Don’t say this to a new partner
Kibba yuh mout’ is a phrase best reserved for situations like when you’re just getting to know a new partner – there are some questions and revelations that are strictly taboo. Not all details of a person’s past is your business, and they shouldn’t want you to reveal every little detail either.
Here are five statements and queries that should remain off the 20-questions list.
1. “My ex was so good in bed!”
Your ex should never be brought up in a conversation where your current partner feels threatened or compared to. Limit the amount of discussions surrounding your ex and what you used to do in your past relationship.
2. “I’m not the committed type”
This can surely kill the chemistry. If you are not into commitment, stay away from any relationship that demands that you be. Even in jest, you must ensure you limit what you say as a sign of respect.
3. “What’s your body count?”
Asking your new partner how many sex partners they’ve had is extremely disrespectful. A person is entitled to share what they desire and withhold what they desire. When you ask a question such as this, it immediately casts judgment. Be respectful and over time if the person desires to open up about that side of their past, they will.
4. “I love attention and if I don’t get it, I flip”
Seeking attention from someone you are head over heels for is normal. What is unacceptable is demanding that people give you attention when you need it, how you need it, all the time. Although you’re in a relationship, you must always be reminded that we are all autonomous creatures. No one is hooked to anyone else and as such, when someone gives you their time, be grateful instead of demanding.
5. “When I am in my zone, I don’t want anyone around me”
It is quite understandable that people need personal space, but to tell someone that you need them to stay away is a sure way to keep them away from you.
