Sweethearts and Valentine's Day

By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer husseyd@jamaicaobserver.com

Monday, February 13, 2012

CUPID only strikes his arrow at legitimate lovers, and so side pieces usually get the heave-ho around this time of year. The men will disappear to resurface on the 15th, because it's the time when couples get closer, gifts are exchanged, proposals are made and time is spent with that special someone — and that special someone isn't the sweetheart.

"She (sweetheart) should know what she was getting into," psychologist Dr Leahcim Semaj said. "She knows the rules that her special days are January 1, February 15 and her birthday. Because Christmas, New Year's Eve and Valentine's Day are for the wife."

Semaj said therefore, there really is no point in spending the day wishing that things were different than they really are. Instead, if you're a sweetheart you should spend Valentine's Day:

* Loving yourself. Do something special for you. Love yourself and do not let your feelings for someone else stop you from loving you. In truly loving yourself too, you may also get the confidence to snag your very own guy.

* Loving others. If you have children, spend the time with them. Do something extra special with your children that will take your mind off the man making hot passionate love with his wife after a romantic evening on the town. If you do not have children, then share your time with others you consider special in your life — family and friends.

* Evaluating your choices. While if you have any conscience at all you will spend some time moping, take the time to look honestly at the situation you have chosen to be in. Ask yourself if this is what you really want for your life. Evaluate whether the relationship is working for you. If not, then change the situation. If you find that it is working for you, then accept the rules of being a sweetheart and quit moping.

* Sending yourself flowers. Arrange to send yourself flowers and chocolates at work. Sure, everyone will probably know that you sent them to yourself, but don't watch that. It surely beats sitting around wondering if he will be sending you something, when you know deep down that his pockets aren't deep enough to afford two sets of bouquets.

* Go to the movies and treat yourself to a good comedy. Remember, sad movies will make you cry!

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