I met this wonderful man, what's next?

By Miss Kes

Tuesday, October 03, 2017

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Do you know what is missing in relationships today? Sexual connection? Trust? Communication? While all these answers might be real and solid, the one thing that is actually missing in relationships today is love!

Why is love missing? Simply because we have become quasi-gods and we execute judgement on others which evoke within relationships fear and ultimately rejection. We enter into relationships with our insecurities and our beliefs that make us judge others. We judge without getting to know the real deal.

But note this, you cannot judge someone unless you are ready to be judged and if you are, be ready for the results which will show no difference between your character and the one you judge.

How will a woman know if a man is the real deal? How can she discern if the relationship will be a healthy one?

1. When you meet someone, empty your mind of all beliefs that surround negativity and fear. Get to know someone and be guided by your heart. Don't allow fear to persuade you to make judgements which can result in your opportunity to be loved by a perfectly imperfect soul not becoming reality. Once you have experienced a horrific past, it is best you spend time through meditation and healing that brokenness within before you go searching for another partner. If this is not done, you will enter into a new relationship with old baggage which will aid in your thoughts being judgemental and you will find yourself accordingly thinking that your current partner is just like the one from your past. But no one person is like another, so quit all the judgement. So you must empty your head when you date someone. Take note of their morals and beliefs and how they actually live. Get into the person's life and not just their mind.

2. No one is going to lay out their life on the table on the first date, it is just impossible. You have to invest the time and it is not just about going on dates, but it is getting to know the person. You do this without any list, but just by being led by your heart. You do this by getting involved in the person's life. It is within these moments that you will see the real deal – after the butterflies in the stomach have ceased to flutter and what remains is reality.

3. Don't make a judgement. Get to know people as we all have a story to share. So before you quickly make a judgement on another soul, look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, am I perfect?




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