Human sexuality


Sunday, February 18, 2018

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Your affections are

A sick man's appetite,

Who desires most that

Which would increase his evil.

— Shakespeare, Cariolanus, I,1


The birds and the bees, do the wild thing, make love, get down and dirty, copulate, fornicate, consummate, adultery, f… So many words have been coined to describe the sex act, all depending on who's doing it, where and when. 'Nut screws washer and bolts' was what the hardware store advertised, but read between the lines and it's a different perspective.

If you do it too early, it's fornication. If it's after marriage, it's consummation. If it's with someone who's married, but not to you, it's adultery, and if it's with someone after they've died it's necrophilia. Ugh! So many names for the same act.

Mankind is obsessed with sex, and as we get more modern, sophisticated and civilised, this insatiable lust to jump each other's bones seems to be increasing. Now even young children are indulging in the act and nothing is out of bounds, thanks to the Internet that shows more than everything in graphic detail.

“Where did you learn to do that?”

“Oh, I saw it on YouTube.”

Oh yes, human sexuality is the main course on the menu this week, and we'll indulge right after these responses to my piece on 'Poor men'.


Hi Tony,

Gone are the days when a man meets a woman and wines and dines her on a first date, and after taking her home, gently touches her shoulder and leans in for a goodnight kiss. If she decides that she is not attracted to him, she can charge him for being sexually inappropriate or assault. Men who are in the public eye can be accused for any simple 'infraction' and be fired from their jobs, ruining their careers. The women do not even have to reveal their identities, so the men cannot face their accuser or defend themselves.




Can't you see that it's a conspiracy, revenge from some mean-spirited women who have found a new weapon with which to bring down men? In the past they would cry rape, but now this method is so much easier. Just wait 10 or more years then accuse some man of sexual harassment. This is after they consented to the act, but the man didn't stick around afterwards. That's the main reason — they felt jilted, and hell hath no fury like a woman spurned. That's my take on the matter.



Birds do it, bees do it, even elephants and fleas do it, but they do it for procreation. Very few animals indulge in sex for pleasure and actually may meet just once a year to copulate for continuation of the species. Mankind does it for procreation and also for pleasure. The sexuality of man is well known and documented and is perhaps the most powerful feeling that runs the planet. Sex dominates everything.

Men seek power so that they can get more sex, and women seek men with power so that they can give them more sex. Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac, it's been said. It surrounds us, permeates our every fibre; it courses through our veins, consumes our thoughts and liberates our loins. Scientists have proven that sex dominates the average person's thoughts for a great part of each day, especially men.

People cannot live without it, thought or deed, while some can take it or leave it, even though most would rather take it when they can get it. For the most part though, human sexuality reigns supreme. But it has its dark side too.

Recently I saw some videos posted on social media by angry and upset women who claim that their relatives, including fathers, stepfathers, uncles, brothers, friends and cousins, sexually abused them when they were children.

These postings that have gone viral can have a positive and negative effect, for if the accusations are true, then the perpetrators should be exposed and brought to book. But they can also open up a can of worms when malicious women make false accusations against innocent men, ruining their lives. It can boil down to a case of he said, she said.

The last one that I saw showed this woman from St Thomas, now living in the USA, who called the names of all and sundry of the persons who violated her when she was a child. She named uncles, teachers, parsons, even persons who have since died weren't spared her wrath.

Even if you believe her story or not, the fact is, incest and paedophilia are big in Jamaica, as that dark side of human sexuality is brought to the fore. What is it about grown men that makes them want to have sex with little children?

This activity occurs in all classes of society and is not restricted to Jamaica. Members of the royal family have been reported to indulge in incest and inbreeding in order to keep the bloodline pure. That was their reasoning. Also, stories of people in rural USA who indulge in incest are legendary.

People love to have sex and will go to any lengths to indulge in this pleasurable pastime. Even though there are laws against fornication and adultery, people still indulge, for it is the inalienable right of everyone to have sex with whomever, whenever they feel like.

Famed sex researchers Masters and Johnson spent many years chronicling and doing exhaustive studies on human sexual behaviour, so I am not alone in my quest. There have also been other serious research, such as The Kinsey and Hite reports, so you can see just how much emphasis is placed on human sexuality.

Jamaica is a highly sexed country, sexually fuelled, erotic, a fact that's reflected in our music, our dancing, the lyrics to our songs, and our high lust for the opposite sex. When you look at some couples wining, gyrating, writhing like serpents on the ground as they dance, it's pure, unadulterated sex.

Dancehall and carnival are nothing but sexual expressions by couples who want and desire each other. “For goodness sakes, look pon dem wining in the street — get a room.” We are a people obsessed with sex, and it affects all ages and strata of society.

I have lost count of the number of parsons, priests, churchmen who have been literally caught with their pants down as they indulged in sex with young girls. Their deeds litter the pages of our newspapers.

Teachers having sexual relations with their young students also get equal billing, as are the acts of members of the police force, and of course politicians who historically have been lauded for their sexual exploits. “Hey a nuff wife dem man tek whey from other man yu nuh.” As for the DJs and sportsmen, they fully exploit the realms of human sexuality.

Human sexuality makes us exist in a state of constant lust, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it's with consenting adults. But again, the dark side of human sexuality looms, and I was horrified to see a video of a man having sex with a pig in a gully in broad daylight. I have also seen foreign videos of women copulating with animals, but the less said about that the better.

Human sexuality makes us have strong feelings for each other, and few things are better than a couple's strong sexual desire for each other. Lust and desire between couples are good, as they not only show that a strong bond exists, but reinforce it.

Take sex out of the equation and all is lost. Sure, some people are now going to say, “Sex isn't everything, there are other things in life too.” That may be true, but human sexuality plays a major role in relationships, and as long as you can get it on, you should.

Why do you think people cheat? Not to play Scrabble or Monopoly with the other person, but to have sex. Why do you think people get married? Not just to have children but to enjoy each other sexually. It's a gift. Take human sexuality out of the equation and we might as well be lifeless zombies ambling around aimlessly. Shakespeare said, “Affection is a coal that must be cool'd, Else suffer'd, it will set the heart on fire.” Just substitute the word affection for sex and you'll be spot on.

More time.


Footnote: Have you noticed how service has taken a back seat, a turn for the worse in many business places? It's as if some service people take offence to your entering their establishment. Clearly you are a bother to them, for they are curt, aloof, inattentive, discourteous and at times downright rude. Don't they know that it's the customer who pays their salary?

I recall trying to buy a product from a well-known tile/hardware company and the cashier refused to sell me an item because I changed my mind about the type that I wanted. My answer is to always go to the top management or store owner and bypass the minions. Horror stories of bad service abound from people who I know, and all being well, I shall expand on them in the future.

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