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Break the cycle of beating rooted in slavery

Wednesday, October 04, 2017

Dear Editor,

One of the great atrocities of slavery was the act of slaves being used to punish other slaves. It was a method used by slave owners to control and divide black people. Slavery destroyed the family structure and ambitions of blacks, and up to this day we are unable to recover.

For generations this nation has used the passage “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth” to justify abuse of the nation's children.

Don't get me wrong, a child needs to be punished with the rod when needed, but brooms, hoses, machetes, etc have no place in your methods of trying to raise children. The current mentality of the nation needs to be shifted and emancipated from the scars of slavery that have plagued us to this day.

There have been many people who have sought the intervention of the Church, questioning why they are angry all the time. Sad to say, many ultimately realise it's because of what they endured during their childhood.

It's a slavery cycle that has continued from generation to generation, in which physical abuse is used to control and to drive fear. The sad reality is that many adults grow up with a mindset that the abuse they endured as children is a form of love. The scenario gets worse as children grow up angry at their parents for the things that were done to them.

If we, as a nation, are serious about curbing abuse against our children there will be many things that need to be put in place. Our parents need intervention. They are unable to cope and handle the stress, not to mention conflicts.

While corporal punishment is needed in the society and plays a part in bringing up healthy and well-rounded men and women, there are other options available to get results in this regard. Parents must learn that not everything requires you to get the strap to deal with it. Build a relationship with your children and do not be a slavemaster above them.

Notwithstanding, remember this text: Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers (parents), provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. — Colossians 3:20-21

 

Rev Kenroy Edwards

Head of Marriage & Family Ministry

Freedom Evangelical Association

Portmore, St Catherine

kenroy.edwards1@gmail.com