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Love, money or sex?

Women confess which is more important

BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer

Thursday, September 12, 2013    

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Counsellors advise that the sole basis upon which relationships should be forged is love, but many people have shunned the concept and have instead entered into unions for other reasons.

There those who have done so because they felt they were getting old and needed companionship before it was too late, some because being married or living with someone of the opposite sex is a front to hide their true sexuality, and others because the other person is comfortably able to support them.

All Woman finds out from some women what is more important in a relationship — love, sex or money?

Julie-Ann G, relationship for 7 years

In my opinion, we can't do without any in a relationship. All three are important in helping to make a relationship work. Sex is a way of how both persons communicate their feelings for each other without actual words. It's also a form of how you show love. Love, once true, will always stand the test of time. Money is practical as it's how we are able to accumulate things together. So all are required. Can't do without one.

Tamara M, relationship for 6 years

Sex and money. I have done the love thing already and married the person I was in love with. That did not work out. So now I am in a relationship and he makes me comfortable because he takes very good care of me financially. He ensures that I am in need of nothing. And the sex is wicked! Can't get better than that.

Karen N, relationship for 2 years

I think all three of them need each other because a relationship can fall apart if one of those is not functioning. One: if there is no love, it won't work. Two: if there is no sex it makes no sense and three: if there is no money then you won't have any nature for the person because that is the fuel for the relationship. It is the truth!

Nadisha W, relationship for 2 years

None of them is more important than the other because if I have a man who loves me and he can't feed me, then that would not really make for much of a relationship, or a very miserable one at best. And if he can't handle his business then the temptation would be there to stray.

Tameika G, relationship for 12 years

People don't like to say it's money because they don't want to be perceived as gold diggers but the fact of the matter is — say you have your relationship and you have love and you have sex and at the end of the day you can't pay the bills, etc, I'm going to start complaining about it, so that is not going to work. So the money is very important.

Dionne M, married for 13 years

It all depends, because if you meet the man and he doesn't have any money and you are both working towards a goal and he has the ambition, then love would be more important. So it depends on the stage of the relationship that you are. But you have cases where people will have the money but you are sexually incompatible so no matter how much money you have you are miserable because there is no love and the sex is terrible. So it depends on the quality of your life and the stage of your relationship coupled with the ambition that you have.

Camille W, relationship for 1 year

For me, it is love and money. But it has to be a percentage because I can't have love in my belly and that full my belly go to sleep. I need the money to buy the food. And I can't just have the money and my house is empty without any real love because money can't buy love. You don't even need sex to have a child anymore, so that may not even be as important. I think if it was a percentage I would say 70:30 — 70 goes to money and 30 to love.

Antoinette B, relationship for 3 years.

Some persons will have money and spend their whole life looking for real love, real happiness. For them, money is not in the equation; it's just love and sex. But if she was a poor person and she never had any money and she was to choose having money or having love or sex, she would choose the money. Without money there is nothing! There would be sadness. Love or no love, sex or no sex, it's about the money.

Coleen B, married 16 years

Love. Because with love you can do all things. Then, of course the money is also important because if you don't have money you will have to think about how you are going to get it, and that can get in the way of sex. Sex and hungry belly don't work!

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