty walking.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Bacterial meningitis can be prevented through immunisation. The primary series includes Hib, which prevents serious infections caused by a type of bacteria called haemophilus influenzae type b. Such infections include meningitis, pneumonia (lung infection), and epiglottitis (a severe throat infection). http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643368/258344_84972_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM Does your child need dental sealants? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Does-your-child-need-dental-sealants-_89530 THE love of sweets, which almost every child is guilty of, can sometimes lead to tooth decay if their dental health is not properly managed. This is why so many parents are looking to sealants for their children in an effort to guard against the painful experiences associated with tooth decay. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Sealants are part of a preventive programme against tooth decay. [They] are &lsquo;flowable&rsquo; dental materials that are placed on the chewing surface of posterior teeth. They bond to the tooth and form a protective barrier on the enamel of the tooth,&rdquo; explained Dr Naudia Gilzeane, dentist at Gateway Plaza, Old Harbour. <br /> <br /> She pointed out that people who are obsessed with oral health could also benefit from sealants, since the structure of some teeth can make it difficult for personal cleaning materials to reach certain areas. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;The chewing surfaces of posterior teeth &mdash; molars and premolars &mdash; contain grooves and depressions. These grooves and depressions, known as pits and fissures, are more susceptible to tooth decay and are more difficult to keep clean, especially if they are very deep. Therefore, debris and plaque tend to accumulate in these sites, and plaque containing bacteria produces acid which attacks the enamel of the teeth and causes cavities (caries),&rdquo; Dr Gilzeane explained. <br /> <br /> But she cautioned that sealants are not for everyone, nor are they necessary for all teeth. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Sealants are really indicated for patients with a high caries risk, patients undergoing orthodontic work, persons on medications that cause dry mouth, teeth containing deep pits and fissures, and children. In most cases, sealants are only indicated for molars and premolars. The fissures and pits of these teeth are sometimes so deep that the bristles of a toothbrush cannot properly clean them.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> Additionally, Dr Gilzeane pointed out that sealants are not intended for teeth that are rich in fluoride, have caries in the chewing surface or between the teeth, or which have shallow fissures and coalesced pits. <br /> <br /> Dr Gilzeane said that applying sealants to the teeth should be a well thought out process, noting that the chewing surfaces of these teeth should be sealed only after the teeth have erupted beyond the gums, and in cases where the primary or deciduous molars have deep fissures.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;The first dental sealant to be placed is usually on the fissure of the first permanent molar after the chewing surface has erupted completely beyond the gum. This tooth grows behind the deciduous (baby) molars and erupts at about six or seven years of age. Premolars and molars continue to erupt until about 12 or 13 years old,&rdquo; she explained. <br /> <br /> Dr Gilzeane warned that pit and fissure sealants should not be considered as a substitute for preventive measures such as limitations of sugars in the diet, the use of fluoride, and the control of plaque through routine brushing and cleanings, because they are only part of a total preventive programme. <br /> <br /> &mdash; Penda Honeyghan http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643374/258354_84970_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM That Whooping cough http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/That-Whooping-cough_88697 A severe hacking cough, generally accompanied by a high-pitched intake of breath that sounds like a whoop or rasping noise, is the most common tell-tale sign of pertussis or whooping cough &mdash; an infection of the respiratory system. <br /> <br /> The condition, said Dr Anona Griffith, paediatrician at Gateway Plaza, Old Harbour, is a very contagious infection of the respiratory tract caused by the bacterium bordetella pertussis. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Whooping cough is transmitted to susceptible people who are in the same breathing space as an infected individual. And while it can affect any age group, it is often worse or can become fatal in small children and babies,&rdquo; Dr Griffith said. <br /> <br /> Whooping cough, which has an infection period of up to two weeks after the coughing starts, is most common in babies and children, since those younger than six months old are fragile and are sometimes without the protection of immunisation. In addition, it can occur in children within the 11 to 18 year groups for whom the effects of the vaccines would have started to fade. <br /> <br /> Dr Griffith noted that other symptoms of whooping cough include:<br /> <br /> &bull;Slight or low-grade fever <br /> <br /> &bull;Runny nose<br /> <br /> &bull;A cough, usually mild<br /> <br /> &bull; In small babies, pauses in breathing &mdash; otherwise known as apnoea &mdash; is another tell-tale sign of whooping cough, which can become fatal if not addressed.<br /> <br /> Prevention from whooping cough can now start as early as during pregnancy. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;The US Centers for Disease Control (CDC) now recommends that pregnant women receive the pertussis vaccine in the early part of their third trimester of pregnancy, regardless of previous immunisation. This protection is passed on to the baby after two weeks of the mother being immunised,&rdquo; Dr Griffith explained. <br /> <br /> She said that antibodies which offer protection against whooping cough are also passed on naturally during the breastfeeding process. But she pointed out that a child&rsquo;s best chance of building resistance against the condition is through personal immunisation. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Immunisation during childhood is the main means of prevention and protection. There are different preparations, depending on the age of the patient. DPT and DTaP are the preparations given to children up to age seven, while Tdap is given to older children and adults,&rdquo; Dr Griffith shared. <br /> <br /> It is recommended that doses be administered as part of the primary series of vaccines in the first six months of life, with boosters given at 18 months and four to six years.<br /> <br /> But even when these steps are followed, Dr Griffith said that it is always best to avoid contact between individuals who are coughing and newborns and infants who are not immunised. This way, she said, the possibility of your child becoming infected with the bacterium will be significantly reduced.<br /> <br /> &mdash; Penda Honeyghan http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643367/256807_84973_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM Your child&rsquo;s risk for chicken pox http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Your-child-s-risk-for-chicken-pox_89543 BY PENDA HONEYGHAN AS children we can all recall the domino effect of the chicken pox &mdash; once all the young ones in the household and even in the classroom came down with the rashes and bumps caused by the chicken pox, it was almost guaranteed that most if not all the children would contract it, even with immediate isolation. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Chicken pox is a highly contagious disease that is caused by the varicella-zoster virus. It appears as small, very itchy bumps which transform themselves into many fluid-filled bumps, [which] become crusted over as they dry up,&rdquo; said Dr Anona Griffith, paediatrician at Gateway Plaza, Old Harbour.<br /> <br /> She explained that the bumps generally take 10 to 21 days from the first contact with an exposed individual to the manifestation of the rash. This rash, she said, first attacks the head and neck region, then spreads to the trunk &mdash; which includes the chest and back, then it moves on to the rest of the body. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;The condition may be accompanied by a fever, and the child might also feel unwell in addition to a loss of appetite a few days before the rash appears, although in most children the rash appears first,&rdquo; Dr Griffith shared. