NICOLAE Lee describes her pregnancies as being similar to Kate Middleton's, with extreme morning sickness, though thankfully her delivery processes were smooth. And two girls later, Lee says parenting is no easy job.
"With Alyssa, my first child, it was rough as I didn't know I was pregnant and I had extreme morning sickness. I was in and out of the hospital, but in the end I had no complications and the delivery process went well. She was due the 29th of January but arrived on the 22nd."
"With Naya, the second baby, she came the day I was to have my baby shower. She was due August 19 and came on July 29, so while I should have been at Hope Gardens with my friends eating pizza and having fun, I was on my way to the hospital," Lee laughed.
Both deliveries were easy and quick, Alyssa is now two and a half years old and Naya turned one in July. But when it comes to discipline, the girls are a challenge.
"With Alyssa all it took was two pushes and with Naya, six pushes and she was out, but discipline for both of them takes a lot of patience. In general I don't believe in using physical measures to discipline a child but I respect others' choices. I will talk to her [Alyssa] firmly, be patient, count to 100 and walk around 10 times. Once I'm firm with her, she's OK. However, the second one listens and once you tell her no, she doesn't retort. But you have to stick to what you do where discipline is concerned for your children."
Plans for both Alyssa and Naya's education are paramount on the list of things that Lee wishes for her children and according to her, it is vital at an early stage to find out what your children love.
"For me education is not just academic. My first child is very active and I choose to school her at places that allow her more space to move and have fewer restrictions. I intend to keep them active and expose them to the arts. At home we will paint and draw as I'm at home all the time, and I'll carry them out and allow them to run around until they get tired," Lee said.
But, though Lee's children are the 'outdoorsy' types, they have their own distinctive traits.
"Both of them like to dance but Alyssa doesn't like sharing and she'll take over the toys, she even says her daddy is her daddy, but Ny Ny is more of a mommy's girl and clingy. She still wants the breast," Lee said.
Lee added that being a parent takes patience, being able to love unconditionally and forget about anger.
"Take it one day at a time, know what works for you and stick with it. Parenting is a learning process that starts from before you have a child. Don't be afraid to ask for help as it indeed takes a village to raise a child," she said.
— Kimberley Hibbert