Dating the two-faced Gemini

IF you were born between May 21 and June 20 then you’re a Gemini, symbolised by the twins, who on one hand are said to be gentle, affectionate and open-minded, and on the other, literally and figuratively two-faced, fickle, indecisive and outright liars.

Those who’ve dated them can’t shake the duality of the sign’s representation — some Geminis are said to be shady, while others are the ultimate romantics at heart. What has been your experience dating a Gemini?

The Gemini man

Alicia:

Very romantic at first — on the border of romantic and jealously psychotic, in fact, then when you don’t meet the ideal of you that they’ve created in their head, they ghost you. This man is the definition of hot and cold, and you’ll wonder what you did to make him transform from Mr Wonderful, to someone who can literally pass you on the street and act like he never knew you.

Jodi:

They’re very, very cruel and when they turn off you, that’s it, no amount of pleading will change their mind. A Gemini man will tell you, ‘this is not working out’, even though everything was OK yesterday, and he will sit there stone-faced while you cry, and say you can still be friends. In essence, don’t overestimate your importance to a Gemini, because you will think you’re the one, when you’re not even on their list.

Anne:

They have mommy issues, so don’t pick any man from this sign who had any past problems with his mother, because he will transfer all those ‘isms’ onto his relationship with you. So if his mom was horrible, he will think all women are bad, and if his mom was good, you’d better be able to do everything like she did, because he wants a second mom, not a mate.

Julia:

They lie like sheet pon bed. The simplest things they will lie about, and when you provide evidence to the contrary, they will find a way to gaslight you over it, and if you’re not level headed, you’ll wonder if you’re losing it. Master manipulators is what they are, and the biggest gaslighters and emotional terrorists.

The Gemini woman

Khari:

If you are important to her then she will be loyal, if not, she will destroy you and laugh about how you could have the audacity to think you were a couple. Big man will be sitting at a bar bawling, listening to Unbreak My Heart playing on the sound system, because a Gemini woman clowned him.

De’Andre:

They can be amazing women, but they’re also immature and unable to accept responsibility. So it’s all about saving their butts, no matter who they lie to or lie about in the process. They’re also fickle and can change their minds about you fast — so never get too invested in them, because they won’t reciprocate your affection, and they will have no issue disposing of you once they feel you no longer serve a purpose in their life.

Kevin:

These women are detectives — they will go through your things like they get some thrill from knowing everything. It’s like they can’t bear to not be in the know. My ex called all the women in my phone, so she could verify our status. It was just this constant detective show during our relationship.

Leon:

They have issues with commitment and will cheat right in front of your face, then lie about it. You know how long we all thought that my aunt’s ‘cousin’ was an actual relative? She had the man coming to visit in his truck every Friday, and we never caught on until she left my uncle to go live with him, and thought it was a big joke. And I’ve dated several women like her and it was all the same — they’re dishonest and have commitment issues and will fool you so well, that you’ll go along with their foolishness without even realising that you get chop.