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A movie relationship vs real life


Monday, February 17, 2014    

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MANY persons would like to believe that the types of relationships we see in the movies are possible in real life. They can be, if both persons are willing to go to the lengths that most directors will to stage scenes in movies. Here are just a few differences between movie relationships and actual relationships.

1. In the movies the relationships tend to last maximum three hours, while a real relationship can last anywhere between three minutes and 70 years. Let us not forget the amount of time it takes to fall in love with the person.

2. When we fall in love with someone, this person may not necessarily be our ideal physical match. The reality of it is that we have no clue, while in the movies the love interest is the ideal guy for the role and complements the ideal girl physically. It is rare that you will see an odd couple in the movies, but they are a dime a dozen in life.

3. Let's face facts. You might never meet the love of your life in a café or at a dinner party or some other social event in France or some other romantic country by just locking eyes. This happens in the movies quite often and, though this may happen in real life, it is not something that the average person will experience.

4. So you've met and you've spoken and he asks you out on a date. You say yes and you two have a wonderful candlelight dinner and your lust for him deepens. Sorry, but in real life most first dates are awkward and come equipped with unpleasant small talk, not profound conversations on politics and social issues.

5. When you are in a relationship, you generally don't think that the first persons you are going to take this guy to see are your girlfriends, especially not the hot ones who will attempt to steal your new man. More than likely you will take him home to meet your pet. The movies would have you believe that your friends will do you no wrong. Don't trust the movies on this.

6. It is unrealistic to think that your parents will like your new man in the first five minutes of meeting him. It takes time for persons to adjust to these types of situations where someone new is being added to their lives.

7. Only movie parents don't mind that you will have a new boyfriend every time you visit. In fact this trait of being non-judgemental of your child's choice and volume of partners exists solely in the movies. Though there may be parents who just don't judge their child's choices, parents want the best for their children and would honestly prefer if that child were single and celibate rather than running around town with every new crush.

8. In the real world sweet nothings will only get you so far. However, in the movies all it takes is a glance and a seductive touch and then the sex scene starts.

9. Have you ever noticed that when there is a problem in a relationship in the movies it becomes a battle of the sexes that divides the cast into two teams and causes most if not all persons in relationships to do some sort of evaluation of their situation? Well, when was the last time you reviewed your relationship because a friend of a friend of your cousin was having relationship problems?

10. Not all relationships are going to last forever. Not everyone will have a happy ending. Movie characters usually get married or patch up the potholes in the relationship, but in real life, when the going gets tough, someone has to get going as well.

— Karim Smith and Kimberley Hibbert





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