Rid yourself of relationship baggage (and that includes your man)

Donna Hussey-Whyte

Monday, December 31, 2012

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FOR the new year, many persons have purposed to rid themselves of just about anything that has been holding them back and preventing them from living their full potentials emotionally.

Relationship baggage is one such thing. Some women are determined to move on come 2013.

"I have been with a man for 10 years, and for 10 years I have been waiting for him to propose and nothing!" 28-year-old Stephanie Price said. "I already told him that come January I am out! And I am dead serious!"

Like Price, Beverly Phillips said all she would want for her New Year is to be proposed to — five years and one child into her relationship.

"If this doesn't happen then I am moving on 'cause I want to give my daughter a stable home. If he can't see my worth and I am not good enough to marry but yet still good enough to be performing all the duties of a wife, then what's the point?" she asked.

Move on if:

He doesn't consider your feelings.

"My relationship has always been one-sided," 27-year-old Janice Allwood said. "He is never thinking about me or my needs, even when it comes to making love. Once he is satisfied, it's over. I can't bother with a man like that."

He doesn't support the family but sits home and budgets your paycheque.

"If you have a man who stays home and refuses to work even though nothing is wrong with him, then that is somebody to drop for the new year. What's the point of having a man if he is not meeting you half-way?" 41-year-old Janet Kerr asked.

He is a serial cheater.

"Everyday it's heartache and pain because he cheats and considers it nothing," Sarah-Lee Williams said. "I have a man who cheated on me twice and I left. Why would any woman want to be with a man who constantly cheats and not only that, but fathers outside children. That means he is putting your life in danger because he is not even protecting himself."

He is physically abusive, not only to you, but to the kids.

"If he gets up and beats you and then has the heart to tell you 'sorry it won't happen again' — until the next time, then leave him!" 34-year-old Shadeen Walker said. "Obviously it will continue to happen because you stay. So lef the man!"

He is emotionally abusive and kills your self-esteem on a daily basis.

"You have some men who make their women feel worthless, like they don't have any value," 38-year-old Kaydian Riley said. "After years of emotional abuse she starts feeling like nothing. Those are men you need to leave because they will hold you down and you will never progress."




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