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Updated daily 7 days a week, 24 hours a day en-us copyright Jamaica Observer, 2011 Young pregnant moms have more than twice the risk of stroke http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Young-pregnant-moms-have-more-than-twice-the-risk-of-stroke Doctors have long warned women that getting pregnant later in life can raise the risk of stroke, but a study suggested that actually, only young women face this increasing risk.<br /> <br /> The findings in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) Neurology compared stroke rates among pregnant and non-pregnant women of different age groups.<br /> <br /> Previous studies have focused on the rate of stroke among pregnant women of different ages &ndash; finding stroke is more common among older women &ndash; but have not included a non-pregnant, aged-matched control group for comparison.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Despite stroke being a rare event in young women, 18 per cent of all strokes in women younger than 35 years were associated with pregnancy,&rdquo; said the study led by Eliza Miller of Columbia University.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;In contrast, among older women of childbearing age, 1.4 per cent of strokes were associated with pregnancy.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> The findings are based on data on women hospitalised due to strokes in the state of New York from 2003 to 2012.<br /> <br /> Of the more than 19,000 women admitted for strokes during that decade, just over four per cent were pregnant or had delivered a baby in the last six weeks.<br /> <br /> Women 24 and younger had more than twice the risk of stroke in the pregnancy and six-week postpartum period (14 strokes per 100,000 women) as their non-pregnant counterparts (six strokes per 100,000 women).<br /> <br /> Among women aged 25 to 34, pregnancy associated stroke happened at a rate of 21.2 per 100,000 pregnant women, compared to 13.5 per 100,000 non-pregnant women.<br /> <br /> Strokes became more common among women aged 35 to 44, but surprisingly, there was hardly any difference in stroke rate whether women were pregnant (33 per 100,000) or not (31 per 100,000).<br /> <br /> In the next age group, 45 to 55, stroke rates were far higher among non-pregnant women (74 per 100,000) than among pregnant women (47 per 100,000).<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Although older pregnant women had higher rates of stroke in pregnancy than younger pregnant women, their risk of stroke was similar to women of their own age who were not pregnant,&rdquo; said the study.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;But in women under 35, pregnancy increased the risk of stroke, more than doubling it in the youngest group.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> More research is needed to understand why pregnancy raises the risk of stroke in young women, researchers said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Although older women have an increased risk of many pregnancy complications, a higher risk of stroke may not be one of them,&rdquo; said the study. <br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13390786/brain_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, October 28, 2016 9:04 AM 5 Cranberries don&rsquo;t help urinary infections, study finds http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Cranberries-don-t-help-urinary-infections--study-finds Another folk remedy bites the dust. Cranberry capsules didn't prevent or cure urinary infections in nursing home residents in a study challenging persistent unproven claims to the contrary.<br /> <br /> The research adds to decades of conflicting evidence on whether cranberries in any form can prevent extremely common bacterial infections, especially in women. Many studies suggesting a benefit were based on weak science, but that hasn't stopped marketers and even some health care providers from recommending cranberry juice or capsules as an inexpensive way to avoid these uncomfortable and potentially risky infections.<br /> <br /> The new study , published online Thursday in the Journal of the American Medical Association, used rigorous methods and the results are convincing, according to a journal editorial. Health care providers who encourage using cranberry products as a prevention method "are doing their patients a disservice," the editorial says.<br /> <br /> Urinary infections lead to nearly nine million doctor visits and more than 1 million hospitalizations each year. Men, because of their urinary anatomy, are less vulnerable, while almost half of all U.S. women will develop at least one of these infections in their lifetime. Symptoms can include painful, frequent urination and fatigue. Antibiotics are often used to treat the infections, which usually are not serious but can lead to kidney infections and sometimes dangerous bloodstream infections. Urinary infections are the most commonly diagnosed infection in nursing home residents, but they often have no obvious symptoms and evidence suggests antibiotics have little effect in these older patients without symptoms, the study authors say.<br /> <br /> THE STUDY<br /> <br /> The research included 147 older women in nursing homes who were randomly assigned to take two cranberry capsules or dummy pills for a year. The number of women with laboratory evidence of infection &mdash; bacteria and white blood cells in their urine &mdash; varied during the study but averaged about 29 percent overall in both groups. Ten infections in the cranberry group caused overt symptoms, compared with 12 in the placebo group but that difference wasn't statistically significant. There also were no differences in hospitalizations and deaths between the two groups. The National Institutes of Health helped pay for the research, led by Dr Manisha Juthani-Mehta, a Yale University infectious disease specialist.<br /> <br /> Ocean Spray Cranberries, Inc., one of the best-known makers of cranberry-based products, promotes the purported health benefits on its website. Responding to the new study, company spokeswoman Kellyanne Dignan cited previous studies that suggested a benefit and said, "We take great pride in our cranberry products and the health benefits associated with them."<br /> <br /> THE ADVICE<br /> <br /> People who think they have a urinary infection should see a doctor for diagnosis and treatment, but avoid cranberry products "in place of proven treatments for infections," according to the National Institutes of Health alternative medicine branch.<br /> <br /> The journal editorial says additional research is needed to find effective treatments for nursing home residents and others.<br /> <br /> "It is time to move on from cranberries," the editorial says.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13390771/cran_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, October 28, 2016 8:59 AM 5 Could your child be depressed? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Could-your-child-be-depressed-_77871 CHILDHOOD development is marked by a number of factors that will no doubt cause your children to experience the occasional sadness, loss of interest in social activities or a one-off emotional tirade. But clinical psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell said that this should not be confused with depression, which she says many parents rule out as just another developmental stage. <br /> <br /> &ldquo;Mental health professionals were of the view that children did not experience depression. Clinical research has shown that children do experience depression. The popular belief was that clinical depression in children was very different from in adults, but in reality, the challenges are actually similar,&rdquo; Dr Bell said. <br /> <br /> She explained that major depression is diagnosed when there is depressed mood or irritability, loss of interest or pleasure in most activities over a period of two weeks &mdash; especially those they usually enjoy &mdash; and is prolonged. <br /> <br /> Dr Bell pointed out that if, following this two-week observed withdrawal, the following symptoms become commonplace, then parents should make every effort to seek immediate professional help for the child. Among the signs of concern are: <br /> <br /> &bull; Appetite disturbance<br /> <br /> &bull; Significant weight loss or gain<br /> <br /> &bull; Sleep disturbance<br /> <br /> &bull; Increased feelings of agitation<br /> <br /> &bull; Restlessness<br /> <br /> &bull; Loss of energy<br /> <br /> &bull; Feelings of worthlessness or guilt<br /> <br /> &bull; Difficulty concentrating or indecisiveness<br /> <br /> &bull;Thoughts of death or suicidal ideation.<br /> <br /> These symptoms may cause significant impairment in school and social functioning; however, Dr Bell said these signs may not be so easily identified. She said that parents could more readily identify them if they are paying close attention to their children.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;We know how important being with friends is, and if your child suddenly doesn&rsquo;t want to do that any at all without a valid reason, of course in association with other changes such as failing grades, a sudden disinterest in the things that they once craved, then you should be concerned,&rdquo; Dr Bell said. &ldquo;Even simple things such as nail biting or increased somatic complaints can be signs. Other more serious problems are a hostile attitude, enuresis (bed-wetting), shyness, unmotivated weeping and self-isolation.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> She was quick to point out that these may not all happen, in fact, only a few signs at a time may be on display. However, these she noted do not form a natural part of the child&rsquo;s personality, and for this reason alone parents should not only be concerned, but act on it to ensure that the child will be given the psychotherapy care and treatment as determined by mental health aids to ensure that they can return to leading their lives unmarred by depression. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13383183/236402_63394_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, October 26, 2016 12:00 AM 1 Allergic reactions in children http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Allergic-reactions-in-children_77872 ACCORDING to paediatrician Dr Anona Griffith, &ldquo;an allergic reaction is an exaggerated response of the body to an otherwise harmless substance (allergen). These allergens include food, chemicals, pet hairs, dust, plants and other environmental factors&rdquo;.