HALF a loaf is better than none at all. A lot of women have literally applied this quote to their relationships. Going up in age with Mr Right still being a dream can bring on that panicky feeling that you are going to end up old and alone. And for some women, having a partner, even if he is second best, is better than hitting the pillow alone at night.
The real test on whether it was true love will start to sink in as you get deeper and deeper into the relationship. But if you're already experiencing some of the signs below, then you don't have to wonder if you settled instead of holding out for what could have been a beautiful thing.
There are no real sparks
While other couples are still starry-eyed with their spouses after years of marriage, it's six months in and you are not even excited about your upcoming anniversary. You don't see the need for any special plans and even when he suggests it, you tell him the money can be used for more important things.
You have to psych yourself up for lovemaking
You think of sex with him as a chore more than a pleasurable activity. In fact, you pretend he is reaching you but in truth you are thinking about something else or just wishing he would just hurry up and get off you.
You make excuses
Although you already suspect you made a big mistake in settling, you convince yourself he is a good person and at least you have someone by your side.
Everything is a routine
As each day passes into the next, everything seems to be a routine. You seem to be just going through the motions with no sense of excitement. In fact you are practically living like a good brother and sister. There must be more to a relationship than that.
You have nothing in common
While you will not share every single interest, there must be some common ground where you can both relax and enjoy. If upon examination you discover that there is not one single thing you have in common, then chances are you settled too soon.
He's not so bad...
He is not so bad and you like the way he treats you. You convince yourself that in time you will get to feel the way you should about him. But it's been a while now and the only feeling you have is total regret.
You don't show him off
You don't have to put yourself out there by posting images on Facebook of the stuff you do. But isn't it a bit odd how most of your friends have never seen a photo of him or even been introduced? You shy away from parties because you just don't want to go with him.
You crave alone time. A lot
Getting some down time by yourself is healthy in any relationship but if you find that you crave it a lot even when your partner is home, that's a serious sign that you may have settled.
You keep wanting to change him
There are countless things that need changing about him. He has to change his dressing style, it would be better if he shaved, that cologne annoys you... and the list could go on and on.
You envy others
Ever notice those couples who are hot for each other? They are always laughing, playful as kittens and genuinely seem to be enjoying each other. If you find yourself envying that kind of closeness, then it simply means there's something missing in your relationship.
— Cecelia Campbell-Livingston