What men Want


BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman Writer husseyd@jamaicaobserver.com

Monday, March 25, 2013

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CONTRARY to the widely-held belief that all a man wants is food in his belly, a cute girl on his arm and another in his bed, men will tell you that deep down, they're more intense than that.

A group of guys we interviewed laid it all on the table for the women -- on a long-term basis they want a woman who will fit comfortably into their world, who they can trust and build a stable relationship with.

Here are their other wants and needs:

In the bedroom

Andrew Bennett, 45, financial controller:

At my age, I would say I need someone where we can satisfy each other. No prim and proper thing. If she is prim and proper then I would have to go outside and find a tigress.

George Campbell, 38, sales representative:

Fulfilment in all aspects -- from my head to my toes.

Michael Brown, 42, businessman:

We have to be able to make love together. Each one pleasing the other.

Keith Robinson, 38, security guard:

She should be able to please me. I don't want a woman who is 'deady deady'. She must be able to deal with her thing certain way.

Dwayne Thomas, 29, security guard:

Good sex. Nothing boring.

In marriage

Andrew Morrison, 30, communications practitioner :

My girl rocks in this area as well. She is supportive, she listens very well, and she can handle my egotistical and proud ways. The latter was always a problem in previous relationships but my baby is like no one else. She is a peacemaker, even when I find things to argue about, and that, I think, is the primary fibre in any wife material.

George Campbell:

Total commitment

Keith Robinson:

Communication, faithfulness, honesty.

Dwayne Thomas:

Integrity, nothing else.

Wayne Foster, 50, building contractor:

Companionship. Knowing someone is there who will watch my back.

Ryan Byfield, 41, trailer driver:

A relationship where you find peace and comfort at the end of the day. I expect a marriage to be your refuge. When everything else is going wrong, or everyone else is against you, you know that you have a partner who will love you unconditionally and just be there for you. I expect my marriage to be the one place that I can invest in and reap joy, comfort and peace of mind.

In a partner

Andrew Bennett:

It's really hard to find someone to fit into my world because I am used to being very independent. But even though I am single now, if I do get married, I would want a wife who will allow me some freedom. And I'm not talking about freedom to sneak around, I'm talking about freedom to watch my sports, or hang with friends sometimes, that sort of thing. I don't want a wife who is a nag.

George Campbell:

In a wife I expect loyalty.

Michael Brown:

I don't want someone who expects you to do more than you can do. I expect a wife to be someone who the two of us can work together. She can't be a self pleaser, not a person who wants to do things her own way, and not one who is more willing to pay more attention and take care of her relatives than she does to you.

Keith Robinson:

A woman I can share things with and know it will remain between us. So she has to be someone I can trust.

Dwayne Thomas:

I expect trust.




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