Men from hell

LAST week we heard from four men who described women from hell — those demons who did them the worst — cheating, pinning babies on them, and telling the worst lies to malign their characters. This week we hear from the women, with stories about the men who truly broke their hearts and generated their trust issues.

What’s the worst thing a man has done to you?

Paula, 37:

He said he liked me, liked my body, liked that I was bigger and comfortable in my skin. He said he loved that I didn’t subscribe to the ideal of thin being better, and he loved my confidence and it was attractive and empowering. We dated for two years, then got engaged. All the while he was my rock, my comfort, my biggest supporter. One day his sister said she had something to tell me, as she felt guilty. She said her brother wasn’t as ‘woke’ as he claimed. He had only started dating me because his friends dared him to ask the ‘big girl’ out, and that he was actually embarrassed about my size and had no plans to actually marry me. In fact, she said he had met with his whole family and had a breakdown while trying to find a way to get out of the engagement because he didn’t want to hurt me. Initially, I thought she was lying, but when I confronted him he admitted that he was too scared, embarrassed, to say anything to me, and I was a nice girl who deserved better, but his preference was thinner women. That truly broke my heart because it wasn’t like I went out looking for this man. He did all the chasing and everything and gained my trust, then hurt me in the worst way possible.

Samantha, 36:

The man I was in love with, in a relationship with, introduced my family to, celebrated events with, and planned to marry, had a whole wife and family that I didn’t know about. Hurt doesn’t even begin to describe it. Worse, he denied it even after I showed him the proof a mutual friend had sent me, and tried to gaslight me. He so believed in his lie that I think he truly believed, deep down, that he was single.

Abby, 30:

Every single man I have been with, from my first boyfriend at 18, got married to someone else right after breaking up with me. Even the ones who were not the “marrying types”. It truly shatters your confidence to know that you’re not someone’s “fit”, and all you’re good for is to date and not marry.

Sabrina, 38:

He was moving abroad for a job, and I didn’t believe in long distance relationships so I suggested we break it off. He said no, he would pay for me to visit him occasionally and also try to get me a work permit so I could join him soon. About four months after he left it was time for my first visit, and all went well. When I landed in Jamaica, though, I saw a text message from him, telling me that we weren’t going to work out, and he had met someone else. It’s the fact that he made me waste my time, even when I had doubts, that still triggers me today.