How to beat him at his game

Monday, February 21, 2011

SOME men find it hard to suppress their flirtatious ways even in the presence of their partners. Indeed, there are those who want to have their cake and eat it too, without thinking about the effects on their partners. Yet, when the role is reversed, they get into a fit, argue or become insecure.

While his actions may be offensive and your first reaction may be to get mad and threaten to leave the relationship, there is another way to handle the matter -- by beating him at his game.

1. He can't keep his eyes off other women while in your presence: Can you then imagine how he behaves when you are not with him? The key is not to make a fuss about it (no matter how tempting it may be), instead, follow his eyes, smile and say something kind like, 'yes man she really looks good. I like her hair'. In fact, the next time you see an attractive woman, be the first to draw his attention to her. Believe it or not, she will not have as much appeal to him anymore. Before you know it, his ogling days around you will be over.

2. He goes out with 'the guys': If your instinct tells you he is actually with a woman and not with the guys as he claims, or even if he is really with his buddies but too much for your liking, and he refuses to take you out from time to time, the strategy here is to allow him to hang with his 'friends'. However, as soon as he decides to spend the day home with you, get dressed in your sexiest outfit and tell him you are going to hang with the girls. Being left alone for hours will give him a sense of what you feel whenever he does it. He will then understand where you are coming from the next time you tell him you feel left out when he spends so much time hanging with 'the guys' while you are home alone.

3. He is with you but always on BB messenger or sending text messages: This can make any woman feel neglected and annoyed as this simply means he would rather be talking to someone else than with you. So how do you beat him at this game? As long as you are not driving, get on the phone and start BBing somebody, anybody! If you don't have a BlackBerry then call up someone (even your girlfriend) and start whispering to them, making sure you laugh out loud every now and then. Or you can also try to play it down, send him a text message or a BB message in the midst of it all, telling him how much you miss his attention.

4. You caught him watching porn: If you are one of those who believe that watching porn is unhealthy, instead of getting angry and calling him a pervert, laugh about it and reassure him that he doesn't have to hide and watch. Ask him what about it he likes and depending on how adventurous you are, try out some of what he likes with him. Adding spice and variety to your sex life will soon have him becoming more interested in you and less in other people's sex lives.

5. He goes out the room when his phone rings/whispers when on the phone: This could only mean one thing -- he doesn't want to disturb you! Yeah right! Once again, get on your phone and whisper away -- even if you are not talking to anyone! Or send a friend a text message asking him/her to ring your phone, then when they do, walk out the room and start your whispering. This will annoy the heck out of him!

— Donna Hussey-Whyte

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