Secrets he’s keeping from you
WHO are the biggest secret-keepers in relationships? What are the secrets they won’t tell? We’ve always been told that women are good at not spilling the beans, especially about their pasts, to make themselves look better to potential mates. But men do keep major skeletons in the closet too.
The men below admit to keeping secrets for various reasons, including that they don’t believe their partners could handle the truth, they fear their partners would end the relationship, or they just can’t handle the interrogation that would follow.
What have they been keeping their partners in the dark about?
Rufus:
I needed to take the blue pills whenever we had to do it. I am diabetic and it caused me to develop erectile dysfunction so I depended heavily on them. When I realised the pills were messing with my heart, I basically became the devil to her until she eventually got fed up with me and left me. In hindsight, perhaps I should have seen a specialist from the beginning, but at the time I was too angry.
Vaughn:
My mom doesn’t like her and luckily for us, my mom doesn’t reside in Jamaica so it isn’t that difficult to conceal. However, I did let her believe that my mom is concerned and asks about her all the time. The good thing is she hasn’t found out and I am happy I have been able to keep the distance between them.
Horatio:
I do not love her. I stayed with her because she is loyal and she supported me through a very difficult period, but there is no spark. She thinks we have something magical, but it hurts me every day knowing that what would hurt her most is if those words ever left my mouth.
S:
I was dating her friend, and yes, it included the naughty while I was with her. It just started as something friendly, but then we were head over heels real quick. The chemistry was high and the physics and biology followed soon after. I later found out they were friends when my girlfriend mentioned her name. I thought about revealing it, wanted to, but the friend asked me not to. Looking back, I am sure my partner would have made me out to be the villain if I had told her.
Dane:
I was basically maintaining two homes within metres of each other. I told my girlfriend that the other woman was just a friend and convinced her that my job demanded that I communicate with people, and so if she couldn’t handle people spreading a few rumours or respect that I need to communicate with clients, then we would never be happy. The truth is, I fathered two children with the woman and my girlfriend still doesn’t know, and I don’t know if I am ready to tell her this.
Kelme:
I didn’t tell her that I didn’t only entertain conversations with a girl who liked me, but we also went on a few dates.
Michael:
I am yet to tell my partner that I sometimes need to be on medication in order to keep myself mentally in check. She thinks I am diabetic, but I have struggled with a number of mental illnesses including depression. I have been to the point of suicide. I have never tried to hurt others, though, but I don’t believe I am ready to open that can of worms. I just don’t think that I am there yet.
