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Why do children misbehave

Wednesday, December 04, 2013    

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ALL children test the limits of their parents and guardians and try to cross boundaries that are set for them. This is an inevitable part of growing up, learning and becoming an independent person. Younger children may test constantly. This is not because they are being disrespectful or disobedient, it's the only way they can learn that you mean what you say and what the limits to their behaviour are. Below are five reasons why children misbehave, according to the Parenting Support Commission.

1. Attention seeking

Children will do just about anything to get the attention they crave from their parents. If they can't get it by doing something good, they will get it by doing something bad.

2. Revenge

They may try to get back at someone they feel has treated them badly — a sibling, parent or friend. Children may not understand that as a parent you need to insist on a rule, for example, and so they practise vengeful behaviour.

3. Feeling powerless

If a child feels upset at not having control, he may often become angry and physically or verbally attack siblings or friends.

4. Feeling sad

A child of any age may show that they are feeling sad or anxious by behaving badly, and may need more sympathy and affection. Punishing them will only make matters worse.

5. Stage of development

Some children are simply not able to do what their parents want because of their age or stage of development.





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