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Where fork?

Baby Steps

Wednesday, February 26, 2014    

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IT was one of those days when I didn't have the time, or patience for that matter, necessary for Katherine Elizabeth to feed herself, so I decided to do it myself.

As if in quiet rebellion, she took the fork out of the plate and ran to a corner of the room. I called her over and asked for the fork back.

She held out her left hand, which was empty, and said: "I (a word that means 'don't') see fork. Where fork?"

ME: The fork is in your other hand, baby.

The child transferred the fork from her right hand to the left, held out the now empty right hand and again went: "I (don't) see fork. Where fork?"

I was shocked and amused. If I weren't there myself I probably wouldn't have believed it. But it gets worse...

Guess what she did when I pointed to the fork in the left hand and said "There it is"? She put her arm behind her and repeated her question without even batting a lash!

I was dying inside! I wanted to laugh so badly because it was funny to see this little person trying to outwit me. I was also happy and proud because it was obvious she had learned quite a bit about spatial relationships. But I was afraid that laughing would have sent wrong messages about defying or disobeying mommy.

We did have a good laugh about it later though -- her dad, grandma, uncle, aunt and I. We kept wondering aloud where she had picked that up. It came to me weeks later.

Sometimes when we're getting her dressed and she's not in the mood, we play games to get her to comply. It's easier than bullying. So, for example, if we're putting on pants and she's squirming and fighting, we'd go, "Where's your foot?" Then pointing to different body parts like a hand or her head, we ask, "Is this your foot?" Of course she replies "No!" We continue like that for three or four parts and by the time we get to the foot, she's more than eager to identify it correctly and put it into the pant leg. Problem solved and fight averted.

Joke on us for not realising she was learning the game so well!

Katherine Elizabeth is a bubbly two-year-old who loves being chased, going for walks, and being read to. Her mom is using this space to share some of her experiences.





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