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'She tried to tie me'

Crazy ex stories

Donna Hussey-Whyte

Monday, October 29, 2012    

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IT is said that love can make you do crazy things, and nothing screams certifiably insane like that itch some persons get to go into full Waiting to Exhale mode on their mates when issues arise with the longevity of the relationship.

Below some readers share some of their most memorable trips down loony lane.

'She beat me'

Miguel P, 37, clerical officer:

"For my super feminist ex girlfriend abuse was never OK, except, it seemed, when it came to teaching me a lesson. I made the error of cheating with a co-worker and I did confess to her and begged forgiveness. But her punishment was showing up at my office, intent that she was going to beat me and the girl. I didn't think security was serious when they called me about a 'disturbance out front', but when I got there, there was my girlfriend with a big stick, demanding to talk to the HR manager about my little tryst. When I went to gently guide her back to the car, I got one big slap with the stick, then another. I had to run back inside. Needless to say, no way was I going to stay at that company, as I was the laughing stock that day."

'He called my workplace and told them I was a tramp'

Pamela Allen, public relations officer, 41:

Pamela said she had just started a new job when she had a heated argument with her boyfriend. One day he called her workplace continuously and told persons who answered the phone that she was the kind who would sleep with any and everyone. "I was working there for just about a month so can you imagine how I felt when people kept telling me a man was calling and telling all who would listen that I was like that. I still wonder how I could have been with him."

'She stalked my new girlfriend'

Stephen Clarke, 34, labourer

"I thought we had parted amicably, but my ex apparently didn't understand that I had fallen out of love with her. Maybe I was wrong for insisting that we could still be friends and still hang out together occasionally, as she took this as proof that we were still together. When she heard that I had a new girlfriend she took to stalking the poor girl. She would show up at her work and drive behind her all the way home. She would show up at places she visited, and once we were at the movies and I turned around, and there was my ex, popcorn in hand, with her eyes on my new girl and I. I broke off contact completely but this didn't stop her strange behaviour. The new girl left because she couldn't handle the stress, and even today, my ex is in my life, inserting herself in every situation and ruining all relationships I seek to start."

'He called the neighbours and told them he had caught me with a man'

Racquel Winter, receptionist, 39:

"My ex and I had just broken up," Winter recalled. "I was home from work sick one day and a male friend of mine stopped by to visit. My ex came there, saw him, stood on the verandah and shouted out to the neighbours to 'run come and look', because he caught a man on top of me!"

Racquel said the worst thing was that two people actually came to see. "And of course they believed because a man was there with me and they didn't know that my ex and I were no longer together."

'She tried to tie me'

George S, 47, counsellor:

"Truth is, the red flags were there from the beginning. She had this interest in the occult that I thought was cute at first and because she was a knockout, I let a lot of things slide, like the candles all around the house and her insistence that I 'respect the spirits'. When she mentioned marriage, I indicated my intention to never marry or have kids. I could see the change in her demeanour but our relationship continued. One day I checked her credit card statement and saw several payments to an astrology place that I thought was strange. I Googled them and searched the computer history and saw that she had bought some potions to get her lover to stay committed. Of course I lost it, especially when I remembered that lately, I had been getting stew peas meals for two days per week every week for the last month. I hightailed it out of that relationship before she actually succeeded in whatever plot she cooked up, or killed me with one of her potions."

'He smelled my hoo ha each evening when I came home'

Tamara Wallis, hairdresser 30:

Wallis said she was in an abusive relationship for five years. Her boyfriend was so possessive and jealous that every evening when she got home from work he would accuse her of cheating and would approach her like a sniffer dog before she showered.

"It was the most annoying thing," she said.

'He locked me up for three days'

Stephanie M, pre-trained teacher, 30:

Stephanie told of how she was held captive by her ex for three days.

She said she was with a man for three years who would give her just about anything she wanted. However, she was not in love with him. So when she met someone else, she broke it off. Stephanie said her ex invited her over to his house with the hope of mending things. When she told him it would not work out, he locked her inside a room for three days, took away her cell phone, and told her he would kill her.

"I only saw him when he came to give me food," she recalled about the incident that happened seven years ago. "I really thought he was going to kill me. But somehow he let me go."

Stephanie said to this day she has not got over the fear she felt.





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