Dear Editor,

In the aftermath of Hurricane Melissa emotions across Jamaica are as varied as the damage it left behind. Some are restless, immediately rushing to help, organise donations, and clear debris. Others feel immobilised, consumed by sadness or guilt, even if their parish was spared the worst. And then there are those quietly grateful that they survived, yet uneasy about that very gratitude.

Psychologically, this diversity of responses is expected. Disasters shake not only the physical foundations of homes but also the emotional balance of communities. People cope in different ways — through action, reflection, or even withdrawal. None of these reactions are “wrong”. They’re simply human.

For many Jamaicans, especially in parishes that escaped Melissa’s full impact, a quiet unease has crept in: Why am I okay when others are not? This is what psychologists call survivor’s guilt. It’s common after disasters — whether hurricanes, accidents, or pandemics. The guilt stems from empathy and a deep sense of shared humanity. But unchecked it can drain emotional energy and turn good intentions into self-blame.

The antidote? Gratitude without guilt. Influencer Rushane Campbell — known as RushCam — recently coined a powerful term: survivor’s grace. It’s a mindset that allows us to say, “I am thankful, I’m safe, and I will use that safety to do good without shame.” Grace shifts the focus from guilt to purpose. It honours your safety, not as a privilege to hide but as a platform to serve.

The Jamaican spirit of generosity is undefeated and once again has risen to the occasion. Across the island people have opened their homes, wallets, and hearts. Some have driven hours from Kingston to the southern and western parishes to deliver supplies. Others, including those in the Diaspora, have sent money and barrels of food and clothes.

But here’s the caution: Givers must pace themselves, a reminder to you and myself. Compassion fatigue is real. The need is vast, and takers — whether opportunistic or simply desperate — can have no limit. In times like these it’s easy to give until you are empty, physically, emotionally, and/or financially. Support can never fully satisfy every need, and that’s okay. This is not a sprint, it’s not even a cross-country race. It’s an all-island marathon.

Relief efforts must, therefore, be structured. Without coordination some survivors will receive supplies multiple times while others remain invisible. Before donating verify the credibility of groups or accounts online. Partner with established organisations — churches, municipal offices, and registered non-governmental organisations — to ensure accountability and reach.

If you’re in the Diaspora or a parish less affected and feel helpless because you haven’t yet given, pause. Emotional recovery and rebuilding take months, and based on the devastation of this Category Five hurricane it will possibly take years. You will still have opportunities to help.

Here’s how:

1) Adopt a long-term mindset: Plan to support a school, family, or community over time rather than reacting impulsively.

2) Coordinate, don’t duplicate: Work through legitimate local groups. Ask for proof of distribution or updates before sending more aid.

3) Travel smart: If you must deliver supplies yourself, travel in groups and avoid isolated areas. Connectivity is still unstable; prioritise safety.

4) Help with what you know: Teachers, psychologists, plumbers, electricians — all skills matter in the recovery stages ahead.

Dr Olivia Rose

Sports and performance psychologist

oliviakrose@yahoo.com