THOUGH it may be hard to believe, men’s needs are not so different from women’s. The only difference is that while women will constantly complain that they are not getting enough attention, or that they are not being complimented by their partners, men, who feel the same way, are not so vocal.
“Men want [women] who will affirm them, who will stroke their egos, who will make him feel larger than life,” clinical psychologist and director of Family Life Ministries Dr Barry Davidson said. “All of us men have fragile egos that need to be stroked.”
According to massage therapist Jackie H, women always have to make their men feel good.
“Men love when women make them feel good, especially about sex,” she said. “If you tell a man that he can’t perform, for example, the next time around he won’t even be able to perform.”
Below some fellows share their everyday needs.
He wants you to hold his hand.
“I am a very romantic person,” 47-year-old Clyde Richards told All Woman. “While nuff man believe in giving their woman roses or taking them to fancy restaurants, just walking and holding my woman’s hand in public is good enough for me. To have my woman hold my hand for the world to see makes me feel special.”
Say you love him, and say it often.
“It’s not just women who should hear those words,” Joseph Cameron said. “Just as how she will get miserable if you don’t tell her that you love her, that’s how I feel if my woman feels she should not say it. Even if she shows it, saying it is like the icing on the cake, and I love icing cake!”
He enjoys when you hug him.
“I love when my girl puts her arms around my neck and looks into my eyes,” Cameron added. “That is very reassuring and comforting for me too.”
He wants to communicate though kissing.
“Kissing, that is something I want my girl to do every day,” 42-year-old Gregory Mullings said. “As a matter of fact, she can’t leave the house and I don’t kiss her and she can’t come home and I don’t kiss her, and of course it’s vice versa. I thrive on that, and I think she does too.”
He wants you to compliment his efforts.
“Big me up man,” Adrian Samuda said. “They say men are little boys in men’s clothing and in this case I agree. Just like how it’s good to tell a child that he did good in order to encourage him, that’s how it is with some of us men. Don’t forget that encouragement sweetens labour!”
He wants to hear that he serves a purpose in your life.
“I just want my woman to make me feel like I serve a purpose in her life on a daily basis,” 29-year-old Damien Small said.
He wants a woman he can reason with.
“At he end of the day I just want to know that I have a good woman waiting for me at home that I can tell about my day and how good or bad it was and she won’t use my words against me,” 52-year-old Derrick Benjamin said.
A good meal.
“Give me a good meal and you have my heart,” Marvin Wallace said.