<br /> <br /> Exposure to allergens produce a chemical reaction under the direction of the immune system. The chemical reaction triggers a cascade of other responses and interactions, which can manifest as a local reaction at the site of contact, or entry into the body or the body system involved or it can become generalised, involving the entire body.<br /> <br /> Dr Griffith said allergic reactions can easily be identified. They usually come in the form of itching, redness and swelling, sneezing when exposed to dust, coughing, wheezing, vomitting and diarrhoea. Dr Griffith added that symptoms such as a severe reaction called anaphylaxis can be life-threatening. Chemicals released by your immune system during anaphylaxis can cause you to go into shock. <br /> <br /> Some common allergic conditions are asthma, allergic rhinitis, allergic conjunctivitis, eczema and atopic dermatitis. <br /> <br /> The more common allergenic substances that children react to are:<br /> <br /> Food<br /> <br /> Peanuts, seafood, wheat, milk, soy, citrus.<br /> <br /> Medications<br /> <br /> Penicillin based, medications containing sulphur.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Environment<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Dust, pollen, dustmites, animal hairs and furs, bee/wasp stings.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Chemicals<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Latex <br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Identifying allergens<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> The best way for parents to find out if their children have allergies is to look out for these symptoms when children are consuming food and taking medications, when they are around animals, and when they are outdoors. Dr Griffith recommends that you make note of these triggers and reactions. If you realise that your child is allergic to something, seek medical advice immediately to confirm diagnosis.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Treatment<br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Treatment for allergies vary based on the severity of the reactions. Usually allergies are treated with Epinephrine(Epi-pen); asthma inhalers/pumps; antihistamines (some available over the counter); emollients; steroids (inhaled, topical, oral, or injectable depending on severity); adrenaline or immunotherapy (to downgrade the exaggerated immune response). <br /> <br /> Dr Griffith pointed out that allergic conditions cannot be cured, but can be effectively controlled. As a parent it is imperative that you stay informed about your child&rsquo;s allergies and the medication(s) used to treat their condition. Always have medication on hand. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13383180/236395_63378_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, October 26, 2016 12:00 AM 2 http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13383181/236395_63378_repro_bbysecld.jpg Noise harder on children than adults http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Noise-harder-on-children-than-adults_77599 FROM the cacophony of day care to the buzz of TV and electronic toys, noise is more distracting to a child&rsquo;s brain than an adult&rsquo;s, and new research shows it can hinder how youngsters learn.<br /> <br /> In fact, one of the worst offenders when a tot&rsquo;s trying to listen is other voices babbling in the background, researchers said recently at a meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;What a child hears in a noisy environment is not what an adult hears,&rdquo; said Dr Lori Leibold of Boys Town National Research Hospital in Omaha, Nebraska.<br /> <br /> That&rsquo;s a Catch-22 in our increasingly noisy lives because &ldquo;young children learn language from hearing it&rdquo;, said Dr Rochelle Newman of the University of Maryland. &ldquo;They have a greater need for understanding speech around them but at the same time they&rsquo;re less equipped to deal with it.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> It&rsquo;s not their ability to hear; for healthy children, the auditory system is pretty well developed by a few months of age.<br /> <br /> Consider how hard it is to carry on a conversation in a noisy restaurant. Researchers simulated that background in a series of experiments by playing recordings of people reading and talking while testing how easily children detected words they knew, such as &ldquo;playground,&rdquo; when a new voice broke through the hubbub, or how easily they learned new words.<br /> <br /> The youngest children could recognise one person&rsquo;s speech amid multiple talkers, but only at relatively soft noise levels, Newman said. Even the background noise during relatively quiet, day care story time can be enough for tots to miss parts of what&rsquo;s read, she said.<br /> <br /> It&rsquo;s not just a concern for toddlers and preschoolers. The ability to understand and process speech against competing background noise doesn&rsquo;t mature until adolescence, Leibold said.<br /> <br /> Nor is the challenge just to tune out the background buzz. Brief sudden noises &mdash; someone coughs, a car horn blares &mdash; can drown out part of a word or sentence. An adult&rsquo;s experienced brain automatically substitutes a logical choice, often well enough that the person doesn&rsquo;t notice, Newman said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Young children don&rsquo;t do this. Their brain doesn&rsquo;t fill in the gaps,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> Children who were born prematurely may have an additional risk. When preemies spend a long time in an incubator, their brains get used to the constant &lsquo;white noise&rsquo; of the machine&rsquo;s fan &mdash; different from a full-term baby who develops hearing mom&rsquo;s voice in the womb and thus is wired to pay more attention to voices, said Dr Amir Lahav of Harvard Medical School. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/8611273/DSC_2319_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, October 26, 2016 12:00 AM 3 Photo: I&rsquo;m clever! http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Photo--I-m-clever-_78323 Romiah Wilson is a clever four month old. She&rsquo;s very determined and likes to complete tasks on her own. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13383185/236410_63393_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, October 26, 2016 12:00 AM 4 Photo: Hi! http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Photo--Hi-_78313 Model: Nathan Pearce http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13383184/236389_63415_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Wednesday, October 26, 2016 12:00 AM 5 Hubby played me for a fool http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Hubby-played-me-for-a-fool_77843 Dear Counsellor,<br /> <br /> I have been married for 18 years. My husband and I were separated for four years and during that time we both got involved with different people. After the four years we decided to give our marriage another try. I ended my outside relationship but his was on and off. It started causing quarrels between us and he said I couldn&rsquo;t expect him to just drop everything and continue as usual.<br /> <br /> Fast forward to present. When we were separated he had drawn up separation papers which I had signed at the time. When I came back he told me that he was not going through with any divorce because he wanted to give us a chance. However, this year he came with an Absolute paper which is the final divorce document, to show me that the divorce came through. I was so shocked because he told me he wasn&rsquo;t going through with it and I believed him. <br /> <br /> A week after he showed me the paper, I went through his phone and saw some wedding photos. To my surprise, he was the groom in the photo. I enhanced the picture because I wanted to see who the bride was and there it was, the same girl from the relationship he had when we were apart.<br /> <br /> I confronted him and he said that he didn&rsquo;t know how to tell me. All this time we were still intimate, going out with the kids, and planning for the future. I did not know any man could be so cruel.<br /> <br /> Right now I don&rsquo;t know what to do. His excuse was that she was migrating and he wanted her to file for him when she went away because it would be easier. My kids and I are so torn; me especially, because I trusted him.<br /> <br /> I am seeking your advice about what to do. He is still living with me at the moment because it is his house.<br /> <br />  <br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> When married couples separate and decide to give the marriage another try it is always recommended that they seek professional help before proceeding the second time around. During that period there are issues that they need to discuss before they continue. It would be business as usual if those issues are not addressed and so it would be a matter of carrying on with the same problems that caused them to separate in the first place.<br /> <br /> Those four years of separation and seeing other people would have meant that your interest and attention were not on each other at the time and so no attempts of reconciliation would have been likely. It is interesting or rather curious that whereas you made a clean break from your outside relationship, your husband was still connecting with his outside lady. This is a conversation that you both should have had and a commitment made to sever all ties with the outside persons. His continuation with the outside relationship, albeit on and off, is a clear indication that he was not ready for a committed relationship with you.<br /> <br /> It is obvious that your husband had a master plan that you were not a part of. From all indications, the plan was to divorce you and marry this other lady who could provide him with permanent resident status benefits abroad. So while she is away you both would continue in a cohabiting relationship with no legal strings attached. Is this an arrangement that you would be comfortable with? Surely you would realise that your status would have been downgraded from wife to mother of his children/ex-wife/girlfriend.