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;The course of chicken pox is usually mild, with common problems being bacterial infection of the skin rashes. But some individuals, especially those whose immune systems are weak &mdash; such as newborns and patients undergoing chemotherapy, there are risks for more serious complications such as issues affecting the nervous system as well as the soft tissues and bones.<br /> <br /> She argued that not everyone who comes into contact with the virus will become infected, while some people will only have mild symptoms with very few lesions. But it is important that exposure to an infected person be kept at a minimum. To achieve this, Dr Griffith recommended that during the period of illness, the infected child or person should be isolated and kept out of school or day care to prevent the spread of the virus. <br /> <br /> Dr Griffith said getting the vaccine will reduce the impact of the virus and its associated side effects on the body. The vaccines are now available to patients starting at 12 months.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;The vaccine is given in two doses. It is recommended that people at risk for contracting the disease should be vaccinated, including those in institutions like schools, day care centres, health professionals and college students,&rdquo; she advised. <br /> <br /> But Dr Griffith cautioned pregnant women against chicken pox vaccination since the virus can be transmitted to the foetus. She noted that the same care should be taken with people who are immunocompromised, such as those with HIV infections, those on prolonged courses of high dose steroids, or those on chemotherapy. She recommended that a thorough assessment be done prior to the administration of the vaccine. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Once a mother who is nearing delivery or has recently delivered is identified as having contracted the disease, caution and vigilance must be taken to monitor her newborn who may need admission and special medication to decrease the risk of serious complications,&rdquo; Dr Griffith said. <br /> <br /> Dr Griffith also warned that the virus associated with the chicken pox has been known to sometimes lie dormant in certain nerves of the body, and can be triggered at a later time to produce the condition known as shingles. Shingles, also known as zoster, presents with painful skin rashes that can manifest on any part of the body, but is known to appear in areas of the left and right torso. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643363/258355_84946_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM Photo: That musical influence http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Photo--That-musical-influence_89534 http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13643381/258348_84945_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, February 15, 2017 12:00 AM VOWS - Everlasting Love http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/VOWS---Everlasting-Love_88815 Andrew Wildes, legal officer in the Ministry of Finance and Public Service, and Jhennell Ann Todd, project economist at the Planning Institute of Jamaica, tied the knot on December 3, 2016 at Craighton Estate, Irish Town, St Andrew, before a select gathering of their close friends and family. The couple planned the intimate affair all by themselves. <br /> <br /> How They Met<br /> <br /> Jhennell reveals, &ldquo;We first met while I was moving to an apartment which was owned by Andrew&rsquo;s brother. I was awaiting the arrival of the cable technicians, when Andrew drove in, saw me, and introduced himself.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> She continues, &ldquo;The next time we spoke was about a month later, while on a trip to the Blue Mountains which was organised by Racquel Wildes, Andrew&rsquo;s sister-in-law. It was my first time, but Andrew&rsquo;s sixth or seventh. The hike proved challenging for me so Andrew offered to help. Almost instinctively, we held hands and started talking about every conceivable topic as we made our way up the mountain together. We held hands all the way up and all the way down the mountain &mdash; about five hours each way. That was basically a crash course in getting to know each other.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> The Proposal<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Jhennell had planned a trip to Blue Mountain Peak to celebrate our anniversary. Unbeknownst to her, I had planned with a group of videographers and photographers from Esirom Limited for them to hike up the mountain ahead of us and capture the proposal which I had planned with drone and cameras,&rdquo; Andrew shares.<br /> <br /> He continues, &ldquo;The hike was arduous. It was much harder for her than the previous one and she broke down crying several times, saying she did not remember it being so hard. By this time the team had already started to climb and, as such, I coaxed her gently to keep going.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> When we finally reached the peak and cooled off I asked her to dance with me. I then turned on the music, John Legend&rsquo;s<br /> <br /> You and I, and took her hand. As we started to dance the drone started to circle above her and the camera team started to surround her and she slowly started to realise what was happening. I then got down on one knee and asked her to marry me... she said, &lsquo;yes&rsquo;. <br /> <br /> The Ceremony<br /> <br /> With John Legend&rsquo;s<br /> <br /> Stay With You playing in the background, the bridesmaids made their way up the aisle in stunning wine-red dresses by local designer Mercy-Ann Copeland of Mercyj Fashion and were escorted by the debonair groomsmen who wore two-piece tuxedos from Edmund Johnson with wine-red bow ties.<br /> <br /> The bridegroom stood dapper in a navy blue Carlton Brown three-piece suit with a wine-red and black bow tie with brown shoes.<br /> <br /> Jhennell made her way to her bridegroom to the strains of Elvis Presley&rsquo;s<br /> <br /> Can&rsquo;t Help Falling in Love, which was played by saxophonist Jason Spence, and accompanied by Marlon Senior on keyboard. Escorted by her father Desmond Todd, she was gorgeous in a white sweetheart-neckline, fitted ivory gown from Bliss Bridal Boutique. <br /> <br /> The ceremony was officiated by Pastor Dwight Fletcher from Transformed Life Church and featured a tree planting to symbolise new beginnings.<br /> <br /> The Reception<br /> <br /> After officially becoming husband and wife, what was left to do but celebrate? Craighton Estate was decorated with blush, gold and hints of wine red to represent the &lsquo;rustic glam&rsquo; theme by Petals and Promises.<br /> <br /> The bridesmaids and groomsmen entered the reception to<br /> <br /> Celebration by Kool & the Gang, the bride to Destiny&rsquo;s Child&rsquo;s<br /> <br /> Bootylicious while<br /> <br /> Mr Loverman by Shabba Ranks ushered in the groom. <br /> <br /> There was a twist to the customary father and daughter dance. The couple decided to honour their non-biological parents with a dance. Jhennell danced with her stepfather and Andrew danced with his stepmother.<br /> <br /> The highlight of the reception was the bride and groom&rsquo;s performance of Lauryn Hill&rsquo;s version of the Marley classic<br /> <br /> Turn Your Lights Down Low to each other. Jhennell brought guests to their feet when she deejayed Hill&rsquo;s freestyle.<br /> <br /> Andrew then surprised Jhennell with an original song entitled<br /> <br /> No Disrespect, which had everyone applauding and eventually singing along.<br /> <br /> The dance floor was then opened and DJ Powa (of &ldquo;Nobody Cannot Cross It&rdquo; fame) did a great job catering to the guests.<br /> <br /> The wedding celebration was fittingly dubbed &ldquo;wildinout2016&rdquo;, which was also the couple&rsquo;s hashtag on social media, and guests were served signature drinks called &ldquo;Blushing Bride&rdquo; and &ldquo;Strength&rdquo; by St Aublyn Kidd, known as Captain Kidd, the bride&rsquo;s childhood friend.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> The Honeymoon<br /> <br /> The lovebrids went on a two-week trip in Kona, Hawaii, which was another surprise to the bride. The groom planned the honeymoon with the assistance of the maid of honour, who is a travel agent. