WATCH any steamy romance flick or read any romance novel and you're bound to find the same scenario when it comes to the love scenes: he's kind, sensitive, knows her body like a pro, and when he drops his boxers, she's in awe of his impressive gift from the gods.

No one ever meets up on the little guy, even though in real life the chances of finding a guy with the full package are slimmer than many women confess to.

No one wants to admit to the facts in the averages General Practitioner Dr Orlando Thomas points to, that average penis size is actually five inches flaccid, six inches erect, and the typical girth or circumference is approximately 4.85 inches when fully erect. No one wants to admit to the fact that many men fall below this average, and just a few fall above it. Indeed, when women brag about the men they love, they often fib about securing pleasures from their above average men.

But the truth, Sex Therapist Dr Sidney McGill said, is that size is really a state of mind, since studies have shown that the average depth of the vagina is only 4.5 cm. So if a man's member is longer than this, the remainder is really wasted!

And once you know, like the women below, how to appreciate your average or less than average gift, you'll be able to work with him.

This is how you do it:

Marsha Reynolds , 29:

Turn on the heat by going downtown.

"There are other things he can do that can make up for his lack," Reynolds said. "Tell him to use his mouth. Tell him that you look forward to other pleasures and that it is the most exciting part of lovemaking for you."

Rosanne Saunders, 35:

Conquer the moment with fingers.

"If he is an extremely good lover then he will know how to use his fingers to bring the woman to her peak," she said.

Karen Phillips, 27:

Tighten the muscles.

"I have been with someone before who was very small. The thing is I really liked him so I didn't mind working around the situation."

Karen said she would make sure that during lovemaking she tightened her thigh muscles and buttocks and tried doing kegel exercises. These acts, she said, made the act more pleasurable.

Nadine Smith, 29:

Choose fitting positions.

"Choose the positions that ensure that both of you actually feel something happening," Smith said.

Tracey-Lee Clarke, 34:

Use toys as a back-up.

When all else fails, introduce toys to the union as not only will this add some excitement, but it will pull the attention away from his manhood.

Paula Forte, 22:

Keep his stress levels down.

"The guy who is worried about your reaction may be stressed trying to please you or to live up to your expectations. Praise him, give him confidence, and he will have a strong, long lasting reaction. Let him know what to do to you. Once you're satisfied, it won't matter what size he is."