<br /> <br /> Honesty and integrity are necessary components of a committed relationship and it does appear that deception played a very active role in your narrative. Had you not pried in his phone and saw those lovely wedding pictures where he proudly stood beside his new bride, you would have been kept in the dark. <br /> <br /> You have to consider all the factors including the fact that children are involved and decide if you want to continue in this present scenario or move on with your life. The fact that you managed to survive in the four years you were separated would mean that you can do it again. Your mental health and emotional well-being are paramount, so do look after yourself. <br /> <br />  <br /> <br />  <br /> <br />  <br /> <br /> Wayne Powell is a relationship counsellor. Write to crisscounselloronline@gmail. com; check out his work overseas on www.seekingshalom.org, e-mail powellw@ seekingshalom.org.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374600/235713_62765_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 1 Vows: Our Cinderella Story http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Vows--Our-Cinderella-Story_77242 A love story 12 years in the making got its picture-perfect ending when high school sweethearts, Diedra Francis, banker at Sagicor Life Limited, and businessman and software developer Desmond Campbell wed on September 24, 2016 at the St Catherine De-La Vega Cathedral. Vows brings you the magical moments.<br /> <br /> The initial encounters, as told by Diedra..<br /> <br /> &ldquo;As a child, I would often go on field trips with the churches I occasionally visited. I once went on an excursion to Cranbrook Flower Forest, St Ann, at the age of 10, with a church group I was visiting. Desmond was also there, but we were not formally introduced. I knew of him long before he knew me &mdash; as an avid viewer of Television Jamaica&rsquo;s School Challenge Quiz, I would often watch him play matches for his high school.<br /> <br /> Desmond attended, then worked right afterwards at St Jago High School &mdash;the alma mater of many of my friends. I often visited the school&rsquo;s compound and admired him from afar during his football matches and would frequently hear my friends in conversation about the &ldquo;really smart lab technician&rdquo; who held tutoring classes and was really good at math and chemistry. Little did I know this was the same person. <br /> <br /> On January 17, 2004 &mdash; his birthday &mdash; we finally formally met when I visited his church in Spanish Town. I popped my shoe, he offered his; we started talking and an instant connection was made. It felt like I knew him all along (which technically, I did). &ldquo;<br /> <br /> One week later, on January 24, the couple decided to make things official. That date has been significant ever since. Conversations of marriage were raised at an early stage in their relationship which resulted in negative responses from persons who believed they were too young to consider such a commitment. However, the couple made a vow to one day get married and prove their naysayers wrong. Fast-forward to 2016; they both decided it was time to seal the deal.<br /> <br /> The wedding<br /> <br /> The St Jago De la Vega Cathedral, Spanish Town was the appropriate venue for the Cinderella-themed ceremony. The brick walls and Victorian-style architecture was the perfect touch to the minimally decorated space. The bridesmaids made their entrance to Pachelbel&rsquo;s<br /> <br /> Canon in D Major dressed in floor-length wrap dresses, each in unique pastel colours from Lauderdale Bridal Boutique. They were escorted by the dapper groomsmen, who complemented them in fossil grey suits and pastel neckties, also from Lauderdale Bridal Boutique. Church bells rang, and guests stood looking on with love as Joan Pryce walked her youngest daughter up the aisle to the strains of Wagner&rsquo;s Here Comes The Bride. Diedra was gorgeous in a fit and flare strapless lace gown made with love by her mother. At the altar, Desmond was eagerly awaiting his bride decked in an all-white three-piece suit with a white necktie from Lauderdale Bridal Boutique. The ceremony was officiated by Reverend Collin Reid.<br /> <br /> The reception..<br /> <br /> ...was held inside the ballroom of Pollyanna Caterers. The bridal party danced their way inside to the Matrimoney Riddim Medley and were soon followed by the newly-weds who made their entrance to Wayne Marshall&rsquo;s Good Ole Wife. It was now over to the evening&rsquo;s master of ceremonies, Damani Blake, who welcomed guests and asked them to be seated. What followed was a surprise to all, not least of all the groom. Diedra stepped to the centre of the room to sing Sarah Bareilles&rsquo; I Choose You as a tribute to her husband. There were few dry eyes. Formalities continued with the cutting of the wedding cake and the couple&rsquo;s first dance as husband and wife to Celine Dion&rsquo;s The Power of Love. Post-dinner &mdash; a sumptuous three-course meal &mdash; the after-party continued at the bride&rsquo;s home.<br /> <br /> The honeymoon<br /> <br /> After spending their wedding night at the Port Royal Grand Marina, the couple continued their honeymoon at Couples Negril. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374469/234457_62954_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 1 Tesha Thompson - Destined to change lives http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Tesha-Thompson---Destined-to-change-lives_77168 SHE describes herself as being melancholic by temperament, but her warm personality and devout passion for transformational learning, leadership, teaching and impacting the lives of children, youth and young adults shrouds that element of her character.<br /> <br /> Born and raised in Mandeville, Manchester for the first eight years of her life before relocating to Kingston, Tesha Thompson told<br /> <br /> All Woman that when people think of &lsquo;melancholy&rsquo; they imagine someone who is sad, but she explained that her personality goes beyond that and encapsulates someone who thinks deeply about life, is very compassionate, structured and grounded.<br /> <br /> As a result, from as young as age six, Thompson said she was conscious that God had a plan for her life and she wanted to be baptised. But though it didn&rsquo;t materialise until she was 12, she said the foundation of her Christian life made her eventually realise that touching the lives of people was part of her destiny.<br /> <br /> However, the format in which it would be done was not cemented in Thompson&rsquo;s mind until she entered Calabar High School as a French teacher &mdash; a job she held for 13 years before moving on to Shortwood Teachers&rsquo; College where she now lectures and coordinates the teaching practice programme in the Modern Languages Department.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I went to the University of the West Indies, did languages, and decided I was going to teach for a year. I went to Westwood High and truly loved the experience because I was moulding and coaching young minds, which I enjoy. I love seeing transformation and growth. But then I left Westwood, came back to Kingston, worked at a hotel for a year, then took on Calabar for 13 years. It was there that it was cemented that this was where I belonged. I started to understand that our boys need someone who won&rsquo;t give up on them. Many of them, I had to intervene several times, and mothers relied on me. Then I was a moved from form teacher to supervisor. I realised the influence I had, parents believed in me, and I was really helping them. I realised my next calling was to help coach and train teachers, so that more persons can have more influence,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> Thompson, who is competent in Spanish, French, German and Japanese, has a bachelor of education in Spanish and a master&rsquo;s in adult learning. She also works as a missionary and coordinator of the Caribbean Field of the Nazarene Compassionate Ministries, which focuses on child development, disaster preparedness, disaster response, the needs of the community, and training teachers/leaders to help to maintain or restore dignity to children.<br /> <br /> Additionally, through her work as a missionary, in 2011 she decided to write a book &mdash;<br /> <br /> Broken for Service: 31 Daily Devotional Reflections for Child Development Professionals, published in June 2016, after what she described as a heartfelt experience in 2010 while serving in the Dominican Republic (DR).<br /> <br /> &ldquo;In 2010 I went to the DR as a missionary in the compassionate ministries. I went to child development centres and the DR has the most Nazarene child development centres &mdash; over 30. I went to about 20 of them. I was sponsoring a little girl and you&rsquo;re not supposed to meet your sponsor, but because of my position they showed me, and when I saw where she lived and other places I broke down and was inconsolable,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I was here in Jamaica sponsoring this little girl in DR and you think you&rsquo;re doing a good job until you meet upon eight, nine persons living in one room. It&rsquo;s so different. Sometimes we think we&rsquo;re poor here, but poverty is real in other areas, so we have to look at other perspectives. I thought about that and persons working in the child development centres, what they had to do. I felt like milk running through a jar; I was broken. <br /> <br /> [But then] I realised that everything God used in the Bible was broken &mdash; the broken bread, broken alabaster jar, David&rsquo;s spirit had to be broken, the temple curtain was broken in order for people to have direct access, broken tombs, broken years of prosperity when Egypt experienced lack, the broken silence of Job... My book is an inspirational tool to parents, teachers, child development professionals, anyone who wants to be an advocate for a child and managers,&rdquo; Thompson said.<br /> <br /> Thompson, who&rsquo;s also the owner and operator of a new company, Tr&Atilde;&copy;sors et Cadeaux (treasures and gifts), enjoys making her own creations which she names off notable Bible characters and gifts them to individuals who may have similarities to those characters.<br /> <br /> Also a wife and mother of one son, she has worked as a reporter for the now defunct Jamaica Herald where she contributed to a section in the Love Herald called Childlike Faith, where she interviewed children who had accepted Christ or were making a difference, and worked as a co-host with her pastor for 10 years on Love 101&rsquo;s Nazarene Connection before it was cancelled. She currently contributes to TBC Radio&rsquo;s Holiness Today.