WOMEN CONFESS: I'm self-conscious about my body

WOMEN CONFESS: I'm self-conscious about my body

Monday, October 13, 2014

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THE way you feel about your body will undoubtedly affect your self-esteem during lovemaking and often affects whether or not you are sexually satisfied. Some women spend so much time being self-conscious about perceived flaws that faking the big O is all they can do to bring the act to an end just so they can get dressed as quickly as possible.

While men will say that during the act looks don't matter, and that they are paying more attention to the moment than to a woman's flaws, that hasn't stopped the hiding. Below women share what they are most self-conscious about, and what they do about it.

Ann W, 37:

I am self-conscious even when I am not making love because I think my thighs are way too big, and because of that they squeeze together and the insides turn black. I am very conscious of that if I have to get naked. Plus I think it's hard for him to navigate because of the size of my thighs.

Juleen W, 34:

I am conscious, but not of my entire body, just my toes. I have corns on my toes so when I am with a man I keep on my shoes -- even during sex. Or I make sure to push my feet under the sheets!

Bev T, 42:

My bottom. I think my bottom is flat and unattractive so there are certain positions I am afraid to try during lovemaking because I think he will notice it even more. Clothes hide certain things, but when you're naked everything is just out there!

Gloria A, 40:

Men are into bottoms and breasts and I have neither. So yes, I am very self-conscious and feel uncomfortable if I have to get naked in front of a man.

Kerry-Ann R, 30:

Let's just say I have more belly than bottom and my arms are bigger than my legs.

Julie G, 34:

I have always struggled with self-esteem problems when it comes to my body and that includes every part of me. There was this guy I used to date and I had inhibitions and held back because of how skinny I was -- small boobs and almost no butt. But he couldn't care less.

Renee T, 39:

I have fat in places I would much rather not, so sometimes I feel that he might judge me when he sees me naked, especially when society promotes slim and trim and model bodies as the way to go.

But the guys respond...

Charles, 42:

Fat, thin, butt, no butt, it doesn't matter to me. Believe it or not, what matters to many guys is character.

Daniel, 30:

In the heat of the moment I'm not noticing anything. Women should stop worrying. Lie back, enjoy the moment, and he will enjoy it too.

Ezekiel, 50:

Maybe when I was much younger I would be attracted to certain things, but even then, it was always the quality of woman that mattered, and quality extended beyond the physical.

Romario, 35:

Remember that men have flaws too. We're worried about our belly, and whether it's getting in the way, and most of all, about whether we can last long enough to please you. No man has time to be inspecting for stretch marks or flab when he's intent on proving himself.

Jesse, 40:

Women worry too much, I realise. We don't care about things we know you can't change or things that come naturally with age. I must say though that I will notice if a woman is overweight and living an unhealthy lifestyle because that can be changed by proper diet and exercise.

— Donna Hussey-Whyte

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