The deep, dark secret that could end our relationship

SOME experts will tell you that confession is good for the soul, and you and your partner should share all, leaving no secrets in the dark. Others say that what your partner doesn’t know won’t hurt them, and some secrets are better left untold. Many of us are holding on to secrets, some so bad that if our partners found out it could end our relationships and marriages. What’s the skeleton in your closet?

KA, 39:

I was involved with my boyfriend’s father for about four months before I met my boyfriend. His father has not said anything to him and neither have I. But I fear some day he may confess to his son and I am sure that will be the end of us.

GW , 42:

I got pregnant in high school and aborted it. Then four years ago I was involved with someone, got pregnant, and I again aborted it because I am married and the child was not for my husband.

BJ, 26:

I have been involved with this man for about seven months now, but he doesn’t know that I work in a sex shop and do sensual massages for a living. That is how I support my daughter.

CF, 35:

My husband and I have been trying for years to have children but I cannot tell him the truth — that I did a backdoor abortion when I was younger and that is why I cannot get pregnant because it caused a lot of damage inside of me.

OW, 44:

I was married for 13 years and my husband molested my 11-year-old daughter. Yes, his own daughter. She didn’t want me to report it because she was afraid of people finding out. But of course I put him out. Now he is involved with a woman with two children. One is a girl. Every day I’m tempted to warn her, but sometimes people feel that it’s because you’re jealous and want to destroy their relationship why you’re saying certain things.

SR, 21:

My daughter is now two years old. I cannot tell anybody who her father really is — a big overseer in the church, married for 36 years with four children. I was a teenager when I got pregnant. But if I say anything it could destroy the church and his family. But he takes care of her.

V, 39:

I cheated on my husband for years with one person, and I’m still involved with him.