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13639152/256985_84446_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635554/256949_84422_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635564/256950_84423_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635550/256951_84424_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635551/256953_84426_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635557/256954_84427_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635553/256957_84430_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635562/256960_84433_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635549/256962_84434_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635559/256963_84435_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635552/256965_84436_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635561/256968_84438_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635555/256970_84439_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635556/256972_84440_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635558/256973_84441_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635563/256979_84443_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635560/256980_84444_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635548/256981_84445_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635566/256952_84425_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635567/256959_84432_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635568/256955_84428_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635569/256958_84431_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635570/256967_84437_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635571/256956_84429_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635572/256977_84442_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM You stole my heart http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/You-stole-my-heart_88792 Orville Spence TOMORROW is Valentine&rsquo;s Day, the day of love &ndash; a time when couples the world over will spend some extra time celebrating all they mean to each other. <br /> <br /> For the three couples below, it has been an exciting journey, as shared with photojournalist Orville Spence, who travelled to three parishes to meet them.<br /> <br /> Leon Reid and Tameka Myrie, engaged<br /> <br /> AW: How did you meet your spouse?<br /> <br /> Leon: Tameka and I met online while she was in Haiti for work. We later met in person when she returned home.<br /> <br /> AW: What is the trait you value most in your partner?<br /> <br /> Leon: I think my favourite trait in her would have to be how kind and selfless she is. She is always looking out for others in any way that she can.<br /> <br /> Tameka: I value the fact that Leon has accepted all my flaws and he supports all my decisions. Once I am happy, he&rsquo;s happy. He gives me the freedom to be myself at all times.<br /> <br /> AW: What is your favourite thing to do as a couple?<br /> <br /> Leon: It doesn&rsquo;t matter what we do, as long as we are together; it could be lounging around at home, watching Lifetime with her (yes, Lifetime), road trips, or going to church together. We just enjoy each other&rsquo;s company.<br /> <br /> AW: What does love mean to you?<br /> <br /> Leon: This relationship has truly opened my eyes to what love is and should be. A lot of people may say love is that honeymoon phase of the relationship when both persons can&rsquo;t get enough of each other, when you&rsquo;re so blinded that you can&rsquo;t see the faults that exist, but I believe that love is realising that you&rsquo;re not with someone perfect, and that that person has flaws. It&rsquo;s realising that the person has annoying habits that drive you crazy at times, realising that there will be serious arguments and hurtful things said, yet realising that through all of this you could never ever see yourself without this person. Love is knowing that no matter the fuss and argument, you would drop everything at a moment&rsquo;s notice to ensure that you are there for that person.<br /> <br /> Tameka: I don&rsquo;t believe any definition that I come up with can even come close to Leon&rsquo;s, so I will have to agree with him.<br /> <br /> AW: You&rsquo;re going to a desert island. What three things/people do you take?<br /> <br /> Leon: I will take Tameka, my love, of course, food and water. Lol.<br /> <br /> Tameka: Leon, mobile phone and water. (Leon will take food for me.)<br /> <br /> AW: What makes you feel most loved?<br /> <br /> Leon: When I&rsquo;m appreciated, when I feel like I&rsquo;m of some significance in someone&rsquo;s life.<br /> <br /> Tameka: The smallest thing makes me feel loved and appreciated. It&rsquo;s the thought that goes into the act that counts for me.<br /> <br /> AW: What do you like best about your spouse?<br /> <br /> Leon: I love how strong she is mentally and how ambitious she is. Tameka is always trying to find ways to better her life, and that pushes me to be better as well. She never allows disappointments to get the better of her. She has this inner strength that shines through and propels her to overcome anything. <br /> <br /> Tameka: I love his loyalty and morals.<br /> <br /> AW: If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?<br /> <br /> Leon: 1. Living forever with Tameka by my side always; 2. Being successful in life to the point that I can have a comfortable life to take care of my wife, family and the less fortunate; and 3. To leave a significant mark that would be remembered firstly in my country and by extension, the world. I consider myself to be very patriotic so I want to make a significant impact on Jamaica.<br /> <br /> Tameka: 1. Live a long, healthy and purpose-driven life with my soul mate; 2. I leave my mark in this world in a positive way, like Oprah; and 3. My business takes off in the first three months of operation.<br /> <br /> AW: What&rsquo;s your song?<br /> <br /> Couple: We like Still in Love by Brian McKnight<br /> <br /> AW: What is the nicest thing your spouse has done for you lately?<br /> <br /> Leon: It was not hard for me to think of this and I consider it very small, but the nicest thing she does on a daily basis is to tell me how much she loves me and cares about me.<br /> <br /> Tameka: He checks on me during the day to find out if I&rsquo;ve eaten, and reminds me that I need to &mdash; very annoying, but I appreciate it.<br /> <br /> Victor & Marguerite Anderson, married 46 years (47 this year)<br /> <br /> AW: How did you meet your spouse?<br /> <br /> Victor: We were introduced by my brother at church one Sunday evening during the summer of 1966. He had met her before I did because they attended the same school. I was stopped in my tracks, immediately captivated by her dazzling smile and engaging personality.<br /> <br /> AW: What is the trait you value most in your partner?<br /> <br /> Victor: Her ability to engage with, nurture and make others feel at ease. She has expressed this trait in raising our children, and in influencing the many other children who grew up in our neighbourhood or who are friends of our children and still call her &ldquo;Mommy&rdquo;. She is also very detail-oriented and these traits have led her from jobs in corporate Jamaica to a very successful career as a wedding and event planner. Although I have come to celebrate how she is able to make so many persons feel special and to provide meaningful help and counsel to them, I confess that there have been times I felt I had to compete with so many others to get her attention.<br /> <br /> AW: What is your favourite thing to do as a couple?<br /> <br /> Couple: There have been many such things, for example worshipping together, singing duets at church, a quiet drive out of town, watching a movie together, caring for our children, etc. Perhaps the most enjoyable thing we do now is care for our grandchildren &ndash; having them overnight with us, talking with them, listening to what is important to them, watching them interact with each other, and sharing in preparing meals with/for them (one of them is a budding chef!)<br /> <br /> AW: What does love mean to you?<br /> <br /> Couple: Love is about commitment of two people to each other. It is about faithfulness, keeping promises and trying not to disappoint the other person. It is about thoughtfulness and placing the other person&rsquo;s interests above your own, and doing the best you can to ensure the other person&rsquo;s welfare. It is about caring how the other person feels in every situation. It is about remaining loyal and not engaging in anything that would hurt or disappoint the other person if they were to find out about it. It is about companionship, contentment and comfort in each others&rsquo; presence. It is about complementing one another &ndash; each partner&rsquo;s strengths filling gaps in the other person&rsquo;s life, so that together they are able to have a more beneficial impact on the lives of their family members and the wider community.<br /> <br /> AW: You&rsquo;re going to a desert island. What three things or people do you take?<br /> <br /> Victor: My wife and companion of 46+ years, my Bible for continued spiritual growth and guidance, and as many of my books as I could take with me, since reading is one of my favourite things.<br /> <br /> AW: What makes you feel most loved?<br /> <br /> Couple: Expressions of appreciation for what I have done for my partner, especially when it has involved great sacrifice. Being reminded that I am important to my partner. Hearing from our children that our efforts on their behalf are valued.