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Excuses women make for deadbeat men


Cecelia Campbell-Livingston

Monday, April 07, 2014    

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LET'S face it, many women are in relationships that are going nowhere. They are unhappy and far from being fulfilled. The men in their lives are insensitive and don't seem to give two hoots about their feelings, yet some of these women continue to go out of their way to ensure that the men are well taken care of and treated like kings. What would allow women to accept this kind of treatment? Here some women share the excuses they've made for deadbeat men.

1. He doesn't know how to show love

Some women deceive themselves with the belief that because their partners didn't come from loving homes they just can't give love. But sorry, there are a lot of men out there who never grew up with any kissy, kissy parents but instead of continuing the cycle, they make the decision to be better partners or parents. If he has issues, you are not a psychiatrist. Don't be a martyr. If he can't get help to deal with his emotions, get out and find someone who really knows how to.

2. He is just shy

He is not too shy to lap up all the attention and the TLC you have been dishing out is he? Shyness is not an excuse for being insensitive or uncaring. This is just a flimsy excuse at best to hold onto someone who is not really there for you.

3. He is super busy

Ever heard the expression all work and no play? Well sister, if he ain't playing with you then chances are he is playing with someone else! Ask yourself how come he always finds time to accept whatever you have to offer but the busy excuse comes out when you need some attention. If he can't be there for you then it's time to do away with the excuses.

4. He has issues

What will it take for you to wake up and smell the coffee that the man is a no good, deadbeat partner? Telling yourself he is going through stuff is no consolation. What about what you are going through? It can't be any picnic being in a one sided relationship. If he has issues then probably he needs some space to work it out.

5. He's just like that

No matter how hard you try to initiate a conversation regarding the future of your relationship, he just clams up. The only time he shows any real interest in the relationship is when he wants to get you into bed. You are not a sex machine and there ought to be more to a relationship than satisfying a man's needs.





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