Dealing with insecurities in intimate relationships

By Miss Kes

Friday, November 17, 2017

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We all have them – the flaws within us that we try to hide, and which can cause insecurities in our intimate relationships. These insecurities can eventually become so overbearing that they cause problems.

How should you handle these?

1. Acknowledge their presence. Be honest with your insecurities and write them down. Writing is a powerful tool, and what you learn can be eye-opening.

2. Be honest about who you are. Denial gets you nowhere and keeps you trapped in a place of stagnancy. Women tend to pretend with men because they want to paint the picture of being perfect, when in reality perfection is nothing but a farce. Be real from the get-go.

3. Don't pretend like nothing offends you when it does. If you don't like something your mate does, be open about it. Don't stew in silence and then blow up when he least expects it.

4. Replace thoughts of insecurity with logic. Most of the thoughts that shoot to your mind when feeling insecure are based on fear. But replace those thoughts. Don't assume anything and if you have no evidence of wrongdoing on your partner's part, for example, don't accuse them of such.

5. Spend time with yourself. Invest in the things you love doing. One of the main reasons why so many women feel insecure about what their men are doing is simply because they themselves are doing absolutely nothing with their lives. What investing in yourself does is strengthen your self-confidence and self-worth. There is nothing more attractive to a man than when his woman is confident and doesn't need constant reassurance.

6. Challenge yourself. Look in the mirror and ask yourself, am I being true to myself or am I giving my insecurities the power to rule and wreck my life? If yes, it is time to face the music and keep those insecurities where they belong – nowhere near your life.




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