<br /> <br /> AW: What do you like best about your spouse?<br /> <br /> Victor: She (unlike me) is very spontaneous, very adventurous. She sometimes needs to drag me to certain engagements that I eventually have to admit are quite enjoyable.<br /> <br /> AW: If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?<br /> <br /> Couple: Being given long enough life (together) that we can watch our children and grandchildren find meaningful faith in God, and happiness and success in their careers and personal lives.<br /> <br /> AW: What is your song?<br /> <br /> Couple: Through the Years by Kenny Rogers.<br /> <br /> AW: What is the nicest thing your spouse has done for you lately?<br /> <br /> Victor: My 68th surprise birthday party with all our children and grandchildren present. I am usually able to get wind of these attempts to surprise me, but this time they managed to keep the secret and allow me to share in a very enjoyable evening.<br /> <br /> Damean and Lilly-Hue Carter, married three years<br /> <br /> AW: How did you meet your spouse?<br /> <br /> Couple: We met in high school; we shared the same friends.<br /> <br /> AW: What is the trait you value most in your partner?<br /> <br /> Lilly-Hue: His go-get-it attitude.<br /> <br /> Damean: Her ability to bind our family through good and bad times.<br /> <br /> AW: What is your favourite thing to do as a couple?<br /> <br /> Couple: Spend time together. We don&rsquo;t care what we do as long as we are in the same space.<br /> <br /> AW: What does love mean to you?<br /> <br /> Couple: Staying with each other no matter what because we're a team. Whatever happens, we fix it.<br /> <br /> AW: You're going to a desert island. What three things/people do you take?<br /> <br /> Couple: We take our kids, TV to watch football, and data devices.<br /> <br /> AW: What makes you feel most loved?<br /> <br /> Lilly-Hue: I feel most loved when he does something that makes him uncomfortable, like this photoshoot, just because it makes me happy.<br /> <br /> Damean: The way she mothers my children.<br /> <br /> AW: What do you like best about your spouse?<br /> <br /> Lilly-Hue: His ability to make sure our family is never in need &ndash; his sacrificial self.<br /> <br /> Damean: Her ability to care for everyone.<br /> <br /> AW: If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?<br /> <br /> Couple: To see our children become parents; to continue living our dreams together; and retiring early.<br /> <br /> AW: What is the nicest thing your spouse has done for you lately?<br /> <br /> Damean: She went shopping for me.<br /> <br /> Lilly-Hue: He follows me to the hairdresser and keeps the kids so I can get my hair and nails done.<br /> <br /> CREDITS<br /> <br /> Photographer: Orville Spence (10.06 Photography)<br /> <br /> Make-up artist: Sharlene Reid (Make-up by Sharlene)<br /> <br /> Location: <br /> <br /> 1. Leon Reid & Tameka Myrie &ndash; Fern Gully, Ocho Rios<br /> <br /> 2. Damean & Lilly-Hue Carter &ndash; Home, St Catherine<br /> <br /> 3. Victor & Marguerite Anderson &ndash; Home, St Andrew<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635302/257688_84240_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635308/257684_84233_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635306/257683_84234_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635305/257682_84235_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635304/257689_84239_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635310/257690_84238_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635311/257687_84236_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635312/257686_84237_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 12:00 AM Danielle Parchment: Animation &lsquo;ambassador&rsquo; in South Korea http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Danielle-Parchment--Animation--ambassador--in-South-Korea_88693 TWENTY-THREE-YEAR-OLD self-taught artist Danielle Parchment has dreamt of working in animation since she was a teenager. But the Kingstonian&rsquo;s progress was initially hampered by learning disabilities and a lack of opportunities in Jamaica. So when she happened upon KingstOOn on Facebook, she knew she had struck gold.<br /> <br /> As she carefully studied the banner promoting animation internships financed by the Korea Trust Fund and managed by the World Bank, she exhaled. Realising that she would be able to work with the best in the industry in South Korea, coupled with encouragement from her inner circle, she applied. <br /> <br /> Now happily settled into her internship at Funny Flux Studios in Seoul, South Korea, Parchment marvels at the effort required to hone her skills and ignite her passion for animation. <br /> <br /> Her primary-level education was retarded by learning disabilities sparked by seizures, which helped to undermine her social skills. &ldquo;I was always being left out, so I expressed myself through drawings. Words couldn&rsquo;t adequately convey my struggles as a social misfit,&rdquo; she reflects. <br /> <br /> At Holy Childhood she finally hit her stride when she met empathetic teachers and peers with learning disabilities. She aced high school en route to Edna Manley College for the Visual & Performing Arts. Although animation was not offered there as a major, Parchment, fuelled by her passion, found a workaround : &ldquo;YouTube, books, free tutorials online. My family invested in art supplies, allowing me to flourish as a self-taught artist.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> At the &ldquo;ripe old age&rdquo; of 21 in November 2015, Parchment coined the label Nille Studio as a chapeau under which to showcase her work and carve her own little niche in the market. This earned her the respect of peers and role models alike. In the pipeline is an online outlet for her animation skills. <br /> <br /> Parchment regards the skills acquired during her current internship as providing the chance for her to contribute to Jamaica&rsquo;s nascent animation industry.<br /> <br /> According to Jamaica&rsquo;s Film Commissioner Renee Robinson, &ldquo;Over the past 10 years, Jamaica has created more than 20,000 temporary jobs to service the animation industry, along with attracting over a thousand international film projects, and generating J$6 billion in capital expenditure. It&rsquo;s also hoped that growth in the animation sector will boost Jamaica&rsquo;s overall economic impact.&rdquo; <br /> <br /> Coretta Singer, Chair of Jamaica Animation Nation Network (JANN), is encouraged by Parchment&rsquo;s initiative, because despite the global boom in the industry, female animators are still hardly visible and barely recognised.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Very seldom allowed to lead, we&rsquo;re almost always locked away churning out those jobs along the pipeline that no one else wants to do. We are often relegated to positions lower than our male counterparts, regardless of our competence,&rdquo; she says. What is her advice to Parchment? &ldquo;Seek knowledge wherever opportunities present themselves, and remember that technology is always changing. Keep updated. Keep pushing, growing.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> While optimistic about the future of Jamaica&rsquo;s animation industry, Singer highlights some concerns. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Starting with public education &ndash; people still see animation as just art, and [they feel] that art can&rsquo;t make money. Then there are customs duties that put computers and components out of reach.&rdquo; <br /> <br /> Singer argues that professional organisations like JANN are trying to mitigate these setbacks, mainly by facilitating a creative space in Jamaica with access to computers where people can collaborate with colleagues and business partners on IPs, practically expanding the space for studios and workshops for focused animation education. <br /> <br /> For her part, Parchment remains confident in her abilities and is optimistic about her future. After making a success of her Funny Flux internship as part of the character and board design team, she wants to work virtually with US industry giants like Pixar and Cartoon Network while feeding the supply side of well executed Jamaican narratives. She heads back home to start this quest at the end of July. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635200/256775_84169_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635201/256768_84168_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM Cortia Bingham&rsquo;s inspiration http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Cortia-Bingham-s-inspiration_88925 By KIMBERLEY HIBBERT SHE struts proudly with blonde hair and a radiant yellow blouse, automatically commanding the attention of everyone in the room. Her megawatt smile will soften any heart, and her warm personality pulls you in. Meet Cortia Bingham, the flagship person behind We Inspire Women.