How to identify a mature man

Men mature much more slowly than women do, and as such it's important that if your goal is settling down, for example, your pickings are carefully assessed. So what are the signs that a man is mature and ready to take life seriously?

He communicates clearly what he is about and what he wants for his life

If the man you are with has a hard time communicating, it doesn't mean he is immature. It is when he is lost about who he is and what he wants that the real problem sets in. A man should know who he is and what he desires for his life and should have a blueprint for how he is going to get it. If a man cannot lead, then the relationship is in crisis.

He takes responsibility

A man must be in control of his life to head a healthy relationship. If he is irresponsible with the decisions he makes, or how he spends money and how he lives, he is not fully able to give you the relationship you're seeking as a woman.

His circle includes mature men

This is not an age thing, but rather the level of thinking and plans. A mature man is about setting the foundation for his family and taking care of his home, and ensuring he is his woman's backbone. His circle must match this as whatever a man surrounds himself with is a reflection of where he is mentally.

He sets out to learn new things

A man who is emotionally in-tune with himself will desire growth on several levels. A man who states that he is set in his ways and he is quite comfortable at the level he is at needs more time to mature.

He listens and respects boundaries

A man who is emotionally mature will show respect at all times especially when communicating with his woman and he will give her the space she requires with respect because he loves her and understands her.

By Miss Kes

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