Blended families are the new norm – the chances of you picking up a partner who already has children are quite high, as many people are no longer waiting on stable family units to procreate. Therefore, one of the questions you will have to ask a potential mate when you meet is, “Do you have children?”
What would you do if his answer to this was in the multiples?
Mi nah tek up no man wid nuh bagga pickney! Some a dem man guh round a breed up breed up like a pickney farm dem a mek. Once you mention five or more, mi dun wid yuh!
I have been seeing a man for over three years now and he has 15 children. A lot of time I just want to end this thing because yes he takes care of the bills, and no his children don't live with us, but he barely gives me anything because all his money goes to his children and it can be a real pain in the behind. I am not saying he shouldn't give to his children, I am just annoyed that I am pushed all the way to the back.
When I met my husband and he told me he had no children, I was ready to marry him. But during our marriage he has reaped over ten children and right now I am tired of forgiving him. I am unable to have children due to medical reasons but I am sick to my stomach about this.
I don't think any woman should take on her man's baggage. If your man has too many children, you need to really think long and hard if you want to live like that. I know I definitely do not want to be a step-mommy so I stay far from men with children.