This was the most

Unkindest cut of all.

– Shakespeare,Julius Caesar, III, 2

And Caesar was cut very deeply too, over and over by those in whom he placed great trust, even by his most trusted, Brutus. The last must have been the most unkind cut of all. But there are cuts and there are cuts, with the emotional cut often being more painful than the physical one.

A great source of pain is when one partner decides to call it quits on the relationship. There is no easy way to let down a person, no matter what words you may use, and the emotional trauma can last a lifetime. That’s why some men cannot handle it and resort to physical violence, sometimes with extreme prejudice.

I have seen people, women mostly, who never got over being left by their partners. Some never trusted another man, even if they got involved again, while others actually had a full-blown hatred for all men.

Once bitten, twice shy. But at least they were left for the more conventional reasons, such as the person found somebody else, the man stopped loving her, she got tired of him, or fled an abusive relationship. Those we hear of all the time. But when someone is left for more cruel reasons, then they can truly say that is the most unkind cut of all. We’ll find out what these are, right after these kind cuts regarding ‘No means no’.

Hi Tony,

As you stated, men do say no too, but rarely. When the woman says no, the man will whimper and whine and skulk away with his tail between his legs. On the other hand, when a man says no, the woman is outraged and cannot believe that she was rejected. As the saying goes, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. After all, females attract, males…. not so much.

Fernando

Teerob,

I love to tell men no. Why? Because I can. I love it when they try their silly tricks, their ploys, their ruses, their game plans, and then they beg. I still say no. It gives me great pleasure to watch them salivate and want me, but then cannot believe it when I say no. I say no because I have the power to do so.

Sheila

There’s a popular song by Kenny Rogers that goes,

You picked a fine time to leave me Lucille,

With four hungry children and a crop in the field.

I’ve had some bad times, lived through some sad times

But this time your hurting won’t heal.

You picked a fine time to leave me Lucille.

Leaving someone is all about timing. Nothing is wrong with leaving your spouse, as that happens all the time. If it didn’t, people wouldn’t meet other people and you wouldn’t meet the love of your life. But when that leaving comes at a bad time it can be even more devastating. “She picked the very worst time in my life to leave me, when I was down pon me face,” cry some men.

Just as that guy in the Kenny Rogers song lamented about that cruel woman, Lucille, she took a fine time to leave him when his life was at his lowest. Imagine, leaving him with four children and crop in the field to be reaped. Couldn’t she have waited until the kids grew up and the crop wasreaped? She didn’t think so. It’s all about timing.

I recently saw this article where the question was asked, “Would you leave your spouse if he or she suddenly became incapacitated?” The answers were varied, and also depended on the ages of the persons asked.

Most older folks said that they wouldn’t leave, sticking to their vow of ’til death do us part’, but more of the younger persons said that they probably would. “I couldn’t manage the burden of living with a paraplegic, plus I have my life to live.”

The irony is, there are persons who meet and marry physically challenged people and have no problem with it. But others want perfection and cannot live with anything or anyone who they perceive to be flawed.

I remember this lady who was on the brink of divorcing her husband, but he suffered a serious accident and lost a leg. Instead of going through with the divorce, she stayed with him for another year, nursing him until he recovered. It was only then that she left him. She was no Lucille, but made of fine stock and possessed old-time values.

I also know this lady whose husband suffered from Alzheimer’s from a very early age. She still loves and cares for him, even though close friends and family encourage her to put him in a facility and move on. Those women are built of noble stock.

Men leave women at bad times too, such as when they become pregnant. “I never signed on for any baby business. I’m outta here.” That happens a lot, as those worthless men pick a fine time to leave the hapless women, when they need them the most.

Then there are instances of men flying the coop, packing their bags and going, all because the woman gained weight. “I never married a fat woman. I married a slim woman. Bye.” Some men can be so cruel, and even leave women who have gained weight after having a child, his child, saying, “I can’t see why you can’t lose the baby weight, it’s been four years now.” It sounds incredible, but I personally know men who have done exactly that.

Some guys have incredible timing, like leaving the woman at the altar. It happens so often that some women in the USA have actually formed a jilted brides club. “He picked a fine time to leave her, right before he was to say ‘I do’.”

There are many Lucilles around, and women will pick a mighty fine time to leave their man, especially when his fortune changes. Make that, fortune disappears. “Til debt do us part,” is the vow that they swear by.

I have lost count of the women who have left their men because they lost their jobs, lost their money, or lost their fame. “Listen, I married a bank manager, not a fishmonger, so see ya.”

There’s this video that I saw that showed a couple meeting for dinner, as they both had something to say to each other. The guy, being a gentleman, told her to go ahead and speak first. Well, she certainly gave it to him, lambasting him about all his faults and how boring and terrible he was and that she wanted out of the relationship. He sat quietly and listened to her tirade. When she was finished she finally asked him, “So what was it you wanted to tell me?” He softly said, before he got up and left, “I won the lotto and wanted to share the good news with you… bye.” If only she had kept her big mouth shut, but at least he knew what she was about. It’s all about timing, and his timing was fine, hers was not.

Failing health is also a factor, especially with older men and younger women. There have been instances of men leaving their wives for younger women, then becoming suddenly ill, as is the habit of many older guys.

What does the young woman do? Pushes him in his wheelchair to his wife, saying, “Here, take him back. I can’t manage this crosses.” He may not be able to speak, but he certainly thinks, “You picked a fine time to leave me.”

Sometimes the man simply gets too old right before her very eyes and she decides to call it quits. “I just woke up one morning and asked myself, what am I doing with this old man? And left.” She picked a fine time to leave indeed.

Clearly it’s not the leaving alone that hurts, but the timing of it. Sometimes it’s when the person needs the other most that he or she leaves. Would you leave your spouse if things suddenly took a turn for the worse, such as physical deformity or loss of fortune? “In nature there’s no blemish but the mind; none shall be call’d deformed but the unkind.” That’s from

Twelfth Night. More time.

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Footnote: What in heaven’s name, or should I say hell’s name, is happening to our children? There is a dark scourge that is sweeping our youngsters away. When did the robbing and killing of children become the popular pastime of these so-called brave, strong, so called men? Weak, snivelling, cowardly men who prey on the weak and small for a cheap cellphone. Even thieves should have ambition, but those curs are at the bottom of the barrel.

I know in the USA those types of prisoners are scorned by the general prison population. School days are supposed to be fun filled and positive, a time when great memories are made. Instead, our children are fearful, not knowing who will be attacked next. But those cowardly thugs know who to target, for they wouldn’t dare mess with some schoolboys who I know.