A romantic interlude by phone

Do you have hang-ups? Are you a conventional soul? Do you only do things that only a good girl or boy would and should do?

If you are from the old school, you will wonder, what is this woman asking? Phone sex or no sex? Are the two mutually-exclusive? Or can one have both? What is phone sex?
It is sex by telephone or sex on the phone. You know, a veritable aphrodisiac, a prelude to the real thing.

Picture this. You are all alone at home. He/she is not by your side. You yearn to have him/her near. You long to hear his/her voice, feel his/her hands and lips as they caress your cheek, to nibble at your ear, to muzzle the small pulse at the base of your neck, to traverse the length of your chest, to quickly return to your breast, to cascade to the inner recesses of what is you. To.

Anyway, so you are most definitely in the mood. You quiver in anticipation at the mere thought, the suggestion that you can fulfil what God has ordained since time immemorial, an intermingling of mind and body, a losing of oneself so that you cannot discern the alpha from the omega.
Yes, you are most definitely ready for that ecliptic sensation, but the only problem is that you, alas, are alone.

The phone rings. The conversation: "God, I miss you.! What are you wearing?" "Nothing," you reply. "I am in my birthday suit. I am sitting here, in my darkened room, with a glass of sherry, listening to Luther Vandross crooning "Anyone who ever had a heart."

The music suffuses your inner being. Your senses are awakened and alert at the mere thought of him/her, his/her smell, the erratic beat of his/her heart. and, yes, body. Yes, indeed, you are receptive to the idea of a romantic interlude and you will take a phone interlude, because that is what is readily available. It will have to do, for now!

He/she is thinking of you, far away in Montego Bay or in his/her hotel room in Miami. The love is so vibrant that, simultaneously, you both think of each other. You reach for the phone and declare your undying love and yearning.
I could go on, but mere propriety dictates that I leave it to your imagination. The sky is the limit as to the extent you can carry this phone sex thing and most persons do, in order to achieve climactic release, aided by digital dexterity! Oh, yes!
Some of us are prudes, by name and nature and eschew the thought. Others of us are more practical and see it for its utility - an innocent substitute for the real thing that serves to build on one's relationship and maybe, (at least, that is what women would like to fervently believe) heighten fidelity.

Of course, some of us will use those dial-up services, you know those special numbers, to keep our juices flowing, without any form of commitment. Just a few raunchy words, a few all-encompassing pants, and voila, instant release, without the commitment. Undoubtedly, a copout! Or maybe a lack of self esteem. I guess it depends on what makes you tick. Kinky, I know, but it takes all types to rule world. Vive la difference! Hey, if it's your thing, who are we to pass judgement, although I am sure we do and will!

To me, it is a question of being in touch with one's sexuality. Each one of us must know what turns him/her on and what he/she is willing to do. It is a question of degree. Just how far are you prepared to go?

Then, again, some people engage in phone sex instead of sex. Some engage in both. The point is, one needs to know what one is prepared to do. To my mind, the questions to ask yourself are: Do I like it? Does it fulfil me? If so, to what degree? Am I happy? (In all our doings, we should be just that, happy). Is it a supplement or a substitute for the real thing? Am I happy with my sexual being? (We are so uptight and wound up like a gig that we fail to even think, much less try to discover our inner selves)

The bottom line is to be at peace with one's choices. The discussion begins. Why don't you ask your partner? You may be surprised at what this can do for the old sex life! Think about it. Do away with the good, old missionary! Try something new. This might just be the thing. A word of caution, don't knock it, until you have tried it! At least, the more adventurous of us. The question is, phone sex or no sex? Are you game?

Joy Crawford is a freelance writer.

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