Signs you're being used

By Miss Kes

Saturday, November 18, 2017

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A lot of women are being used by men and they're not even aware. Some men see having a job as a burden and they capitalize on the educated women to provide for them. They use their looks and charm to capture these women's hearts and the women fall prey to these predators. How do you know that you are being used? The women below share some clues.


My friend told me that she met this handsome guy one day at the bus stop. He is a taxi driver. After a few text messages back and forth they went out, and he confessed to her that he actually had a woman and they lived with each other. He told her he was only living with the woman because he had nowhere else to go. I took this as a sign of him being a user, but she didn't. Every bill he had, my friend started paying them and I couldn't understand how she could be that naïve. A lot of women are being used and they are blind to the looks and the stories these users tell them.


One sure way to know if you are being used is if you purse is always open for business. A real man doesn't allow his woman to pay for dates or pay his bills. So women, look out for that clear red flag and run for your life.


You are a side-chick and being used when he never has time to take you out or have a proper phone conversation with you. If it is always WhatsApp conversations, and if the only time you see him is when he is in financial problems,  honey you are being used.


It is always a sad story when he needs money. I was dating a guy just like this. Anytime he wanted money, someone was sick or someone died, or some other sad story. I got tired of it after I realized that I was being used.


You know you're being used when all the man wants is sex and money from you.




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