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Horrible things I regret doing to my ex

BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer husseyd@jamaicaobserver.com

Monday, August 27, 2012    

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ANGER is known to blind persons to good sense, and often, all rational thought goes out the door when a woman is scorned.

Below, some women share the things they did to their exes in the throes of rage, things they regret doing now that they've moved on past the heartbreak.

1. Keisha W, 30:

"I cut the cords off all his appliances."

At 26, Keisha was in constant arguments with her ex because each time she called his phone he would declare that he was in a meeting and didn't have time for her.

"He didn't own a business yet every time I called he was in meeting!" she recalled. "So one day I got mad and went to his house and cut off the cords off all his appliances — every single one of them, from DVD to fridge! Then I called him and told him what I did and within minutes he was at the house. All of a sudden he wasn't in any meeting!"

Keisha said she was outside watching him as he entered his house, after which he called the police on her.

"I wasn't there. He didn't see me there, so they couldn't prove it was me. They couldn't prove it so nothing came of it," she said.

2. Princess, 27:

"I threw rocks through all his windows."

Princess said at one point in her past relationship she became so upset with her ex after trying unsuccessfully for days to have a conversation with him that she went to his house and walked around it, throwing rocks through every window in the house, breaking all the panes.

"I wanted to talk to this boy and him feel seh him must leave me outside and go lock up in him house," Princess recalled, hissing her teeth. "I decide I was not going to take it like that, so I broke every window in his house," she said.

Princess said her only regret was that his father got involved since it was the father's house.

3. Margaret W, 32:

"I soaked his bed with oil."

Before calling it quits for good, Margaret said she went through her boyfriend's cupboard and took out every kind of oil she could find and soaked his mattress with it.

"One day when I was upset I just wet up his bed," she said. "And I wasn't going to do it with water because that could dry," she added. "He knew the type of person he was and he knew that he didn't have any behaviour so he didn't do anything about it."

4. Peta-Gaye T, 27:

"I threw all his sneakers in the garbage truck."

Peta-Gaye knew how much her ex worshipped his brand-name sneakers and 59/50 caps. Therefore, in order to hurt him, it would mean destroying the things he cherished.

"I took up all his sneakers and dumped them in a garbage truck. He never saw them again."

As for his prized caps that hung neatly from hooks on the four corners of his room, Peta-Gaye said she pulled down each one — hooks and all — and left them on the floor.

"He was lucky I didn't throw those in the garbage too," she said.

5. Rebecca, 33:

"I emailed everyone in his contact list with news of our 'baby'."

"He had moved on and I hadn't, it was a nasty, hurtful break-up where I was ridiculed by the new woman. So I slept with him one last time, then a few weeks later paid online to get his email password, and emailed all his contacts — family, friends, school professors, girlfriend, girlfriend's friends and parents, everyone — pretending to be him, and stating that he was having a baby with his ex, and though it wasn't planned, he was going to stand by her."

6. Deidre S, 39:

"I dialled his girlfriend's number while we were making love."

"I was with this guy for four years," Deidre explained. "Then he got involved with this other girl and just wouldn't leave her. Apparently she felt she was the only one but he just wouldn't leave me alone. Every day he would call wanting to come over or text to say how he missed me and what he wanted to do to me. Still he wouldn't leave her. So one day I called and told her we were still sleeping together and that she should put a leash on him. She obviously did not believe me. So one night he came over and while we were making love I used his phone to dial her number so she could hear for herself.

7. Delilah, 37:

"I consulted an obeah man."

"Yes, me, an intelligent woman, consulted an obeah man and paid tons of money in order to hurt my ex who had left me. I even went as far as to pay money to a site online to put a curse on him. Thousands of dollars later, I only stopped when the obeah man asked me to source a black cat, and sent me to break a bottle of cream soda at a cross road late one night. It was then that I realised that I was the crazy one, and maybe he was right in running away."

8. Andrea, 22:

"I sent him to jail."

"He was always abusive, but when I finally called the cops he hadn't been abusive in a long while. However, he wanted 'a break'. So I started bawling, called the cops on him and he was arrested. It wasn't hard for me to cook up a story using examples from the past, and so he spent a few nights in jail. I eventually decided not to press charges. To this day, he looks the other way if he sees me."

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