Relationship icks

PEOPLE online have been sharing their icks in everything — from their jobs to their kids to their relationships — a trend that has taken off so much, that a few nurses in the US even got fired for disclosing the things that annoyed them about their job. An ick, according to the Cambridge Dictionary, is used to express a feeling of shock or dislike that makes you feel sick — something that's a turn-off. So what are your relationship icks? Is it on the petty side, and could ruin what's otherwise a good thing, or is it something that just kills your feelings for your partner altogether?

Stephanie, 35:

It's his kissing — it's like he wants to drown me, and try as I might, I haven't been able to teach him how to do it right. Ironically, it was his lips that first attracted me to him, but homeboy just doesn't know how to use them properly. And unfortunately for me, it's not just mouth kisses that are icky, the 'slobberlicious' behaviour continues when he's being more intimate too, and I always have to shower afterwards, because his DNA is all over me. He's an OK man otherwise and I have no complaints, so I just see it as my burden in life to bear.

Aleesha, 30:

He thinks that because we're now married and living together it gives him permission to be gross, and it's so disgusting. He loves gummy bears and snacks on them constantly, and that's his business and his thing, except that they give him horrible gas. So every time he snacks, a few hours later he's delivering these stink bombs all over the house, and his episodes last for hours. I have called him out on it so many times, and have told him how much this behaviour turns me off, but he says it's his comfort food and he can't resist.

Karla, 43:

Him never grow good, so I've been cursed with a poor communicator who's a narcissist and who gaslights me. He doesn't know how to treat women, and all these are just a reflection of the fact that his mother didn't care, and he had an absentee father. So now I'm basically mothering my grown ass husband, and teaching him how to be a man, in the way I'd teach a son.

Powell, 31:

She no longer shaves — mind you, this is not who I married and she found Jesus after we married, because no way would I have put up with this otherwise. So she went to a crusade and got saved, which is all good and well for saving herself from hell or whatever, but the doctrines of her new church are so Puritanical that it's driving us apart. I don't know what problems the church has with razors, scissors and shears, but my wife has been embracing her natural side, and no longer shaves or waxes. I feel like someone sneaked and put a puss in my bag, AFTER I bought the bag with no puss inside.

Dontae, 37:

For a woman, a petite woman at that, she has some very manly habits. I wouldn't say they're turn-offs yet, because we're still in the love stage of the relationship, but I can see where this could be a problem. She can eat— she eats like a starving horse, then she will burp, and then retire to bed, where she snores like a truck all night. She's cute and everything, but it's like living with a dude.


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