<br /> <br /> But though she exudes such confidence and strength of character, Bingham tells All Woman that things weren&rsquo;t always peachy, and it took determination and purpose on her part to break through barriers and chart a successful course in life.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve had a lot of experiences in my life &mdash; struggles &mdash; and having to overcome [them] with a change in my mindset. Last year when I was about to get married, I had an epiphany. I was sitting one day looking back at where I was coming from, where I had to overcome abuse while in high school, and what I had to do to overcome similar types of abuse when I became an adult, and struggling with my self-worth,&rdquo; she told All Woman.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I found a way to overcome that, and it was really by changing my inner conversation and edifying myself with uplifting material. So I started to read books and listen to Les Brown, Oprah, Lisa Nichols, and I realised that I had the power to change my trajectory and my direction, so my life got better over the past five years,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> As a result of her new-found confidence and self-assuredness, Bingham decided she could not keep it to herself and started &lsquo;We Inspire Women&rsquo; &mdash; a network of successful women sharing their stories to effect change in others.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Last year April I came up with the brand. I started to applaud myself and forgive myself for whatever mistakes I had made. I was at this holistic place where I was completely happy and felt that abundance happening. So now it was my duty to share with people what they could do to get beyond pain and not using their pain for their demise, but their success,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> That conference served as a springboard for a new idea from Bingham &mdash; We Inspire Girls To Be Strong Women &mdash; an initiative in the form of a school tour which will be rolled out in March, to positively impact the inner conversations of high school girls across the island through motivational speeches.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;We Inspire Women attracted over 800 women and extended on social media. The feedback was wonderful, so I thought about how I could further effect change, and my mind went back to the abuse in high school. I thought if I had somebody, an example to see how it looks at the end of this journey of hurt, I would have learnt a little bit earlier what it felt like to be whole,&rdquo; Bingham said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;There was this burning passion to go back and do for these girls what I didn&rsquo;t get for myself. I came up with &lsquo;We Inspire Girls To Be Strong Women&rsquo;, and the strong women are the influential Jamaican women who are making an impact on people&rsquo;s lives, who have been through the same struggles, gone to high school in Jamaica, and found a way to carve out a niche and be successful in it. There is a saying that people change [by learning] from examples, not by what they tell them. They have to see it, but we are showing them that after all these struggles, after all these challenges, this is what the journey can look like if they emulate these women.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> Some of the women set to speak on the tour include Diahann Gordon-Harrison, children&rsquo;s advocate; Dianne Edwards, attorney-at-law and director for legal affairs at Spectrum Management Authority; Gladys Brown, Superintendent of Police and attorney-at-law; Sheree Martin, senior vice president JPSCo; Justice Marva McDonald Bishop, appellate judge, Court of Appeal; Paula Llewellyn, Director of Public Prosecutions; and Dr Claudine Lewis, cardiologist and medical director at Heart Smart Centre. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;In March, straight through to May, we will be going to 15 schools across Jamaica and speaking to grades 10 and 11 girls, just talking about our lives and how we moved past the pain. Life is not easy, we have different pitfalls, but it paves the way for success. Some schools have asked that I include grade nine. I specifically chose these grade levels because I do believe that it is a great opportunity to provide constructive intervention at a very critical time in their lives, considering that they are often preyed upon by unscrupulous societal elements. At each stop we&rsquo;re looking at least 350 students, and that for me is huge. We know that the best public relations and marketing is word of mouth, but if we can have the conversation with 350 students, convert say 300 students, we&rsquo;re looking at another 300 parents, friends, communities implementing that change. Many young women are impoverished, abused sexually, and it pains my heart, because when you stop a young girl&rsquo;s growth and development like that with abuse, you damage the next generation, and what is our next generation going to look like? If we&rsquo;re damaging our young people, will we be able to live in this country in the next few years?&rdquo;<br /> <br /> Bingham added that the timeline for the tour is strategically placed, as she believes that giving the extra jolt and fuel right before the examination period will boost the academic performance of the girls.<br /> <br /> Apart from the tour, Bingham has her sights set on doing a televised programme, continuing the school tour next year on a larger scale, and staging a bigger version of We Inspire Women this August. She is also aiming to coordinate a &lsquo;funch&rsquo; &mdash; finesse lunch &mdash; for girls who are impoverished, so they can get the opportunity to experience fine dining, share their stories, and be motivated. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635172/256177_84163_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635174/257696_84259_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM What are your plans for V-Day? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/What-are-your-plans-for-V-Day- WILL it be a romantic dinner for two, a night of Netflix and chilling, or just quiet time as a couple? Or, will you be hanging out with the girls, or be by yourself, catching up on some much-needed you time? <br /> <br /> Tomorrow is Valentine&rsquo;s Day, and like it or not, love is in the air. Whether it&rsquo;s time for loving yourself or your mate, it&rsquo;s important to celebrate the reason for the season. Below, some readers share their plans for the big day: <br /> <br /> Kemar H: I&rsquo;m always making plans and going all out to please her on the special days. This year I&rsquo;m going to sit back and see what, or if, she will do anything. <br /> <br /> Sabrina B: He&rsquo;s been away for months, so I&rsquo;m doing a romantic dinner at home. I want it to be just the two of us. I&rsquo;ll be shopping for some sexy intimates today. <br /> <br /> Ricardo B: My lady is overseas visiting family. I placed an order with a flower shop nearby to deliver a bouquet of roses to her. <br /> <br /> Yanique K: Well, I was ordered not to make any plans (smile). My boyfriend told me that I should just make myself available from 6:00 pm. I&rsquo;ve been trying, but still can&rsquo;t figure out what he has planned. <br /> <br /> Stacey D: Valentine&rsquo;s Day will be a singles&rsquo; night out for me and two of my single girlfriends. We&rsquo;re going out for dinner after work. <br /> <br /> Miguel B: I&rsquo;m treating my girl to two nights at a hotel on the North Coast. <br /> <br /> Kim S: It all started from last weekend. I took him to a spa to get pampered, and tomorrow I&rsquo;m taking him out to lunch. After work we&rsquo;ll have a romantic getaway at home. <br /> <br /> &mdash; Falon Folkes http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13640118/filenamev_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:24 AM Effective exercises for period cramps http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Effective-exercises-for-period-cramps_88692 BY FALON FOLKES MANY women dread their time of the month, as with it may come excruciating pain and discomfort, weird food cravings, and the need to feed on painkillers. Thankfully, there are better options than painkillers to take you out this hell. <br /> <br /> All Woman consulted Fitness coach Rohan Gordon, who recommended some exercises that women can include in their routine to help alleviate menstrual pains.<br /> <br /> Half Moon pose<br /> <br /> According to Gordon, the Half Moon pose helps with heavy bleeding and relieves cramps.