Sexploitation

Sexploitation

Daddy Oh

with Tony Robinson

Saturday, August 08, 2015

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Since I cannot prove a lover,


I am determined to prove a villain.


-- Shakespeare, Richard III, 1,1




SINCE I can't be a lover-boy, then I'll be a villainous rapist-boy. Is that the mantra of people who exploit others sexually? Because they cannot be loved by them, then they'll be villains and take it any which way that they can -- by guile, trickery or force? Exploiting people sexually comes in many ways, and is as old as men and women existed.


When the caveman bonked the cavewoman on the head and dragged her into the cave, was that sexploitation or for procreation? So are we condemned genetically to continue that trend?


And don't think that it's only men who do sexploitation either, for women have played that game too. But then again, is it sexploitation if the so-called victim is a willing and able participant in the act, and at times even initiating the first move? When a schoolgirl comes on to a big man, is that sexploitation, and who is the victim in that case?


Sexploitation is often so difficult to prove, but in most cases it's as clear as the guilt on the face of the perpetrator as he's caught with his pants down, with the underage girl, or boy, innocently snuggling up beside him.


Sexploitation, that's what we'll examine today, right after these responses to 'Sexual fraud'.




Hi Tony,


My Webster's Dictionary defines fraud as deceit, trickery, imposter and cheat. So any sexual act, including faking pleasure, orgasm, intimacy and other acts of affection that are not genuine during lovemaking can be considered fraudulent. But as long as there is no withholding of sex, I can put up with the deceit... so bring it on.


Valentine




Hey Tony,


Sexual fraud as you call it is necessary for any relationship or marriage to succeed. Women have been committing sexual fraud for centuries, from the escorts, consorts and prostitutes who act as if they're enjoying the act, when all that's on their mind is the money. The mistress who acts as if her married lover is the greatest stud, all because she wants to steal him from his wife, commits fraud too.


It's all part of the act and ruse that women use to hold men. Faking orgasms is only the tip of the iceberg, but it's better than being an iceberg in bed.


Venus




What really is sexploitation anyway? It's when one person takes advantage of another solely for sexual gratification. But oh, if only it was that simple and straightforward. I recently saw this case in the USA where a young man, age 19, was carted off to jail and had the ignominious title of 'sex offender' attached to his name forever.


His crime was that he sexually exploited this 14-year-old girl. The emerging truth was that they met on the Internet and she lied about her age, saying that she was 17 years old. So they hooked up, had sex, and then all hell broke loose, starting with his arrest, trial and incarceration.


He's now a registered sex offender, is not allowed any Internet access, and is not able to live close to any playgrounds, among his other restrictions. Even the girl's mother is speaking in his behalf, but the judge cited sexploitation of a minor. Who is the real victim here?


But there are other real sexploiters who prey on minors and deserve the full punishment that the law metes out to them. Those prisoners are considered the vilest scum on the lowest rung of the ladder of criminality, and are despised by other inmates. Some are beaten mercilessly. "See a sex offender deh, mek we drop lik pon him."


There are others though who are very sophisticated and seldom have to pay for their crimes. They are the ones who are suave, debonair, smooth as silk, but as sneaky as the spider that spins that silk. They exploit not only young girls (and boys) but grown women as well.


My mind drifts to Bill Cosby who's now in the news for allegedly sexually exploiting dozens of women over a period of many years. I do not know if all the accusations are true, but if even one is true, then it's so wrong, and his corner is dark. They all say the same thing, that they were drugged and then taken advantage of sexually. He himself admitted to giving several women Quaaludes in order to have sex with them. Why should a man of his stature, power and fame have to give drugs to women in order to have sex with them?


In his defence, his lawyers say that these women were willing participants, because they all went to his room without being forced. Other people say the same thing too: "What are they doing in the man's room late at night if they didn't expect hanky panky?"


If you are a powerful boss and you invite that cute new intern or holiday worker, who's over the age of consent, to dinner and drinks and then end up in bed, is that sexploitation? Some people will say: "If she wasn't up to it she wouldn't go out with him in the first place." Others will say: "A woman has the right to say no whenever she pleases. Some man is too advantage tekking."


My view is: You don't put cream at puss mout and then expect him not to lick it. It's the very same thing if you went out for dinner and drinks with a known gay man and he plies you with drinks, or drugs you, and you woke up next morning naked in his bed. Don't bawl, just tekk whe yu get.


There are so many grey areas and the lines can be so muddled. Women often use this to their advantage. So many times women will go to a man's room and do all that he asks, then just because he didn't drive her back home but puts her in a taxi, or worse, didn't call her the next day, she not only cries sexploitation, but rape.


This has caught more than one top celebrity and other men too who didn't follow up on their promise to carry the romance further. The fury of a woman, loved and left, translates to sexploitation.


Interestingly, many women are also accused of sexploitation, especially in the USA, where more than a few female teachers have been imprisoned for having sex with their students. I haven't heard of any female teacher being locked up for that crime in Jamaica.


Sexploitation is carried out by all and sundry, from coaches to teachers, and bosses who wield power and by powerful women. One very popular scenario is when husbands sleep with household helpers, sometimes right there in the house when the wife is away. That is sexploitation that is common... very common. Another is when female bosses sleep with young male employees and promise them promotion.


Even in the church the clergy is not exempt. Many men of the cloth have doffed their garments and became defrocked even before they were defrocked officially, as they took sexual advantage of their female flock. Only the powerful can sexually exploit, and parsons do wield power, as their congregation is in awe of them, holding on to every word that they preach.


In the olden days, the travelling missionaries sexploited the natives of the countries where they ministered, and that's where the term 'missionary position' came from. That's the way they had carnal knowledge. This occurred frequently during slavery too. Just recently, many French soldiers operating in Central African Republic were arrested for sexploiting young boys. Interestingly, the UN aid worker who leaked the report of the child abuse was suspended.


Mass sexploitation in the form of sex trafficking is a multi-billion-dollar industry that spans many countries. Jamaica is not exempt, and we are listed among the nefarious sexploiting countries of the world. Many people aren't aware of it here, but in some countries it's open and even advertised as a sex tourist attraction.


It can be obvious or it can be subtle, but sexploitation will always be with us.


More time.


seido1@hotmail.com




Footnote: Our water situation is getting more dire every hot, parched day. Some folks have not had any water in their pipes for days, others weeks. The farmers are reeling, as their crops suffer, wither and die. In the USA, parts of California are experiencing the worst drought in over a thousand years, as El Nino takes effect.


It's an epic scenario of Biblical proportions. Are we being punished? I remember many years ago, while working at the Jamaica Information Service, going up in the Jamaica Defence Force twin otter aircraft to film cloud seeding procedures with the legendary 'Captain Marvel' Beek. Is that now an option -- cloud seeding -- or maybe a rain dance?


Oh for a shower of rain, a tropical system, a storm or hurricane that doesn't hit directly but passes close enough to drench us with showers. And yet, I still believe that there are untapped sources here underground.



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