<br /> <br /> Thompson, who has been to every continent except Australia and Antarctica, also holds fast to a saying she coined &mdash; &lsquo;Channel Only, God will get the glory&rsquo;, and the motto of Quebec &mdash; Je me souviens (I remember).<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I call myself the Channel Only author. Everything I do is channelled through Him and if you think of it that way, you think of serving people. Je me souviens &mdash; if I&rsquo;m having a bad day, I remember I also have good days. If I feel like I don&rsquo;t want to be your friend, I remember when you were there for me,&rdquo; she said. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373822/235664_62745_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM Y http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373823/235664_62745_repro_awsld.jpg 06 2 The real reason why I cheated http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/The-real-reason-why-I-cheated_77857 WHEN a partner is unfaithful, the question of what caused such an action usually lingers in our minds, often going unanswered.<br /> <br /> Subsequently, we are left to become our own private investigators and draw conclusions as to the reasons behind the infidelity. Sometimes the answer is straightforward; many times the real reasons remain a mystery.<br /> <br /> All Woman asked a few people to state the reasons they are cheating or have cheated in the past. Their responses are below:<br /> <br /> Jonathan:<br /> <br /> When I cheated on my wife of 15 years it was mere boredom. I was bored of the same old routine and dry period when she just didn&rsquo;t want to be intimate. As a result I got myself a young toy. Eventually she found out and we sought counselling and I can see that now she makes an effort to try new things.<br /> <br /> Avagay:<br /> <br /> I needed to prove to him that I was not weak as he had told me and others. It was a case where he believed that I would not leave no matter what because I was too invested. Truth is, I was. But after I realised this made him feel like he had all right to treat me the way he did, I simply gave him a dose of his own medicine and proved my point that I was not someone to mess with.<br /> <br /> Radgh-Anthony:<br /> <br /> First of all, it&rsquo;s not natural to be monogamous. So on that basis I can&rsquo;t keep one woman. People see it as being dogs, but for me it&rsquo;s natural to cheat. The reason does not have to devious either. It&rsquo;s just needing a breath of fresh air, a change.<br /> <br /> Sharona:<br /> <br /> It was a case of bun fi bun. I was taught to do unto other as I&rsquo;d like them to do to me. My boyfriend at the time had been messing around with about three different girls while I was there being old faithful. It got to me. The stares, whispers and mockery really got to me. So I simply gave in to the advances of someone else and ensured he found out.<br /> <br /> George:<br /> <br /> I told her what I wanted and she couldn&rsquo;t live up to it. I specifically laid out what I liked to do in bed and she always opposed. I wanted a threesome once and she said no, go look that with someone else, so I did.<br /> <br /> Mauve:<br /> <br /> He was too small and lacked creativity to please me. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374593/235716_62747_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 3 When your period will get weird http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/When-your-period-will-get-weird_77823 WHEN on your period, your body will often do unusual things that may cause you to pause and wonder if everything is OK.<br /> <br /> You may feel nauseous, miserable, sleepy, or your period itself may do odd things such as become prolonged or shortened.<br /> <br /> But what causes this? Obstetrician-gynaecologist (ObGyn) Dr Jordan Hardie said once a change is noticed in your period, the first thing to do is a pregnancy test.<br /> <br /> He said once that has been determined, other causes of an irregular period include stress, weight loss, hormonal contraception (oral contraceptive pill, the patch, the injection), pharmaceutical drugs, and medical conditions including polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) and hyper prolactinemia (over production of prolactin which is a hormone made in the brain).<br /> <br /> Dr Hardie further explained that conditions that may cause the patient to have heavy periods are generally sub classified into gynaecological and non-gynaecological.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Gynaecological causes include uterine fibroids, which is very common in women of African descent in the reproductive age group, endometrial polyps (an abnormal growth from the tissue lining the uterus), endometrial hyperplasia (excessive growth of the tissue itself lining the uterus), adenomyosis (when the deposits of tissue lining the uterus are located within the walls of the uterus itself) and in rare cases, endometrial cancer.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> Below he explains what women should expect their period to do after certain occurrences that are likely to happen in their lifetime.<br /> <br /> After pregnancy<br /> <br /> Dr Hardie said in most women the menstrual period returns approximately six weeks after delivery if delivery was uncomplicated. &ldquo;However, for women who exclusively breastfeed, they may experience a delay in the return of their period. This is known as lactational amenorrhoea,&rdquo; he said.<br /> <br /> After a miscarriage<br /> <br /> The ObGyn said the return of the regular menstrual period after a miscarriage is dependent on the gestational age (how far along) the pregnancy was at the time of the miscarriage. He said patients who experience a miscarriage within the first trimester can expect a return of their period between four to six weeks after the miscarriage, while patients who experience a miscarriage within their second trimester may have a delay in the return of their period up to six weeks after the miscarriage.<br /> <br /> After starting hormonal birth control-pills, injection, patch<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Patients on the pill will notice a withdrawal bleed upon completion of the pill cycle. On rare occasions some women will notice spotting after starting the oral contraceptive pill. This will spontaneously resolve in most patients. Some women may, however, on consultation with their gynaecologist, have to change the pill they are taking or the method of contraception if the bleeding does not stop,&rdquo; he said. &ldquo;Women who have been placed on the injection may report persistent spotting which is a common side effect of the injection. Patients who start the patch should notice a withdrawal bleed in the fourth week after the patch is removed.&rdquo; <br /> <br /> After stopping birth control<br /> <br /> Dr Hardie said women who stop birth control may not have a return of their normal menstrual period up to three months after stopping their birth control.<br /> <br /> As it relates to fixing the issues, Dr Hardie advised women not to try to regulate their own periods as this can lead to complications, toxicity of the drugs they may be taking, and heavy bleeding which may impact fertility.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;If the patient is having an abnormal period they should see their gynaecologist and have the reasons for the irregularity investigated,&rdquo; he said. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373825/235711_62769_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 3 http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373831/235711_62769_repro_awsecld.jpg Christene King fought breast cancer and won http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Christene-King-fought-breast-cancer-and-won_77749 TODAY Christene King is giving God thanks that after a breast cancer diagnosis in May, she has successfully gone through surgery and is recovering with minimal complications.<br /> <br /> When King spoke with All Woman, she said routine mammograms were what she did every year at the Jamaica Cancer Society, but for some reason, she slipped up until a close friend died from the disease and she realised she needed to get her breasts checked.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;So in my bed one night I was feeling up my breast and said to myself, this don&rsquo;t feel right. I asked my daughter to feel it and tell me if she felt anything and she said &ldquo;yes mommy&rdquo;. So I called Yulit Gordon from the Cancer Society and she said to come in the following day and do a mammogram,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> King explained that after the results came back she was sent to do an ultrasound and then an aspiration biopsy and wait for the results. But she said after 10 days passed and she received no calls from her physician she felt she was OK; however, her worst fears were soon realised.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I felt lifted and said if it was anything serious they would have called. Then I got the call and they said it&rsquo;s it &mdash; cancer. I&rsquo;m a gym freak so I never imagined myself having breast cancer. When I heard it, the day when my surgeon said it to me, I went straight to the gym and began working out, working out my brain. I said breast cancer &mdash; no sah, work out this thing. Then my girlfriend called me and I told her and she said, &lsquo;Cho, just cut it off&rsquo; &mdash; very nonchalant,&rdquo; King said.<br /> <br /> Moving forward proved to be somewhat easy for King as she quickly made up her mind to get rid of the breast. However, it took some reassurance form Dr Jennifer Mamby Alexander for King to do the procedure locally.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I thought about going overseas and she said, &lsquo;Christene, you did all your tests here, if you go overseas it will take you to October because you will have to retest as they won&rsquo;t accept the tests we did&rsquo;. She explained that when I felt that lump it was two years in the making and by the time I was about to have surgery it had grown a little. So I consented and on August 10 I had my surgery,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> Fortunately for King, because her cancer was detected at stage 1a and various tests done showed that it was loose and hadn&rsquo;t spread, she was not a candidate for chemotherapy or radiation.