<br /> <br /> 1. Stand on your left leg<br /> <br /> 2. Place the fingertips of your left hand on the floor<br /> <br /> 3. Extend your right leg and arms upwards<br /> <br /> 4. Take several deep breaths<br /> <br /> 5. Hold the position for 10-20 seconds<br /> <br /> 6. Repeat the pose three times.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Reclining bound angle<br /> <br /> 1. Sit in the floor<br /> <br /> 2. Lie on your back with your feet straightened<br /> <br /> 3. Put both soles of your feet together and allow your knees and thighs to fall to the side<br /> <br /> 4. Stay in this pose for five to 10 minutes and take deep breaths while in this pose.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Jogging/brisk walk<br /> <br /> This simple exercise needs no instructions. Simply jog or walk for about 15 minutes. Afterwards, soak a towel in warm water and wrap it around your stomach. Gordon says this helps to relax muscles around the uterus.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Swimming<br /> <br /> Gordon says swimming is a low-impact exercise, therefore there is no strain on the body. Swimming increases cardiovascular activity, it elevates your heart rate, and releases endorphins in your body. This helps to relieve pain.<br /> <br /> Lower trunk rotation<br /> <br /> 1. Lie on your back with your knees bent to the right side. Hold this position for 10-20 seconds<br /> <br /> 2. Bring your bent knees to the centre, then turn them to the left side, hold again for 10-20 seconds<br /> <br /> 3. Repeat 10 times on each side.<br /> <br /> Pasasana pose<br /> <br /> 1. Bend into a full squat position, with the buttocks touching your heels<br /> <br /> 2. Inhale, swing your knees to the left, turn your torso to the right and exhale<br /> <br /> 3. Place your right arm behind your back and use your left arm to reach the other arm<br /> <br /> 4. Stay in this position for 30-60 seconds<br /> <br /> 5. Repeat this pose three times. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13618382/256071_84249_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM Healthy alternatives to JUNK FOODS http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Healthy-alternatives-to-JUNK-FOODS_88098 BY FALON FOLKES JUNK food is essentially food that is filled with calories, sugar, fats and other ingredients that are not good for the body. The term &lsquo;junk food&rsquo; is usually associated with foods such as burgers, soda and pizza. But nutritionist and wellness coach Donovan Grant points out that junk food is not limited to these items, as even a salad can be junk food because of the ingredients and preparation methods used. <br /> <br /> Below he shares some healthy alternative preparation methods to some common food items. <br /> <br /> Burgers<br /> <br /> Burger lovers, there is no need to abandon your favourite food. Instead, prepare it at home with a twist by:<br /> <br /> &bull;Using whole wheat buns<br /> <br /> &bull;Using the smaller burger buns<br /> <br /> &bull; Grilling the burger instead of frying it <br /> <br /> &bull;Using healthy cheese like goat cheese or cottage cheese<br /> <br /> &bull;Omitting the mayonnaise<br /> <br /> &bull;Opting for fish or veggie burgers rather than beef burgers.<br /> <br /> Salads<br /> <br /> Naturally, most of us think of salads as &lsquo;healthy&rsquo;. But unknowingly we eat salads that are not so healthy because of how they are prepared. When making salads, Grant recommends that a small amount of meat should be used with lots of peas, beans and vegetables. Also, the healthier option is to grill the meat.<br /> <br /> Soups<br /> <br /> According to Grant, soups made by Jamaicans turn out more like traditional stews. A lot of starches like yams and dumplings are added, and this is too much. The best thing to do is to put less food and less meat in the pot, and more vegetables and legumes.<br /> <br /> Sodas<br /> <br /> A lot of carbon dioxide is put into sodas to make them fizzy. The sugar content is also very high, and this is bad for your teeth. Some people turn to diet sodas, but Grant says these are still not the best, as they contain alternative sweeteners. Unlike sugar that has been around for centuries, these sweeteners are fairly new and the long-term effects are still unknown. He says the best alternative for soda is water or coconut water. You could consider fruit juice, but watch the amount you consume. <br /> <br /> Ice cream<br /> <br /> Eating frozen yoghurt is better than eating ice cream. Manufacturers use buttermilk, full cream milk, fat, sugar and preservatives and additives. There is no way to tell if they used the healthy versions of the ingredients. With frozen yoghurt, however, the milk and fat is already broken down, making it healthy and easier to digest for the lactose intolerant.<br /> <br /> Sweets<br /> <br /> For those who love to munch on sweets, try raisins, craisins, dried fruits, fresh fruits and carrot sticks instead. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635199/257386_84162_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM Do you really need to take multivitamins? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Do-you-really-need-to-take-multivitamins-_87594 By PENDA HONEYGHAN IN order to optimally complete its daily tasks, the human body requires a variety of complex vitamins and minerals, and these are generally provided by a balanced diet. But as more people become fixated on achieving better health, taking supplements where there is a nutrient gap in their diet is thought to be a quick fix. Even people who eat balanced meals have been known to take supplements in a bid to be on the safe side.<br /> <br /> Dietician and nutritionist Jenelle Solomon says the intended use of multivitamins is for supplementation only.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Multivitamin supplements contain vitamins and minerals. The intended use is to supplement the diet where necessary, as opposed to making it a whole food substitute. This means that if you are consuming foods as outlined as part of a healthy diet, there is no need for them.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> She noted, however, that some people, because of their lifestyle, cultural, religious choices or pre-existing medical conditions, do not consume foods from the essential food groups and would therefore need these supplements.<br /> <br /> For example, a person who does not eat meat because of their religious convictions will resort to B12 vitamins, calcium and iron to supplement the need.<br /> <br /> Solomon was quick to point out, however, that getting the essential vitamins and minerals directly from the source is always best. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;A point for consumers to take into consideration is that whole foods are a better source of complete nutrition, because these foods normally contain more than just one particular nutrient, hence they offer more than just one specific health benefit. On the other hand, a particular supplement provides a particular vitamin or mineral. Take for example beans &mdash; they are high in fibre, contain protein, B vitamins, iron, zinc and magnesium.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> She said the downside of taking multivitamins increases when people begin to treat multivitamins like a nutritional insurance plan &mdash; chucking down several tablets a day. This results in overdosing, which introduces the exact thing you were trying to prevent &mdash; medical complications. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;When taking supplements, it&rsquo;s easy for people to overdose because it almost becomes second nature to just swallow a pill. And it is important for these people to look for signs of toxicity associated with taking these &mdash; for example, weakness, lethargy, headaches and depression. There are also specific medical conditions that could be brought on with overdosing on specific vitamins and minerals. <br /> <br /> These include the following:<br /> <br /> &bull;Vitamin E supplement overdoses may increase your risk of heart failure as well as premature death.<br /> <br /> &bull;Overdosing on vitamin A can be bad for your bones.<br /> <br /> &bull;Too much vitamin B-6 may cause nerve pain and seizures. <br /> <br /> Solomon said that before you choose or use multivitamins, if you believe you must or if you have conditions which require you to, you must seek guidance from the appropriate health care professional to minimise the possibility of negative health consequences. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635179/257384_84196_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM A child with two fathers http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/A-child-with-two-fathers_89146 Margarette MACAULAY Dear Mrs Macaulay,<br /> <br /> I was with a young lady for four years but throughout the relationship there was another guy present who she said was a family friend. I later found out that she was actually in a relationship with him while we were together. She had a son during the relationship and I registered him in my name. I was supporting the child up until he was three years old &mdash; even after we broke up.