A man who is guilty of philandering will first accuse his woman of being equally guilty, in an effort to deflect the blame. So says some sages, and they add that when he starts acting differently, it's time to start investigating.
My ex used to accuse me of cheating all the time, he even told me that he had evidence that I was cheating when I wasn't. He would constantly do that like every day until I started to dig in his dirt and boom, there it was – he was sleeping with my cousin. She was apparently telling him that I was sleeping with other men when I wasn't, and he believed her and slept with her out of 'spite'.
My man is currently doing this to me and it is exactly the reason I moved out because I cannot live like that. I saw him recently taking this woman to our apartment. I haven't said a word to him about it because I think he is a low down loser.
I think a man will throw shade at his woman because he is doing the mess and he doesn't want to take all the blame so he kinda pushes her into thinking about it so she can go do it. It is a mind game and it's very shady. Once a man throws that at me, I throw a break-up at him.
My husband is guilty of this. I know when I am being cheated on because he constantly accuses me. We have been married for over 15 years with four children and that is the only reason why I sit in this mess. I just am waiting until they are old enough to walk out.
Ladies, do not sit and take the accusations. I did and have been going to therapy for years to heal. Do not let any man destroy your mind like that. Most times they are the cheaters anyway.