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;They do three different tests to find out what kind of cancer it is. If the third one had proved negative I&rsquo;d have had to do chemotherapy. But from the test came back with oestrogen receptor positive you can always chop that down and control that. I know people who have to have [chemo] before and after the surgery. Thank God I caught it early and it was nowhere else in my body,&rdquo; King said.<br /> <br /> However, as a result of the cancer being oestrogen receptor positive, King has had to remove some of her lymph nodes resulting in her developing lymphedema &mdash; swelling that generally occurs in one of your arms or legs, sometimes both, caused by the removal of or damage to your lymph nodes as a part of cancer treatment.<br /> <br /> She has also been placed on Arimidex for the next five years to lower the oestrogen levels in her body and given the Zoledronic Acid treatment to protect her bones as the pills can compromise their density.<br /> <br /> But the side effects of the Zoledronic Acid took King by surprise.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;I just never realised it would be this bad. The oncologist said I would feel sick but I never imagined this. My face, my bones, my eyes, my teeth &mdash; I&rsquo;m in literal pain. Everywhere is pain. It&rsquo;s the first I&rsquo;ve felt so sick since the cancer, to the point I can&rsquo;t even move. I have to take my time and step, but the doctor said this will all pass,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> Moreover, she said her support group has truly helped her because the mental and psychological aspect of cancer can really affect people negatively.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;You hear about having breast cancer and you hear about chemotherapy. Nobody told me what it was like to lose a breast. For the first few weeks after surgery I just couldn&rsquo;t look down. You still feel it, you still feel all the veins. Your nipple still itches you and when it&rsquo;s nipping/healing you feel the pain deep down. I just had to learn to deal with one breast,&rdquo; she said.<br /> <br /> King said it&rsquo;s not a death sentence, but encouraged women to do their mammograms, have good insurance coverage and obtain a National Health Fund (NHF) card.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Once you&rsquo;re diagnosed, take immediate and aggressive action, get all your diagnostics done. It is expensive, it is damn expensive. Thank God I had insurance. But then you think of all of these women who have nowhere to go and can&rsquo;t afford to pay. Even if you do it at a public hospital there is still a cost. But try and secure an insurance policy. Also, with the NHF card the Arimidex pills which would once cost me $70,000 a month as I need two packs per month now cost me $95. I was just blown away. I&rsquo;ve been encouraging all my friends and children to do their mammograms. It&rsquo;s very important. I fell off the bandwagon and didn&rsquo;t do any for a while, but please, get it done,&rdquo; King said. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374599/235661_62759_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 4 Pregnant, but dad doesn&rsquo;t want baby http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Pregnant--but-dad-doesn-t-want-baby_77966 DEAR MRS MACAULAY,<br /> <br /> I am seeking advice about the laws in Jamaica as it relates to men who refuse to register their children. I am pregnant and on my own. I was told by the potential father of my child to do an abortion, but I refused. He vowed that if I didn&rsquo;t do it he would not help in any way, claiming that the responsibility of caring for a second child is too much for him. I do not have a job.<br /> <br /> However, my family comforted me and promised to help me take care of the child until I am able to provide. But the problem that I am contemplating and that I&rsquo;m worried about is that he is insisting that if I have the child, I will have to give it my surname, as he will not participate in the registration process.<br /> <br /> What should I do in this case?<br /> <br /> I am sorry to learn about the selfish and irresponsible decision and conduct of the man with whom you had unprotected sexual relations, which resulted in your becoming pregnant. I can assure you that he cannot successfully renege on his parental responsibilities as long as you do what is right and due to your child. <br /> <br /> It is very good that your family is standing by you and has promised to assist you and your child after the birth.<br /> <br /> So what is the legal situation? The law, in the Registration (Births and Deaths) Act, directs that it is the duty of a mother and father of a child to provide the Registrar of Births, within 42 days of the birth of their child, information on the particulars necessary for the birth to be registered as appears in the Prescribed Form, and in the presence of the Registrar, to sign the form.<br /> <br /> In the circumstance where the mother and father are not married, as in your case, you can give to the Registrar a declaration in the form required by the Act, and signed by you, in which you name the person you say is the father of your child. A notice of this fact will be sent to him and if he does nothing after he receives it, then his name remains in the records of the birth of the child as the father. He can, however, sign and submit a counter notice that he is not the father. He must do so, however, within three months of the date he received the notice. If he does so within the statutory period of three months, then the Registrar will not take any action to include his name in the records.<br /> <br /> If your child is born in a hospital &mdash; public or private &mdash; it is the duty of the chief resident officer there to give the information necessary for the birth to be registered or to sign the registration form and counterfoil and to submit the same to the Registrar within 14 days of the birth.<br /> <br /> If you do not name the father of your child after the birth in the hospital or to the midwife (if one does your delivery), then you can thereafter, if he still refuses to be the child&rsquo;s father, apply to the Family Court in your parish or to the Supreme Court under the Status of Children Act for a declaration of paternity and as amended by the Maintenance Act, you need not wait until you give birth to make the application for a declaration of paternity, as it gives you the right to apply to the court while you are still pregnant. <br /> <br /> You can, at the same time that you make the application for the declaration of paternity, also apply for maintenance for your child. You did not say whether you and the man lived together as man and wife for a period of five years. If you did so, then you can also apply to the same court and at the same time for maintenance for yourself.<br /> <br /> Let me make something very clear to you, and the father must be made to know and recognise this also. It is your child&rsquo;s fundamental human right that we are talking about. Your child has the right to have the name which in law he should have; that is, to have his father named in his birth records and to bear his father&rsquo;s name. Since the alleged father has walked away, it is your duty to make sure that your child&rsquo;s father is named as such, so that your child will have what he is entitled to in law and in fact. <br /> <br /> So if you do not do the declaration naming this man as your child&rsquo;s father at the time of reporting the birth of your child to the officer at the hospital, you must do the application for a declaration of paternity to the court, where a DNA test will be ordered and once the result shows that he is the father, he will be bound by law to meet his obligations as the father and the declaration will be sent to the Registrar of Births to be included in the records of your child&rsquo;s birth.<br /> <br /> You must do what you must for your child. It is your duty to act on behalf of your child. Remember, applications in the Family Court are free of legal costs. With your family&rsquo;s support, you can do what you must for your child.<br /> <br /> Good luck.<br /> <br /> Margarette May Macaulay is an attorney-at-law, Supreme Court mediator, notary public, and women&rsquo;s and children&rsquo;s rights advocate. Send questions via e-mail to allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com; or write to All Woman, 40-42 1/2 Beechwood Avenue, Kingston 5. All responses are published. Mrs Macaulay cannot provide personal responses.<br /> <br /> DISCLAIMER:<br /> <br /> The contents of this article are for informational purposes only and must not be relied upon as an alternative to legal advice from your own attorney.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374597/235788_62757_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 4 Man talk? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Man-talk-_77870 THROUGHOUT the 2016 United States general election campaign, Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump has been heavily criticised for his routine degradation of women.