<br /> <br /> The child came to see me when he was three and told me that the other man was his daddy. The mother then prevented me from having access, though over the years she would pop up now and then and send a few pictures. But she would never allow me to see him or be a part of his life. So I stopped supporting him.<br /> <br /> The child is now 12 and she has allowed me to see him on two occasions. When I ask her if he knows I&rsquo;m his father, she said yes, but I should try not to push anything on him. I found out that the child has the other man listed as his father on his school records, and even uses the guy&rsquo;s name even though my name is on the birth certificate. The other man has no clue I exist, and has been supporting the child.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> When I found out this last bit of information she blocked me from seeing the child again, even though she is still trying to get me to support him.<br /> <br /> How do I proceed legally?<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Your situation is extremely sad but it is even more so for the child. This child unfortunately has a mother who I am sure loves her son, but who has no idea of true and proper parenting, nor does she seem to be particularly interested in the concept of acting in the best interests of her child. The poor child must be in a state of constant confusion about your identity and role in his life.<br /> <br /> I am concerned about the fact that you are the registered father and yet your son&rsquo;s school has other information. Surely his mother would have had to produce his birth certificate to the school for their records? If so, how could they have entered a man other than his registered father on their records? Did you ever try to find out the reason from the school? As the registered father you have the right to do so. <br /> <br /> The run-around from the mother is neither fair to the child nor to you. In fact, it is quite cruel, manipulative and dishonest. Anyway, you have now clearly decided to do what you should have done years ago.<br /> <br /> You must go to the Family Court in your parish and make an application for (1) a declaration of paternity; (2) joint custody of the child; (3) access to the child for fixed periods of time.<br /> <br /> The application for a declaration of paternity would cause the court to order that a DNA test be done. You must take a certified copy of your child&rsquo;s birth certificate with you to the court and tell the clerk everything that you have stated in your letter to me, and anything that you left out. In other words, you must be clear why you, as the registered father, are applying for a declaration of paternity. A DNA test must clearly be done in the circumstances you have related, as it is a factual and legal necessity for the real paternity of the child to be known. The continuing situation could cause you or your estate after your death to be found legally obligated to provide for the child despite the mother&rsquo;s failure to treat with you as such, save for her receiving and wanting support from you for the child.<br /> <br /> If the test shows the other man as the father, the birth certificate will be so amended and you will be out of the picture legally and factually as the child&rsquo;s father. The emotional repercussions should be handled with the aid of a counsellor. You can ask the court, if this is the result, to let you have counselling with one of the court&rsquo;s counsellors. This service is free of charge.<br /> <br /> If the result of the test shows that you are indeed the father, then you would be entitled to an order of joint custody so that you can have equal rights with the mother to make all important decisions for the development and welfare of the child, and you would also have the right of access to him &mdash; not only to spend a few hours now and then with him, but also residential access if you can manage this. The court would then also fix the monetary contribution that you should provide for his maintenance.<br /> <br /> Please proceed with the applications I have suggested as quickly as you can. This matter must be settled as quickly as possible before the child gets any older.<br /> <br /> Good luck.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Margarette May Macaulay is an attorney-at-law, Supreme Court mediator, notary public, and women&rsquo;s and children&rsquo;s rights advocate. Send questions via e-mail to allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com; or write to All Woman, 40-42 1/2 Beechwood Avenue, Kingston 5. All responses are published. We cannot provide personal responses.<br /> <br /> DISCLAIMER:<br /> <br /> The contents of this article are for informational purposes only and must not be relied upon as an alternative to legal advice from your own attorney.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13640132/tf_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM The benefits of a sugarless diet http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/The-benefits-of-a-sugarless-diet_88074 BY PENDA HONEYGHAN ELIMINATING sugar from your diet, especially if you have a sweet tooth, can be quite difficult. This is due to the highly addictive properties of sugar, which are almost synonymous in nature to cocaine addiction. But fighting the temptation, even if it means that you will cheat a few times, has great benefits, according to dietician and nutritionist Jenelle Solomon.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Research has shown that the eating habits of the western world, which Jamaica is a part of, are [mainly] sugar-related. In fact, if you should remove all items with sugar, only 20 per cent of items would remain on supermarket shelves. The reason for this is that sugar, generally glucose, is found in a myriad of foods, for example pasta, canned vegetables and even grains,&rdquo; Solomon explained.<br /> <br /> Solomon was quick to point that while sugars don&rsquo;t add value to the diet, all sugars are not equal, and artificial sugars in particular actually cause more harm to the body. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Most foods found in the supermarket have glucose, while other products such as dairy contain lactose. However, the sugar that is of most concern is the table sugar that is used in the production of your soft drinks or used to sweeten your teas. It is 50 per cent glucose and 50 per cent fructose.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> Fructose, according to Solomon, was formerly found in just a few foods, but now many foods are manufactured using this sugar, even though the body has not developed an efficient way to deal with it or metabolise it. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;To put things into context here, someone on a 2,300-calorie diet (which is normal) can develop heart disease, diabetes, gain excess weight and develop an insulin resistance just from having 40 teaspoons of sugar daily or even a little less,&rdquo; Solomon explained. <br /> <br /> How do people who decide to commit to a sugar-free diet stand to benefit? <br /> <br /> It&rsquo;s a great anti-ageing therapy<br /> <br /> Sugary foods are the skin&rsquo;s enemy. The collagen proteins in the skin are very adhesive and when sugar molecules attach to them they become inflamed and are compromised. This results in the skin losing its youthful appearance and becoming dry and creased. <br /> <br /> Wards off diseases<br /> <br /> Sugars play a pivotal role in the development of many harmful diseases such as diabetes, cancer and Alzheimer&rsquo;s. Additionally, you could begin to develop a fatty liver, which incurs risks of insulin-resistant diabetes, more triglycerides in the blood which will result in blocked arteries and subsequently heart disease. <br /> <br /> Less fat build-up/less stress on the metabolic system<br /> <br /> When we consume foods with fructose or sucrose, the body deals effectively with the glucose portion, but as for fructose, it turns to fat. This fat accumulates and creates what is called visceral fat, which is fat around the organs (thin on the outside, fat on the inside) which subsequently causes a range of metabolic diseases. <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Aids in managing weight gain <br /> <br /> Too many sugary foods in the diet over an extended period of time encourage the resistance to insulin, which triggers the body to store extra fat and slows down metabolism. Additionally, sugars also encourage overeating. This is because sugary foods influence leptin &mdash; a hormone key to controlling and managing glucose storage. Weight gain as a result of this is seen around the waistline. <br /> <br /> Improved sleep<br /> <br /> When the blood sugar is regulated, this promotes good sleep patterns and gives you consistent energy which will not be drained as quickly as with sugar consumption. Regulated insulin diets promoted by consumption of whole foods in the absence of sugars also reduce fatigue, meaning you can focus more, and by extension improve brain function.