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The type of men who won’t commit

Saturday, August 17, 2013    

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SOME men will tell you straight up that nothing women do will ever be able to tame their hearts, but for those who are not as upfront, you'll have to know the clues to avoid being trapped.

Sure these men are great at turning on the charm and making you feel that you can expect the ring, the three kids and the two-storey mansion up in the hills, but after years together, you'll realise that there's not even the slightest progress towards the happily ever after you had in sight.

We don't want you to spend another day with a commitment-phobe, and since women have not quite been able to get it right all these years, we turned to the men to tell us exactly who are the type of guys we need to be wary of when searching for meaningful relationships.

1. Anthony Smith, economist, single:

Look out for the player because they are only searching. Then, too, there are those guys that don't want a woman to come and inherit what they have worked hard for, so instead of committing, they change the women very often, especially if they have certain things like a house for example. You also have those who have been hurt before and are therefore not going to commit to one person because they don't want to get hurt again. My take on the matter though is that when a guy finds what he is looking for, then he will commit.

2. Balford Harris, graphic artist, single:

A man who is financially stable might not feel the need to commit because he may feel he can get whoever he wants. You find that especially those who are in positions of influence like at the workplace might manipulate and prey on other females for sex, so they don't feel the need to just have one girlfriend. There are those too who like to show that they have 'swag' and so will have multiple women to show off to their friends.

3. Jason Reid, accountant, married:

Be careful of the man who can't give a definite answer to anything at all. Let's say you ask him his mother's name, his middle name or his date of birth and he refuses. If you can't get the answers to simple questions like that from him, then he probably won't commit, because men tend to answer these questions if they are interested in something long term. Another thing to note too is if he shows interest in only those things that can get him closer to you, but shies away from anything that will develop the relationship further in a meaningful way. Those who show too much interest in you during difficult times like immediately after a break-up cannot be trusted as well, because they are probably more interested in taking advantage of you.

4. Rohan Bloomfield, security guard, married:

Avoid a mean man, because they don't want the responsibility of taking care of a woman and family. So as soon as his woman begins to make certain requests, it's 'whoosh I am out of here'.

5. Dane W, single:

Don't date the mama's boy because his woman has to be exactly like his mother and if you don't match up he will leave. Also hussy's mother usually comes first. The women I have been with don't seem to understand that you only have one mother, but girlfriends come and go.

6. Markie Beecher, store clerk, single:

You have those that are serial cheaters. It's not that they don't believe in commitment, but they want to play the field before they settle, especially if they are young. Some reason that if they commit to one woman they will cheat, especially because Jamaican women look good, so it's hard to commit to just one.

-- Nadine Wilson

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