Little white deceptions

NO matter how we're warned that lies, untruths, falsehoods, and deception have no place in a loving, healthy relationship, it's human nature to want to keep some things dear to our chests, and not reveal them, lest our partners think less of us. For some people these secrets run deep, deep, for others, they are mere inconveniences that may not even cause a stir if they're told. But, still, they hold on to them, just in case they're weaponised in any arguments or discussions the couple may have.

What would you want to tell your spouse, but you know it would ruin everything? For these young women, taking their secrets to the grave is a decision they're intent on following through on.

Shelly-Ann, 23:

I dated my boyfriend's brother, who died in an accident, and he doesn't know. It was a very hot, brief, sexual relationship, and we loved each other for the short time, then in an instant he was gone. I met his brother at the nine-night, and as far as he knows, I was just one of his brother's many friends from university. In a way they're so alike that there was an instant connection, but I can't tell him how close his brother and I really were, and my secret is safe,because no one else really knew about us.

Kahirah, 25:

I had an abortion when we just started talking because it was just too soon, and I didn't know him well enough at all. But we've been together three years now, and sometimes I regret it because he's a good guy. I could never tell him that I did it and then came home and chatted with him like nothing happened, although it would be nice to unburden on someone one day.

Telly, 21:

I can't stand him most times — the heavy cologne, the smothering hugs, the hair on his body, and the fact that he's uncircumcised. It's such a turn-off, but I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings. I also think he's kinda ghetto, and I really don't know why we're still together, except maybe I just pity him.

Shay, 21:

He wasn't my first, or even my second, and he's so inexperienced and simple-minded, and I can't understand how he hasn't figured it out. I'd love to teach him all that I know, but he's very conservative and I love him, so I give him links to articles on pleasing women, but he just doesn't get it. He's frustrating, but an ideal partner otherwise.

Stephanie, 28:

He doesn't know that I have a daughter who lives in the country with my mother. He thinks the child I buy stuff for is my niece. I didn't expect us to be together so long, so I didn't tell him at first because I didn't want the single mother judgement. Now it's too late, and I don't know how to drop the news of my child on him because there will be too many questions and nothing will be the same after that gets out.


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