So he shaves his legs...

And 9 other dating red flags

By NADINE WILSON All Woman writer

Monday, July 18, 2011

DATING can be a costly thing when you consider the emotional and financial investment. And then when you look at the fact that time spent with a loser is time you could have spent with someone better, it behoves you to date a guy who's worth every ounce of pain you have to endure as you tweeze your brows, do your nails and shave those legs to impress. There are some red flags that usually indicate that your knight in shining armour could be a slimy frog; unfortunately, some of these signs are ignored by some women. Some common red flags are:

1 He demands sex on the first date. He asks you to "live a little" and experience heaven with him on the first date, and he'll be "very disappointed" since he "already booked the room". This, although you don't even know his middle name. And even after that first encounter, you hardly hear from him and when he does BBM, it's because he wants to ask when he can "stop by". Red flag!

2 He calls his mom more than he calls you... and she just happens to be the roommate he just can't imagine moving away from... and he's 45. It's always good when a guy shows concern about his mother's general well-being and keeps in touch, but it should not be a case where he is calling her more than he calls you or where he's living with her past middle age. If he still allows his mother to run his life, then chances are he is not ready for a committed relationship.

3 He primps with your stuff. If you find him in the bathroom shaving his legs or his armpits with your razor, or in your closet trying on your shoes; if you're sharing couch time on a Saturday night painting nails and sharing aloe vera pore-shrinking masks with him; if he knows more about your weave than you do, then hit the ground running.

4 He disses his ex. It doesn't matter how much his ex hurt him, if your current beau spends a lot of time dissing his ex, then he will have no problem dissing you too. Be extra careful of a man who refers to every single ex as "crazy" or a "stalker". Chances are, he was the problem! A gentleman speaks respectfully of others or not at all.

5 He is very controlling. He demands to know where you are every minute of the day and tells you who to hang out with and where to go or not go. And when you're with friends he does drive-bys outside the pizza shop, and tails you like a nut on your drive home. If you hang around long enough, you will find yourself wondering who you are, because he will have you all wrapped up in him.

6 He cannot make a sacrifice for you. Guys generally don't like watching sappy romantic movies, but if he refuses to accompany you to one every now and then, even after you have sat though his boring cricket and football matches, or if he refuses to buy your feminine products when you're writhing on the couch because he's too macho, then it doesn't make sense for you to take the relationship further.

7 He is still playing the field. The fact that he is still dating or having sex with other women after you have been seeing each other for over a couple months, suggests that he is not that into you or isn't confident that the relationship will be going far.

8 He has this obsession with your back hair. If he keeps harping about how much he loves a hairy gal, and takes photos of your back hair to show to his friends; if he insists that you shouldn't shave because God made you natural or spends much of your dates talking about your back hair while smacking his lips, beware. He's a freak!

9 He is secretive about his past. He is very secretive about his past and every attempt made to ascertain what kind of job he does or his upbringing is met with resistance. You're certain he drives a fancy car and lives in a nice apartment, but he doesn't have a job as far as you are aware.

10 His place is always a mess. Some guys are not very domesticated, but at least some make the effort to clean up when trying to impress a girl. If after three visits to his house you are unable to make out the shade of his sofa or the colour of his bathtub; if he has laundry strewn all over his living room, then make a u-turn for the door and never look back. If he cannot make an effort to clean up, how much effort will he put into the relationship?

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