<br /> <br /> His latest offence, however, is technically 11 years old. But the time stamp on the leaked video in which he could be heard bragging about being allowed certain privileges with women has caused quite a stir. In fact, the 2005 recording has caused several supporters to withdraw support for him. <br /> <br /> But while some have found Trump&rsquo;s comments to be synonymous with that of a sexual predator, others, including his wife Melania, and even prominent locals, have come to Trump&rsquo;s defence on social media, and have sought to trivialise and normalise the video saying &ldquo;that&rsquo;s how men talk&rdquo;. <br /> <br /> But is that really how men talk? Does boasting about having certain privileges with women earn you cool points during your usual man talks? <br /> <br /> All Woman sought the opinion of men:<br /> <br /> Garth: <br /> <br /> Personally, I was not raised that way. Trump is very entitled and he shows every day that he has not a care in the world. Women, especially, are treated like objects, so of course when he said what he said I wasn&rsquo;t surprised. Admittedly, as men sometimes we can become a little graphic and overzealous, we talk about women whom we really like or whom we would like to romp a little rough with, but to say that we would mess with a girl without her permission is straight rapist intention. Any day any member of my circle brings that to the group I know he would be expelled or I would take away myself. A woman, regardless of how she wants to carry and treat herself, should be respected and treated like a queen. <br /> <br /> Andre: <br /> <br /> I am loader man and I have no ratings for Donald Trump. But if I am to be real with you, what his wife said about how men talk is true. And it&rsquo;s not the talk alone, it&rsquo;s what they do. A woman will be going to work and a man will tell her that he wants to do obscene things to her. Some men will go as far as when they are loading the bus, to touch and fondle women and pretend like it&rsquo;s accidental. And when the work gets slow, they talk and they will say what they are going to do next or which other woman they&rsquo;re going to touch and where. So it&rsquo;s a real thing, but my thing is different. I have my woman, and my mother always tells me not to touch what is not mine. So I will listen to them, but I don&rsquo;t have anything to add. <br /> <br /> Mickel: <br /> <br /> When you are around your friends, of course women will come up. What will definitely not come up is that we are invading the space of a woman, that we are making her uncomfortable, and that we are putting ourselves in a position to be locked up because we violated her. You should be able to see and not touch and that is a general principle that we have. It&rsquo;s the same way we will see a bad Audi and will not touch it unless we have permission to. So at this point, I couldn&rsquo;t agree with Trump&rsquo;s wife that that is how men talk. <br /> <br /> Keno: <br /> <br /> Anybody who&rsquo;s saying that&rsquo;s how men talk must be crazy. I am no saint and yes, I have listened to discussions and I have made comments about women &mdash; we have pointed out some who are easy; those who are gold diggers; their faults (nothing bodily) just regarding their personalities, for example, the fact that they would do anything for money; that they are vulgar or the way they dress, but no, we have too much fun talking about business ventures, football and dream cars to even discuss much else. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374595/235783_62746_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 4 Remember: Domestic violence awareness http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Remember--Domestic-violence-awareness_77649 OCTOBER is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and it is important that we understand that both men and women are susceptible to such forms of violence.<br /> <br /> Domestic abuse refers to physical, psychological, emotional, sexual, verbal and financial exploitation which is meted out by a spouse to his or her partner.<br /> <br /> Many women and men will experience abuse in their lifetime, but according to the US-based National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, only 34 per cent of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.<br /> <br /> Women abused by their intimate partners are also more vulnerable to contracting HIV or other STIs due to forced intercourse or prolonged exposure to stress, the Jamaica Aids Support For Life says. Based on their research, they found that it is more difficult for women to refuse sex when in an abusive relationship, to get their partners to be faithful, or to use a condom.<br /> <br /> And physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have also been linked with intimate partner violence. <br /> <br /> It is essential that a multidisciplinary approach is taken between all those involved in curbing this issue &mdash; any involved social workers, psychiatrists and other doctors, and the community. <br /> <br /> Remember, for the rest of October and beyond, report incidences of domestic violence as your report could save a life. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/9273258/ZZ588ADC1C_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 4 Controlling high blood sugar http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Controlling-high-blood-sugar_77883 Dear Donovan,<br /> <br /> I have high blood sugar. What is good for controlling high spikes in the blood?<br /> <br /> Blood sugar spikes which are maintained over prolonged periods are usually caused by diabetes mellitus. Diabetes mellitus refers to a group of diseases which affect how the body uses glucose. Glucose is very important as the primary source of energy to the cells and brain. However, people with diabetes usually have too much glucose in their blood. Diabetes mellitus is usually caused by the pancreas not producing enough insulin (type 1 insulin-dependent diabetes mellitus) or the body not responding effectively to the insulin that is produced (type 2 non-insulin dependent diabetes). In addition, there is also another form of diabetes that may present itself in some pregnant women &mdash; gestational diabetes.<br /> <br /> The most common diabetes symptoms include frequent urination, intense thirst and hunger, weight gain or unexplained weight loss, fatigue, cuts and bruises which do not heal quickly, sexual dysfunction in men, and numbness and tingling in the hands and feet. For people with diabetes, it is very important to control the sugar levels. <br /> <br /> It should be noted that diabetes can affect the entire body. People with diabetes may have eye complications, for example, glaucoma and cataracts. Skin complications are also seen in some diabetics. In addition, nerve complications, for example, neuropathy, is also sometimes seen in some diabetics. Also, the risk of cardiovascular diseases are much higher in diabetics.<br /> <br /> It is therefore important that the blood pressure and cholesterol levels are checked regularly. In addition, people who are overweight and those who are obese have a much higher risk of developing diabetes. <br /> <br /> If you are a type 1 diabetic, eating healthy, doing adequate exercise and taking insulin can help you live a normal life. People with type 2 diabetes who are eating healthily, are physically active and who test their blood glucose levels regularly may be able to control their blood sugar levels. Low blood glucose levels (hypoglycaemic) is just as bad as a high sugar level (hyperglycaemic). As much as possible, diabetics want to reduce spikes in their glucose levels.<br /> <br /> Healthy eating is a very important to controlling this condition. It is also important to understand portion size and the glycaemic index of the foods we eat. It is also necessary to control the carbohydrate intake and therefore the amount of sugar released into the bloodstream. It is best to avoid sugar and sweetened beverages such as sodas. Consuming smaller meal portions more frequently may also help to reduce glucose spikes. If you are on medication it is very important to balance your medicine with your food.<br /> <br /> Regular exercising can also help to keep the blood glucose levels under control. Also, keeping the body hydrated is helpful. Drinking plenty water while exercising is also important as dehydration can affect the sugar levels.<br /> <br /> We will answer your weight-related questions<br /> <br /> Are you struggling to lose weight or just need some advice on living a healthier life? Tell us about your health issues and we&rsquo;ll have nutritionist and wellness coach Donovan Grant answer them for you. Grant has over 12 years&rsquo; experience in the fitness industry and is the owner of DG&rsquo;s Nutrition and Wellness Centre, 39 Lady Musgrave Road, Kingston 5. Call him at 876-286-1363. E-mail questions to clarkep@jamaicaobserver.com.<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373828/235714_62762_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 5 Exercises to ease your back pain http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Exercises-to-ease-your-back-pain_77874 THE discomfort of back pain is something people of all ages can relate to. Sometimes it gets so bad that you have to visit the chiropractor. <br /> <br /> There are many things that can cause back pain. Two main ones are staying in one position for long periods of time and lifting objects incorrectly.<br /> <br /> According to personal trainer Rohan Gordon, lifting objects incorrectly causes trauma, resulting in an instant back spasm (contraction of the muscles) in the lower back. He stressed that the right way to lift things is to spread your legs shoulder width apart, squat down keeping your torso upright, and lift with your legs and not your back. He also pointed out that lifting small objects can also result in injuries &mdash; it&rsquo;s not what you lift but how you lift that causes the problem.<br /> <br /> Gordon recommends the following stretches to relieve back pain. <br /> <br /> 1. Warm up<br /> <br /> As with every exercise routine, warming up is the first step. In a standing position, place your right leg over the left leg and stretch all the way down. Gordon recommends that you hold the stretch for no more than six seconds at a time. <br /> <br /> 2. Bottom to heel stretch<br /> <br /> Gordon told All Woman that this stretch will allow free movement of the spine and ease pressure from off the nerves. To begin, go down on both hands and feet. Your knees should be in-line with your hips and your hands in-line with your shoulders. Hold this position for 15 seconds. While doing this stretch, keep your arms fully extended.<br /> <br /> 3. Knee rolls<br /> <br /> Lie on your back using a small cushion or book to elevate your head. Relax your body, keep your knees bent, chin tucked in, and spread your arms like an eagle. Turn both legs left, centre, then right. Repeat these movements eight to 10 times. For comfort, feel free to use a pillow or foam roller between your knees.