Lessons for my daughter
'DADDY'S little girl'. The popular sentiment to describe the special relationship between a father and his daughter is representative of the connection between the men of Columbus Communications and their daughters. To mark Father's Day 2014, a few of these men turned the tables on their girls with the gift of lessons for their future, doling out sage words on topics such as their relationships with boys, money, family and technology.
Orville Lewis, commercial finance director.
Lewis has one daughter, Taraji, nine. She describes him as the "cool dad" and he tells people who ask him about having a son: "I have the best gift I could ask for and I am satisfied."
About boys and dating: Like every responsible and protective dad I dread the day when my daughter will come home and tell me she wants to go on a date. However, this is a natural cycle and as such my chief advice to her will be, 'If a boy does not treat you with the respect you deserve as a woman and my princess, they are not worthy of you or your time'.
Education and career: Having a solid education is non-negotiable. Whatever career path is chosen, an education to assist with the "business side" of life is paramount, as continued success will require financial viability.
Wealth/money: This should not define your life. While it should help to guide/ motivate your goals and ambitions, care is needed to not allow the desire for wealth accumulation to consume you.
Family: A strong family bond is the best support system one can have and cannot be replaced with anything else. So value family and put them first.
Romain Lovindeer, technical team leader — pre-sales:
Lovindeer has two girls, Kayla, six and Asha two, both of whom, he says, "Think the world of me so I have to try not to disappoint them." He says Kayla has always had an old soul and says the most profound things. She also has a sharp memory. Asha, he says, is very mischievous and has the cutest mannerisms.
Boys and dating: When that time comes, find a boy you enjoy talking to, who makes you laugh.
Education and career: Life is a lesson, so education should never stop. Choose a career you enjoy that challenges you.
Wealth/money: They're not the same. Aim for wealth. Understand value.
Family: Family first. Always make time for them; they'll always be there for you.
Craig Fisher, sales manager -— SME:
Fisher describes his daughter Ashley as being six going on 60, with a huge personality. "We talk about everything and of course I am the defence attorney when mom is laying down the law," he says. "She continues to be the best element of my life and I cherish every moment we share."
Boys and dating: There is never any rush in finding someone to share your time with. Ensure it's someone who shares similar values and at every step of the way has your best interests at heart.
Education and career: Education is a big priority in your agenda as it arms you with the needed flair and acumen to tell the world you're the best option for whatever career you choose to pursue. Your career should give you a sense of purpose and have you feeling your efforts are fulfilling a worthy cause and ultimately all requirements of living the best life.
Wealth/money: Making sound financial decisions early helps to steer your life in the right direction. Wealth will be realised when your financial targets mature and start working for you.
Family: Family plays an invaluable role in this blessing we call life. Try not to lose track of family in the business of life.
Andrew Fazio, director -— business development
Fazio's two daughters are Mia, six, and Shameika, 11. They are all very close and they do a lot together. Both girls love to perform, and Mia made Fazio particularly proud when she sang a solo in Italian at her school's Christmas concert -- a song that he taught her. He describes both as being extremely smart. Shameika takes great pride in her role as a monitor for her class at school and is very responsible when it comes to her younger sister.
Boys and dating: There is no rush, stay focused on your education.
Education and career: Education is the key to all you want.
Wealth/money: There is no success without hard work.
Family: Family is the most important thing. It is forever.
Soyika Small, vice president, service delivery and support:
Small is daddy to three daughters, Kianna, 17, Aria, 14 and Skai, three months. He is quick to share that he looks forward to those moments when they are all together. "My greatest pleasure in life is to hear them laughing together. There is nothing more fulfilling to me than to see them happy," he says.
Boys and dating: I am already there. Always trust your instincts with men. If something doesn't feel right in the beginning, chances are it's not going to get better in the long run.
Education and career: Try and do what you have a passion for; you'll truly be successful if you love what you do.
Wealth/money: Don't believe anyone who says money isn't important — it is, but don't sell your soul in the pursuit of it. Master money management as it is a learned behaviour. If you develop good money habits early on, you will carry them forward through all the stages of life.
Family: Family is the most important thing all the time, especially your children. You won't know that type of love until you have children of your own.