Respect in relationships is two-fold – you have to give it to receive it. And part of receiving it is commanding it first – your actions should make the other party have no doubt that respect is the desired standard.
How do you achieve this?
Step 1: Know yourself
Take the time to find out who you are and what your true purpose is. When you have a clear picture of who you are, you will be better able to discern what is good for you and what is not, so when someone is offering you something that doesn't align, you can immediately disqualify them.
Step 2: Have standards
It is imperative that you set boundaries and have standards. Nobody will respect someone who basically accepts everything. Accordingly, for others to respect you, there will have to be boundaries or standards for others to meet.
Step 3: Shut down situations/conversations contrary to your standards
If you entertain relationships that are contrary to your morals, you are basically lowering yourself and possibly disrespecting your own self as well. Sometimes it's best to remove certain persons from your life than accept a substandard relationship out of fear, or because you need someone around.
Step 4: Exude confidence
When you are dependent on others to make you happy or to make you feel worthy, this opens the door for others to take full advantage of you and also to disrespect you. So exude confidence, even when you aren't at your best.
Step 5: Respect others
For you to demand something of someone, always ensure you are in a position where your character is not being questioned. You also can't expect respect from others when you have none for them. Be the person you desire others to be to you.