<br /> <br /> 4. Back extension<br /> <br /> Lie on your stomach, placing your arms under your body or at your sides. Push your body into the floor, keeping your neck long and back arched. As you do this you should feel a gentle stretch in the stomach muscles. Repeat this eight to 10 times. Hold for five to 10 seconds with each repetition. <br /> <br /> 5. Abdominal strengthening<br /> <br /> This stretch strengthens the supporting muscles around the spine. To start off, lie on you back, and place a small, flat cushion or book under your head for slight elevation. Bend your knees and keep your feet straight. Take a deep breath in, pushing hips up towards the ceiling. As you breathe out, draw up the muscles of your pelvis. Go back to starting position and breathe in for five to 10 seconds, push up your hips, deep breathe in and out. Repeat this five times. Gordon explained that this is a slow, gentle tightening of the lower abdominal region. Do not use more 25-30 per cent of your maximum strength. <br /> <br /> Although these simple exercises can be done to ease back pain, it&rsquo;s better to be safe than sorry. Gordon advises that if you mostly sit at work, you should get up at regular intervals and simply stretch your body. This relaxes the muscles and increases blood circulation. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373827/235718_62761_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 5 Are you in an abusive relationship? http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship-_77969 HARSH words, bruises, discomfort in the presence of your partner or quivering at the sound of partner&rsquo;s angry tone are just a few signs of an abused spouse. But even with physical scars to match the psychological pain, a victim of abuse is often in denial that this is their reality.<br /> <br /> How do you know that you are in an abusive relationship especially when the abuse has not become physical? <br /> <br /> Relationship Counsellor Wayne Powell shares indicators:<br /> <br /> 1. He refuses to listen to you and shoots down every suggestion that you make<br /> <br /> Your input is a non-issue. As a matter of fact, in all discussions you are basically a bystander even if the issue affects you.<br /> <br /> 2. When you make a good, workable suggestion, he &ldquo;captures&rdquo; it, taking all the credit for himself<br /> <br /> He discredits your ability to reason and discards all that you have said by downplaying the significance, importance or strength of your argument, then restructures your words while using your thoughts and claiming them to be his. <br /> <br /> 3. He never pays you a compliment and looks for every opportunity to put you down<br /> <br /> No matter how nice you look or the effort you put in ensuring that you represent him well, there is always an issue with how you look or what you say or even eat. He is more interested in pointing out your flaws, even if they are all in his head. <br /> <br /> 4. He always compares you to his co-worker or former girlfriend and casts you in a negative light<br /> <br /> He is always in some competition with everyone else. He obviously believes that you are inferior to other women, and will harass you, not because he wants better for you, but because he wants better for himself.<br /> <br /> 5. He never takes you out and dissuades from going out with your friends<br /> <br /> You are a house rat. Outside of work and probably church you are home all the time because he doesn&rsquo;t want to take you out, and you always have to decline the offers made by friends because he doesn&rsquo;t want you to socialise with them. Sometimes, even more than physically, he tries to restrict even phone conversations with them. <br /> <br /> 6. He is always reminding you of some past event (mistake) which you have long recovered from<br /> <br /> Your life revolves around your past &mdash; at least to him &mdash; because he will not allow you to move past that one mistake. He pretends to be perfect and to want the same for you and even when he makes similar errors he makes them a non-issue and gets angry if your dare bring them up. <br /> <br /> 7. He seeks to sink you in a state of dependency by controlling all the finances<br /> <br /> Even when you are making your own money, he controls the accounts. Like a child you are given an allowance and should you spend beyond that given cap, if he even allows you so much access, then you are scolded. <br /> <br /> 8. He makes life changing decisions without consulting with you so that you will not influence the outcome<br /> <br /> He makes decisions that could affect you both without consulting you first. <br /> <br /> 9. He intimidates and drives fear in you and makes you feel doubtful about your future <br /> <br /> You are his piece of property and all decisions are made by him. Should you ever deviate from his plan, you could very well be punished for this. <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> 10. He wants you to create your whole existence around his &ldquo;world&rdquo;<br /> <br /> He is the centre of your universe. Therefore, plans that you make should have his interests considered first. This could see you neglecting those that are close to you, even yourself. http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374604/235789_62766_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 6 Laparoscopy and infertility http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Laparoscopy-and-infertility_77221 NOT being able to get pregnant is a frustrating ordeal for many couples. In fact, as many as one in every four people have had some issue with infertility in their lifetime. Although the inability of couples to conceive may be a result of issues in both men and women, unfortunately the majority of causes are found with women. This is simply because there&rsquo;s just more that can go wrong. <br /> <br /> Men only have to worry about enough strong sperm getting to the egg. For women, it&rsquo;s a complicated process from forming a mature egg to releasing it to a spot where the sperm can fertilise it, and then carrying the fertilised egg to the womb. In fact, one in 10 women between ages 15 to 44 have gone to a doctor about not being able to conceive. Many of these women often get frustrated with the multiple doctors&rsquo; visits and medications along with their side effects. The emotional strain can be especially great when the pregnancy test is negative or their monthly period shows up.<br /> <br /> Laparoscopy has been used to help women with infertility issues. Now not all women will benefit from this procedure, and certainly it&rsquo;s not used as the first option in the majority of cases. However, it can be very useful in treating conditions that affect fertility in women. These include:<br /> <br /> PCOS<br /> <br /> Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) is a common cause of infertility. It mainly does this by preventing the woman from producing eggs in a timely fashion. Medications such as metformin and clomiphene have been used to treat women with PCOS with good effect. Some women, however, don&rsquo;t respond to the medication, and others can&rsquo;t tolerate the side effects such as nausea, vomiting, bloating, diarrhoea and headaches. In these women, a procedure called ovarian drilling is useful, so useful that in women who fail treatment with medication, drilling can lead to natural ovulation in over 50 per cent of them. It also helps to get rid of the beards these women tend to get.<br /> <br /> Blocked tubes<br /> <br /> Blocked tubes is the other major cause of infertility in women. Laparoscopy can help to relieve the blockage in some cases, thereby avoiding the need for costly IVF. The success of this procedure depends on how badly damaged the tubes are, which would be noted at the time of surgery.<br /> <br /> Fibroids and endometriosis <br /> <br /> Laparoscopy can also help in treating other conditions that may exist which can impair fertility. Fibroids and endometriosis are two examples. Endometriosis in fact can be toxic to the sperm and eggs, and can cause scarring that distorts the natural positions of tubes and ovaries. Laparoscopic treatment of mild to moderate endometriosis has been shown to improve fertility. In addition, if you are having issues with pelvic pain from your endometriosis, the laparoscopy will have a dual purpose.<br /> <br /> All being said, your gynaecologist is the best person to make the recommendation to do or not to do laparoscopy. Every couple has their own unique situation and every decision is done on a case by case basis.<br /> <br /> Dr Ryan Halsall is an obstetrician and gynaecologist at Island Laparoscopy. To schedule a consultation, send e-mails to info@islandlaparoscopy.com or call 876-455-4527. Facebook Page &mdash; http://www.Facebook.com/ilap.ja<br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373824/235710_62768_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 6 STD awareness: Cytomegalovirus http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/STD-awareness--Cytomegalovirus_77840 CYTOMEGALOVIRUS (CMV), according to obstetrician- gynaecologist (ObGyn) Dr Daryl Daley, is a common virus that can infect anyone, and once infected it stays with you for life.<br /> <br /> But Dr Daley explained that usually the virus remains dormant in a person and only becomes cause for concern if you are pregnant or have a weakened immune system.<br /> <br /> Dr Daley added that while the virus can be seen as a sexually transmitted disease because it can be spread through body fluids, transmission isn&rsquo;t limited to sex.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;It can be spread through touching the eyes or inside the nose or mouth after coming into contact with an infected person, blood, organ transplant, saliva, urine, semen, breast milk and even kissing,&rdquo; the ObGyn said.<br /> <br /> Moreover, he said the symptoms will vary depending on the individual and their health.<br /> <br /> Dr Daley said for babies with congenital CMV (CMV from in the womb) the symptoms include jaundice, purple skin splotches, low birth weight, enlarged spleen and liver, pneumonia and seizures.<br /> <br /> The ObGyn said most babies who are infected before they&rsquo;re born appear healthy at birth, but a few develop signs over time &mdash; sometimes not for months or years after birth. <br /> <br /> He said the most common of these late-occurring signs is hearing loss, while a small number may develop vision impairment as well.<br /> <br /> For those with a weakened immune system, he said signs and symptoms include fever, pneumonia, diarrhoea, hepatitis, seizures and coma.<br /> <br /> He explained that when infected, some adults may have symptoms similar to mononucleosis, including fatigue, fever and muscle aches.<br /> <br /> Dr Daley said detection for at-risk individuals such as babies or those with a compromised immune system is done by screening and blood tests as well as cultures, or by a polymerase chain reaction test from blood, other body fluids or a tissue biopsy.