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Things never to do on a first date

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BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE

Thursday, July 24, 2014    

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DATING is not that difficult; the rule of thumb is to act the way you would want the other person to act around you, and do what you would want done to you, and if both persons bear this in mind, then you are good to go.

But stories of bad dates continue to abound, necessitating the need for to-do lists appearing everywhere for the non-savvy. Is texting OK during a date? Is begging credit a no-no? Here's a list, compiled from replies from our dating readers, of what never to do on a first date.

1. Don't send your date a 'please call me'

So you are trying to find out where exactly he/she said you were to meet, but instead of calling or sending a message you send a 'please call me'. "That is a turn-off right away because that just tells you that the person is going to live off you like a leech," Gregory B said.

2. Don't beg phone credit

"Imagine taking out a girl for the first time and before the night is done she a beg you one $100 credit," Mark W said.

3. Don't make advances indicating you want to roll in the sack that same night.

"I took out a girl once. I really liked her. But in the middle of the date she took my hand and put it on her private parts," Oliver F said. "I just pretended I did not notice, but I was very disappointed because it was a turn-off. It just told me that she was easy and that was not what I was looking for."

4. Don't stare at every man/woman who passes

Everyone likes to feel special, so if you're out with someone, even if you're disappointed with the date, don't stare at every guy or gal that strolls past. Give your date some amount of respect.

5. Control your bodily functions

"If I go out with a man and he just belches out loud to the point where other people have to turn around and look, I would not go out with him again, because that is embarrassing not only for him but to me," Cassandra C said. The same also goes for farting, clearing your sinuses, and blowing your nose in the fancy napkins.

6. Don't talk only about yourself

"I like a man who can hold a good conversation, but if that conversation is all about him, then you can draw the conclusion that if you get in a relationship with him it would be all about him," Sashauna P said.

7. Don't eat for three

"I took out a girl for a Valentine's dinner once. They served buffet style. When mi look in the girl plate cross the table I could barely see her head! You know who never take her out again!" Robert B said.

8. Don't chew the bones

"I carried this chick to KFC one time and when the girl was eating she suck off every piece of bone then chewed them up and spit them back in the box," Alex T said. "And you know the worst ting? It was one box with six pieces that we were sharing!"

9. Don't declare your undying love

"The most uncomfortable thing is to go out with a man for the first time and all he keeps telling you is how much he loves you and how he can see himself with you for the rest of his life," Annette W said. "It's the first date, for crying out loud! Get to know me first!"

10. Don't give more attention to your cellphone

"If you're going to spend more time on your cellphone than you do talking to me on the first date, you can forget about a second one," Kerry S said. "Next time just go out with you cellphone!"

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