Unemployed men and independent women don't mix

By Miss Kes

Thursday, November 22, 2018

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There are some dealbreakers when it comes to finding love and making a relationship work. A relationship works well when there is balance and one party doesn't feel burdened. Because once one party feels burdened, there will ultimately be a breakdown, as in the case with the unemployed man and his woman who is carrying the baton.


I felt pressured because my man wasn't working. It seemed like he had no intention of working and so I was the one putting food on the table, paying the bills, and he even asked me for money too. I cheated a few times because I simply couldn't deal with his lack of ambition. We broke up some months ago and I am seeing someone currently with a job and trust me, it is a relief.


My ex always had a dream and no action. Every day he wanted to open this and open that but the bills needed to be paid and he was just home doing nothing, not even to trying to get a job. I got tired of him but what drove me to my limit was when he borrowed my car and when he gave it back, my gas gauge was down and I found a used condom on my backseat. Ladies, before you pick up an unemployed man, take my experience as testimony and don't! Save yourself.


I learnt a serious lesson from my 20s with my ex. I literally would give this man money and he would use my money give to other women, use my car to take out other women, and have sex with other women in my house when I was at work. He was so sure that I loved him to death and that I couldn't leave him until I got tired of forgiving him and left. Some men are a real baggage so before you date them, search their backgrounds.


I cannot picture myself with a man with no job. I cannot understand how some women do it, especially those who are in top professions.


Unemployed and selfish is a deadly combo and that was my ex. My lesson is this, a man must be a man and work, and if he is not working, he should try hustling. But do something.

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