MARRIAGE has many benefits — Jasmin O Brown, marriage officer and bishop at the New United Bibleway Church of God, said it helps to have someone share your life's dreams and visions; it makes the financial burden lighter; you have a best friend you can trust without fear of having your trust violated; persons tend to be happier if they are in a good, healthy marriage; and children born in a good marriage are healthy, happy and emotionally stable.
It's no wonder then that marriage and a family are among the top-five life goals for many women -- many single women seek and pray for 'the one', and others in long-term relationships work hard to please their men, longing for the day when they will get on their knees and say those four important words.
But only some women will get asked, and some are left wondering, why her and not me? This week we ask married men, when did you know, and what did she do to prove that she was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
Robert M, married 12 years:
It was when I opened the car door to seat her then walked around to my door only to see her stretching across to open mine. It sounds simple but you would be surprised at the little things guys look for.
Wallace W, married seven years:
I don't believe there was a particular moment. I was starving for sex and we were in church. Her best friend turned me down a few days before (I had proposed to her), and this one was available and was always showing up, so I asked her. It wasn't a moment of, 'Oh wow, mi really check fi dah girl yah and want her to have mi kids'. I just wanted to get married.
Courtney P, married nine years:
The moment I got baptised. At that point I realised that she was the one because she loved the Lord and I began to see how dedicated and different she was from other women.
Paul L, married 15 years:
I realised two to three years after meeting her that she was a good person so I decided this was someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Sylvester C, married seven years:
To tell you the truth, the sex was good so I planned to continue to get it. I felt so good that first time that I decided there and then that I didn't want another man getting it.
Antonio H, married five years:
After being away from her for a year As they say, absence really does make the heart grow fonder!
Brian C, married two years:
I went in the relationship hoping this would be it. I don't believe in trial and error. So I asked God and followed His lead. I knew for certain it was time, after being convicted by something said in a show that was applicable almost identically to my life. I knew it was her the more I watched her interact with my family and friends and fell more in love with her.
George B, married 21 years:
What attracted me to her is the fact that she is quiet and hard-working. And what made me decide that she was the one was that whenever she is cooking the kitchen is always clean. I love that. So while she's cooking she's cleaning up.
David M, married 13 years:
About one month after dating I saw that she was truly wife material. She was loving and caring. She made it a daily thing to check if I was eating properly and on time, and also if I was getting enough rest. Those are key things for me.