<br /> <br /> Improved oral health <br /> <br /> Sugar is bad for your teeth. Most of the bacteria that contribute to tooth decay, gum disease, and other oral health complications are caused by sugar consumption. <br /> <br /> Solomon said that while 25 grams or six teaspoons per day is safe to consume, avoiding sugar altogether is perhaps the best alternative. It is tempting to overindulge because most foods &mdash; even those perceived to be healthy &mdash; contain sugar. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635297/256074_84250_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM Signs you&rsquo;re in the right relationship http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Signs-you-re-in-the-right-relationship_88097 BY FALON FOLKES FROM a young age, many people create a mental list of the characteristics that their &lsquo;perfect person&rsquo; must possess. But then experience teaches them that the perfect person does not and will never exist, because no one is perfect. But this does not mean that you will not find a partner you can settle down with. Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell identifies signs below that you can stop searching.<br /> <br /> 1. There is a high degree of connectedness between the partners<br /> <br /> You are at a good place on the intimate, commitment and physical levels. The emotional connection must be deep. You should feel linked to each other and be compatible with each other.<br /> <br /> 2. You communicate effectively and have high regard and respect for each other<br /> <br /> Communication and respect are key things in a relationship. You should be able to speak with your partner about anything and resolve issues amicably. You must respect each other and also each other&rsquo;s opinions and decisions.<br /> <br /> 3. You are best friends and can freely share your high and low moments with each other<br /> <br /> You know you are in the right relationship when you can confide in each other about personal matters and not worry about your partner spilling your secrets.<br /> <br /> 4. You have each other&rsquo;s back and can depend on each other for emotional support<br /> <br /> You should be able to rely on each other for support in all situations at all times. You should always be able to count on your significant other to be supportive and have confidence in you.<br /> <br /> 5. You can be yourself around your partner and don&rsquo;t have to put on a performance<br /> <br /> Being involved with someone should never mean that you have to change who you are. If you are comfortable being yourself with your partner in your private space and when you&rsquo;re out together in public, this is a good sign that you are in the right relationship. <br /> <br /> 6. You enjoy each other&rsquo;s company and yearn to be together when you are apart<br /> <br /> You must love being around your partner and doing things together, whether it&rsquo;s watching his favourite game or your favourite movie. If something happens and you must be away from each other for a while, you should miss each other and long for your partner&rsquo;s company. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635180/257385_84197_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM From Khlo&rsquo;s Khloset http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/From-Khlo-s-Khloset_88903 New mum Shavelle Mayler has a lot to smile about this Valentine&rsquo;s, and it&rsquo;s not just at her beautiful six-month old daughter! Her online fashion portal Khlo&rsquo;s Khloset is up and running, and for the young lady from Westmoreland who moved to Mandeville to pursue a degree in Management Studies at Northern Caribbean University, it&rsquo;s another box to check off.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;My mum used to sew as a hobby,&rdquo; shared Mayler with<br /> <br /> AWF. Those perfectly-fitted matching outfits for Mayler and her two sisters made her fully appreciative of the time spent on making clothes. &ldquo;Whenever my mum took a break or completed a project, my eldest sister and I would collect scraps and make clothes for our dolls. Closer studies exposed us to more skills and soon we were designing and making our own clothes,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> But disaster struck the budding designer. &ldquo; My mum allowed me to design two outfits for my sister which I had a seamstress make&hellip; alas, she did not fully grasp my vision and made two of the most horrible outfits that my mum insisted we wear to church. Let&rsquo;s just say that we definitely stood out and learnt a valuable lesson! I still do sketches now and again, as one of my ultimate goals is to have a line for myself,&rdquo; Mayler informed.<br /> <br /> Until then, her one-month-old fashion portal targeted at new mothers and university students is gaining traction. &ldquo;Being a new mum, I understand the strenuous task of visiting shops, not just for myself but also for my daughter, and as a past university student [I know] our pockets cannot always stretch for a new outfit. Khlo&rsquo;s Khloset has made it easy, with the click of a button from the comfort of your home, once you have access to the Internet, at reasonable prices. There is no hassle, wait time or shipping cost&rdquo;.<br /> <br /> Indeed Mayler, whose wish this Valentine&rsquo;s Day is for women &ldquo;to dress to impress&rdquo;, believes that because online stores do not carry high overhead costs, these savings can be passed on to the consumer. Also, there&rsquo;s more time to spend going through the numerous selections.<br /> <br /> To join in the fun:<br /> <br /> Relax.<br /> <br /> Sip a cup of coffee or tea or a glass of wine.<br /> <br /> Smartphone, PC or iPad in hand.<br /> <br /> You will need a PayPal account.<br /> <br /> Go on the website www.khloskhloset.com<br /> <br /> Select the items and add to your cart.<br /> <br /> Click checkout when you are through.<br /> <br /> Pay using your PayPal account.<br /> <br /> Allow 24-48 hours for delivery.<br /> <br /> Shoot credit:<br /> <br /> Photographer: Carlton Anderson (@rbcphotoworks)<br /> <br /> Assistant: Geovani Hinds (@vannihinds)<br /> <br /> Model: Dwayna Mayler (@dwkimmeh)<br /> <br /> Make-up: Terri-Ann Grant @tluxebeauty<br /> <br /> Shoes: Chic Shoes (@chicshoesja)<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635401/257166_84216_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635408/257164_84215_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635400/257178_84231_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635403/257174_84228_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635404/257170_84222_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635405/257171_84223_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635406/257173_84227_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635407/257168_84218_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635409/257169_84220_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635410/257167_84217_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635411/257172_84225_repro_w300.jpg http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13635412/257175_84230_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM Remember: Be Heart Safe http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Remember--Be-Heart-Safe_88958 HEART disease is the number one killer of women in Jamaica, and it is also the leading cause of death for both men and women worldwide.<br /> <br /> February is Heart Month, and through the Heart Institute of the Caribbean, women and men are aiming to raise heart disease awareness and change the statistics through education, prevention and action.<br /> <br /> Last week the Heart Institute family wore the colour red in an effort to raise awareness for the Go Red for Women initiative, which is a national movement in the United States of America to end heart disease and strokes in women.<br /> <br /> According to the American Heart Association, each year heart disease causes one in three deaths among women, or the death of approximately one woman every minute. But it doesn&rsquo;t affect all women alike, and the warning signs for women aren&rsquo;t the same for men. <br /> <br /> So remember to be cognisant of the risks of heart disease and get checked to prevent a possible fatality. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/8264773/heart_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, February 13, 2017 3:00 AM