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Why the second kiss is more important

By Christopher Lai

Monday, December 02, 2013    

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THE first kiss will provide a woman with questions. Are you compassionate? Can you protect her? Could you be the one? Kind gestures may never be forgotten, but generosity is not a substitute for affection. You just have one chance to make an impression and relationships are defined in this moment.

If she is the one, it is natural to be nervous. The heart will begin to overheat as you watch her attempt to inhale stealthily. Her gentle touch may cause your thoughts to become jumbled. For a second, you are somehow able to concentrate again... but the intensity of the moment becomes overwhelming, so you look to the right. She tries to conceal her anxiety, so she glances to the left.

For the very first kiss, it is essential to remain composed. A real man should never be too cool to be affectionate with his lady. Showmanship is for idle talk with your friends around the domino table, on the ball field, at the gym etc. No need to be macho 24/7. Take a break from being a tough guy and embrace the opportunity to fulfil her expectations.

At some point, she will want to catch her breath. The very first kiss that you shared was magnificent and she will feel relaxed in your arms. But there is still so much more to experience. Understand that both of you are no longer weighed down by anxiety, self-doubt and insecurities. A subtle smile will signal her desire for you. As her emotions begin to resurface, she will look deep into your eyes and then she will gaze at your lips. The second kiss will answer all her questions.

A second is a measurement of time. For a lady, everything will unfold in the second kiss. That is all the time she needs to make a choice.

Christopher Lai has extensively studied women and the approach men should take when wooing them. He has just recently penned his first e-book, The Lai Detector: Innovative Methods on How to Approach a Lady.





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