All Woman

Enough was enough

The moment I knew things had to change

Monday, March 10, 2014    

Print this page Email A Friend!

CALL it determination, call it foolish — whatever it is that keeps persons hanging on to a bad situation, position or person despite the toll it is taking on them physically and emotionally.

But despite this determination to make things work, there may come a time when you take a step back and decide that enough is enough, this is it, it's time to move on.

What is that one moment that broke the camel's back and made you arrive at that decision to make a right about turn and change your life completely, whether your job situation, your relationship or your financial status?

Below readers share.

It had to end

David G, 32:

Well, we were living together for a few years and despite the fact that she couldn't wash or cook properly I still stuck it out with her. But after our daughter was born and I realised that she spent more time on herself than on our daughter and the responsibility of caring for the baby was left solely on me, that was when I decided to call it quits. I left with my child.

He left us in the dark

Angelina B, 28:

I was in a relationship and the man would always lie. He lied for no reason. But one day he told me he had paid the light bill after I asked him three times leading up to the due date. One week later JPS disconnected my light and left me and my young baby in the dark. That was it. I just couldn't take any more lies. I asked him to leave. That was after three years of taking his crap.

I watched mom die

Maya D, 34:

I watched my mother die of cancer. She was a Christian and was always preaching to me about the importance of giving my life to the Lord. I was the one at the hospital with her when she died and despite the fact that she knew she was dying, she was so peaceful. She died smiling. I gave my life to the Lord the following Sunday.

We fought...

Marika H, 39:

To tell the truth I don't think there was one specific thing that led to me leaving my husband and divorcing him. For years we fought, physically and emotionally. So somehow I knew I deserved better. Women would call my phone and cuss me off and all sorts of things. Then one day a young girl who lived in the same community came to my house to give me a proper cuss out on the top of her voice. She could tell me what colour sheet was on my bed that week and the colour of my settee. I grabbed her and when I was done, one piece of crowd was at my gate. By evening she and her brother and uncle, and one whole heap of her family came to my yard with cutlass and sticks because they decided they were going to chop me up. So maybe that was one of the things. But also because I met someone and realised that you had good men still out there.

A life-changing moment

Andre T, 34:

I had a life changing moment the day my best friend was found dead in her apartment. We spoke for hours the night before and the fact that she died so suddenly was the moment I said I had to live life to the fullest and stop procrastinating because nothing is owed and nothing is sure. She was having headaches and had gone to the doctor but they thought she had migraines. But she had brain aneurysm. So now I am just living life to the fullest.






1. We welcome reader comments on the top stories of the day. Some comments may be republished on the website or in the newspaper – email addresses will not be published.

2. Please understand that comments are moderated and it is not always possible to publish all that have been submitted. We will, however, try to publish comments that are representative of all received.

3. We ask that comments are civil and free of libellous or hateful material. Also please stick to the topic under discussion.

4. Please do not write in block capitals since this makes your comment hard to read.

5. Please don't use the comments to advertise. However, our advertising department can be more than accommodating if emailed:

6. If readers wish to report offensive comments, suggest a correction or share a story then please email:

7. Lastly, read our Terms and Conditions and Privacy Policy

comments powered by Disqus


Would you enjoy a weekend away by yourself, without the company of your partner?

View Results »

Results published weekly in All Woman


Today's Cartoon

Click image to view full size editorial cartoon