<br /> <br /> He said because the disease often goes undetected, treatment is not needed; however, if you have compromised immunity, treatment may be needed for symptoms of CMV infection such as pneumonia.<br /> <br /> Dr Daley said in this case, usually treatment is given in the form of antiviral drugs, which slow the virus reproduction, but can&rsquo;t cure it. <br /> <br /> &mdash;Kimberley Hibbert http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/12081407/Needle_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 6 AW Fashion: Resurrected trends http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/AW-Fashion--Resurrected-trends_76971 The asymmetric one-shoulder style was dominant in this year&rsquo;s Fall/Winter collections and was seen on the catwalk of major design labels like Ralph Lauren, Celine and Valentino. Also making a comeback were the turtleneck, floral on floral and sequins as seen at Moschino, Giamba and Valentino.<br /> <br /> Nothing&rsquo;s Really New!<br /> <br /> One shoulder - the toga, worn by the Romans and Grecians thousands of years BC, reappeared in the &lsquo;40s as a style detail in glamorous ball gowns and has never gone away.<br /> <br /> Turtleneck &mdash; the turtleneck worn centuries ago as a protective gear, first became popular in the early &lsquo;50s with athletes, however; it would be the film industry with icons like Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe who would immortalise it.<br /> <br /> Floral on floral &mdash; and we&rsquo;re not referencing sofas or cushions! Did you know that floral was once considered a luxury, used as a symbol of dominance in a hierarchy? Floral printed garments became popular in Europe and America during the 17th century and were worn by the wealthy, however, the Industrial Revolution and its advent of mass production made floral available to all. Floral returned with a bang with the Hippy movement of the &lsquo;60s. <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> Sequins &mdash; long before the discovery of plastic, this shiny trend was a hit in Rome and Greece &mdash; holes were drilled into coins and attached to garments to demonstrate wealth. Ecologists also discovered that Egyptians too, had worn this style. A mummified King Tut was found adorned in garments made of the circular coins, which is said to have been worn to ward off evil spirits with its glare. The sparkly trend made its way well into the &lsquo;70s and &lsquo;80s finding favour with designers like Bob Mackie and Bill Blass. <br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13379048/234366_62785_repro_w300.jpg All Woman Monday, October 24, 2016 12:00 AM 7 Adolescent Resource Centre opens at Women&rsquo;s Centre http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Adolescent-Resource-Centre-opens-at-Women-s-Centre_77948 THE Women&rsquo;s Centre of Jamaica Foundation (WCJF) has strengthened its sexual and reproductive health support services provided to teen mothers through the opening of an Adolescent Resource Centre (ARC).<br /> <br /> The German Embassy provided $1.8 million for the refurbishing and equipping of existing space at the WCJF Kingston campus, to house the facility.<br /> <br /> Speaking at the official opening ceremony on Wednesday, WCJF Executive Director Dr Zoe Simpson said ARC will enable teens to have access to services in a confidential and hospitable environment.<br /> <br /> These include individual and group counselling on contraceptive methods; screening and referrals for sexually transmitted infections and human immunodeficiency virus; mental health services to screen and treat for post-partum depression; counselling for victims of gender-based violence; and access to gynaecologists and midwives.<br /> <br /> The WCJF director noted that the centre will also offer support to adolescent males, providing individual and group counselling on sexual and reproductive health as well as psychotherapy to prepare them for fatherhood.<br /> <br /> The Ministry of Health, Jamaica Family Planning Association, National Family Planning Board, and non-government entity Eve For Life, are among partners in the operation of the centre.<br /> <br /> The WCFJ is a government agency mandated to provide adolescent mothers with continuing education and to have them reintegrated into the formal school system after the birth of their babies. Some 46,000 young women have been assisted since its inception in 1978.<br /> <br /> The WCJF first operated an adolescent clinic called Knowledge and Education for Youth (KEY) in 1994, providing individual and group counselling, limited medical services, contraceptive counselling, contraceptive methods for adolescents, and training in peer counselling.<br /> <br /> In 1998, the activities of KEY were reduced and the name of the centre changed to the Kingston Centre Counselling Clinic. In 2014, the facility was closed down and its activities placed under the general programmes of the WCJF. <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13374457/235776_w300.jpg Local News Saturday, October 22, 2016 2:00 AM 4 Girls can cut poverty in developing economies: UN http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Girls-can-cut-poverty-in-developing-economies--UN Developing economies stand to win an extra US$21 billion (S$29.15 billion) if they improve girls&rsquo; health and sex education, the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) said on Thursday.<br /> <br /> Girls in developing countries are less likely than boys to complete schooling because of forced marriage, child labour and female genital mutilation, risking the opportunities presented by their largely young populations, said the study, launched in London.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Over the next 15 years alone, developing countries together stand to gain or forfeit at least US$21 billion, depending on whether or not they invest in the well-being, education, and independence of their 10-year-old girls today,&rdquo; it said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;When the right policies and institutions are in place to build young people&rsquo;s human capital, a developing country can see dramatic economic growth ... leading to a demographic dividend, a unique opportunity for economic progress and poverty reduction&rdquo;.<br /> <br /> Girls are currently less likely to be enrolled in secondary education in Arab countries and most of Africa &mdash; home to 70 per cent of the world&rsquo;s 10-year-olds today.<br /> <br /> Sixteen million girls aged between six and 11 will never start school &mdash; twice the number of boys.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;For 10-year-old girls, a potential tripling of their lifetime income is at stake. For the societies the girls are a part of, the reduction of poverty is at stake,&rdquo; said the report.<br /> <br /> Many girls fail to finish their education after getting married in early adolescence and UNFPA urged countries to impose a minimum age of marriage of 18.<br /> <br /> Every day, an estimated 47,700 girls get married before that age, they said.<br /> <br /> Comprehensive sexuality education programmes should also be expanded to 10-year-old girls in order to protect their health and take control of their own fertility, it advised.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Many girls may not have a safe forum in which to ask questions about these topics, which in many communities are still considered taboo,&rdquo; it said.<br /> <br /> &ldquo;Access to contraceptives for adolescents and women of childbearing age is crucial.&rdquo;<br /> <br /> The study gave India and China as examples of the progress possible if developing countries harnessed their youthful populations.<br /> <br /> Such booms can lead to increased labour force participation, increased earnings, increased longevity and smaller families, but will only materialise with swift action, warned the study. <br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373476/girl_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, October 21, 2016 11:55 AM 5 Red wine compound may help correct hormonal imbalance in PCOS patients http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Red-wine-compound-may-help-correct-hormonal-imbalance-in-PCOS-patients Researchers at the University of California, San Diego, have demonstrated that a polyphenol called resveratrol, which is found in red wine, peanuts, blackberries and chocolate, was able to correct hormone levels in 30 patients with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).<br /> <br /> PCOS is a common condition among women of childbearing age. Symptoms can begin with the first period or in young adult women.<br /> <br /> In these patients, the ovaries produce high amounts of male sex hormones (known as androgens) such as testosterone. The consequences include weight gain, missed periods, acne, and excess hair on the face and body. Diabetes and infertility can also occur in the most severe cases.<br /> <br /> Based on the hormonal blood levels recorded at the beginning and the end of the study, the researchers noted a 23.1 per cent reduction in testosterone levels among women who took the resveratrol supplement for three months. Conversely, the patients who took a placebo saw their testosterone levels increase by 2.9 per cent.<br /> <br /> The study also revealed that the resveratrol brought about a 22.2 per cent reduction in the level of DHEAS (dehydroepiandrosterone sulfate), another hormone that the body converts into testosterone. The placebo group experienced a 10.5 per cent increase in DHEAS levels.<br /> <br /> Once these tests had been completed, the researchers realised that resveratrol also played a protective role against diabetes. Over the three-month trial, the women who took resveratrol became more responsive to insulin.<br /> <br /> These findings suggest that resveratrol can improve the body&rsquo;s ability to use insulin and reduce the risk of developing diabetes. The researchers say that a resveratrol supplement could help to lower the risk of metabolic problems experienced by women with PCOS.<br /> <br /> This study was published in the Endocrine Society&rsquo;s Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism. <br /> <br /> http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/assets/13373472/wine_w300.jpg All Woman Friday, October 21, 2016 11:53 AM 5