What he thinks about the 'fake woman'

By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer

Monday, October 18, 2010

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FROM coloured contacts for the eyes to long eyelashes that complements these eyes; hair for the hairless; bleach for the too-dark; nails bought at 'Mr Chin's wholesale'; make-up so thick that the face appears flawless; extra padded bras and girdles that tuck in the tummy, many men have been left to admit that "what you see is not what you get" when it comes to women.

These 'fake women', men say, change dramatically when they strip off all the 'additions', revealing the true image hidden behind all these enhancements.

Women see some of these enhancements as minor, or necessary -- for example some women will wear weaves but balk at false eyelashes and some will insist that they'd never wear makeup but are slaves to padded bras.

"He'll have to live with some amount of fakeness," hardware store clerk Sue-Ann Botswain said. "Nothing is wrong with a hair piece, or push up bra. But I'd stop at the girdle or the false eyelashes and I only wear [fake] nails when I have a function attending."

But what does your man really think, honestly? What's he thinking when you spend thousands at the salon on your new weave or transform from frumpy to sexy with your girdle? Is one thing OK and not another? Can he live with braids but not fake nails? This is what the men said:


What you see is NOT what you get with women! It's like a breach of contract or false advertising. When you meet them (females) everything is in order and you anticipate it will remain like that, but after all the trappings come off you can't believe what you are left with!


I don't really like anything false at all, but when I will tolerate the braids, I cannot tolerated the wig. And I will only tolerate the braids if it looks as natural or as close to the real thing as possible. I can't take the whole heap of colour, colour. That makes it obvious that it is false. I don't like a lot of make-up and I don't like those extra long nails. When she must peel banana, what's she going to do, call me to peel it?


I don't understand how women do it -- today they look one way and the next time you see them you wondering if it is the same person. Let me warn the men, don't pick up a woman at night, you might not see what you really getting till the next day when day light! You see all nightclubs and them places there, don't even think 'bout finding a woman. Women should fix up and look good yes, but nuh so -- some women overdo it, and I feel many times they would look better without the false hair, and whole heap of make-up.


I have a problem with some to the things that women wear, and I don't see myself committing to certain types of women. I say no to wigs, no to false eyelashes, no to fashion contact lenses -- if it is for vision purposes you can't fight against that. I can tolerate mild make-up. I don't have a problem with long false nails as long as they are clean, then the length is not a problem. Some women can help themselves in them (false nails) but it's the ones that cannot manage them that I would have a problem with.


I don't have a problem with their hair and make-up. If she puts it on and feels comfortable in it, then I am good with it. But, no woman can't wear false nails and cook my food. Mi nuh into that no time at all!


I once met this girl -- nice breasts, nice hair, nice teeth. Her skin was flawless, she was smart and I fell in love. When we finally slept together, I realised that it was all fake. The only thing 'nice' at the end was her teeth. Everything else was false. I felt cheated, but by that time I was in love with her personality too much to let her go.


I went to the hairdresser the other day to pick up my girlfriend and I left shocked. My girlfriend is conservative, I set no boundaries, but she doesn't wear weaves or fake nails and she wears a bit on make-up to cover flaws, and that's fine with me. But you should have seen the women in the salon. Two were busy getting false eyelashes on; another one was putting weave in, yet another was putting on fake nails on her toes. The make-up on all was clownish. I left traumatised. I understand the need for certain enhancements, but I don't understand why some women have to take it so far.


When you're considering your 'enhancements' take a while to think. Watch how men relate to certain women. Watch the woman he chooses for a wife. Do you see any man choosing a woman who wears too much make-up or too much falsery to be with him forever? No. But he will choose you to be the woman he has sex with, then leaves. It all depends on what women want. If they want to be treated with respect, then look respectable. If you wanted to be treated like just somebody's chick, then you can fake it.

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